Relationship, LOA and fears

[Moonpetal]

Help needed here.. Any advice is much appreciated..

Well, I am dating a guy I like really much. And he likes me too. Yay! It's a long distance thing which has it's negatives and positives but that all ends up balanced somehow.  The thing is, I am very worried about where this is going in the future and all that worry causes a lot of bad behaviour on my part which in turn manifests itself as stressful situations between us. And everybody from my environment keep telling me to leave this behind, move on and find somebody else and even though I do not want to, all  that tends to stick inside my thoughts and cause more worries. What if they are right and I am wrong? What if this will never become what I want it to? What if I end up being hurt and bla bla bla... I am the type of person who believes anything is possible but when getting so much negative feedback from people around me who think I'm wasting my time and that combined with my own worries, that causes so much stress and fears and sadness...

I like him and he likes me. I want this to evolve into something deeper and stronger. I want to apply LOA to do this but don't know how to deal with these things mentioned above and what steps should I actually take.

Nowadays it has become popular to say that "there are a lot of fish in the sea" but if I would go about and live my life like that, I feel like I would be missing on the chance to create something beautiful with somebody I really love. I know that relationships don't come all packed up and sorted out and I do not want to date around when I already have in my life a man that I absolutely adore and best of all, he responds to me in the same way!

But it's still in the dating phase.. And I want it to move on from that phase..

 

[lashark]

Well the think about fear is, we get so caught up in how "bad" it is, we begin to focus on how to not be scared or think negatively and that only gives it more power.
Dont avoid it, dont ignore it, dont force yourself to move through it.

Just notice it and once youre aware its happening, use it as an indictator to shift your focus to either what you do want or to something else that is joyful for you to focus on.

It sounds like everything is great this guy feels the same for you, why not just set up a monthly visit or so. I have friends in long distance relationships and they are all doing good, one of my friends meets him once a month the other decided to visit when she can and if they can make it through the long distance thing for a cpl years they decided they are getting married, both are pretty happy. Sounds lik you have a good thing in your life, amplify the good things, dont amplify the bad things, that only holds you away from getting what you truly want.

[Moonpetal]

Thank you a lot! I will do as you suggest! A monthly visit is not possible since we really live veeery far away, he works a lot and I do too and don't have as much money to travel but arrangements are being made for the next visit so when the visit comes, it comes...