she needs freedom.

[funky]

so i will try to make this short , we were together for about 3 - 4 months , we spent a lot of time together and about a week back she went to Austria for a few weeks to learn languages as she told me and suddenly i get this email that she has thought about this a lot and she is better by herself , like being free and that its my fault and that i am not the one for her.
BUT THIS kinda came out of nowhere , i feel shitty right now.
this can probably be turned around with a little help i suppose

[Sweet Spirit]

Funky,
What did she say was your fault, or what is she blaming you for?

[funky]

well i was like teasing her a couple of times and i was playing like that but she didn't like that... and shes blaming me because of these small things -.-

[Sweet Spirit]

Well you didn't know her well and maybe she's a bit sensitive so just let her go for now. Search your heart and decide if you really want to attract getting to know her better (and I say "getting to know her better" because 3-4 months isn't all that long to really know a person.)

For right now, accept that you may not be the one for her. You want to attract someone who thinks that you ARE the one for her; and like I said, search your heart to find out if she is the one you really want.

Good luck! We are all here for you!

[funky]

okay , thanks I'll try to figure it out , but i would like to be back with her but now its not possible , because of what she wrote and because she is away ^^
so if i want to be with her i should attract getting to know her , and if not i should try to attract someone else , maybe better !?

[Sweet Spirit]

Yes. You have it right. Other members may want to comment on your situation and offer advice that is different from mine so hear what they have to say as well. In addition, listen and feel what your heart is telling you, and your heart will lead you in the right direction. Don't listen to your mind because it will tell you negative things. Your heart knows the truth and will never steer you wrong. In the meantime, I would not advise contacting her because you don't want to drive her farther away.

Love and blessings to you!

[funky]

i wouldnt contact her anyway , i can live with or without her i have learned that its easier if u act like u dont care
so yeah , wanna read what others have to say

[2thetop]

for me sweet nailed it on the head, listen to your heart, filter out the chitter chatter in your head to hear your heart. 


much love to you

[funky]

thanks , all i know is that i want to get back together with her and keep it that way.
so i shouldn't contact her , what can i do while she is still away ?
maybe there are some books that could help with this kind of stuff ?

[guruinterviews]

You can definitely win her back. It may be best to give her a little space for now... but I do believe you can definitely win her back. You can do it!

[funky]

so i should for now live with that kinda mindset , right !?
use visualization , stuff like that ?
but at the same time keep on living my own life and eventually it will happen ?

[funky]

what can i do in my free time ,what can i do to help attract her ?
i guess just being patient won't do...

[funky]

waiting for advice ...

[RealCrimsonDynamo]

What are the things that you would do with her if you were together?  What is keeping you from doing those things by yourself or with other friends?  That's how you should use your free time.  Come up with a goal.  Could be financial or personal.  Something that is going to make you grow and something that will be a benefit to you even if she does or does not come back. 

[funky]

What are the things that you would do with her if you were together?  What is keeping you from doing those things by yourself or with other friends?  That's how you should use your free time.  Come up with a goal.  Could be financial or personal.  Something that is going to make you grow and something that will be a benefit to you even if she does or does not come back.

like i should put her aside for a while and focus more on my own life for now ?
thanks ^^