relationship, ex girlfriend or boyfriend

[Mylife]

Hmm so much pain, grief, loss, crying over lost relationships.
Many want their ex back and wishing for the best.
Remote control, remote view, visualizing, visionboards, affirmations, subliminal messages and so on.
Still nothing works for the most of us.

I guess the whole coming back with your ex depends on how much you can let go, and I mean really let go.
Get rit of everything you have from him or her, all pictures, all gifts, everything that reminds you of her/him.

You have to get in a don't care mode in order for things to work.
Even date some other, that is mostly when your ex comes back when you don't care anymore.
Even long distance relationships and when you don't had contact for years.
Even then it can happen that the one you loved so much will be sending you that message, you have been waiting for.

When you are busy with doing all things like mentioned above, you are in a situation of sadness, pain, hurt, because you are doing that all in order to get her or him back.
Ask yourself this question: Would I be doing this all when we were together?
The only good answer is ; no.

So forget about her or him and enjoy everything else, that's when the magic kicks in and you be surprised to find out your ex has send you that message or text message you or you got an email from him or her.

Be honest, would you be visualizing, and using everything that is out there when you are together!!!

[Mylife]

And something else: For all the remote stuff to get your ex back and so on.
How would you feel if an old ex, you absolutely don't want to be with, uses those things to attract you back, would you love her or him, or eventually hate him or her more?
I mean if it is meant to be, she or he will be back and if not, it was never meant to be anyway.
Let real love bring you two back together and not some hocus pocus, what in the end will backfire and even make everything worse.
So let your heart speak and do things it was made for and your spirit will have the answers.
Get him or her of that pedestal and put yourself there.

I read a line somewhere that says it all:

If the love of your life doesn't wash for a week, she or he smells just like you when you don't wash yourself for a week.
When they go to the toilet, they smell like everyone else
When they are sick, they have a bad mood like everyone else

And many more, so don't beat yourself up that much, in the end they are people just like me and you!

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I needed this

[Mylife]

And who knows you end up with someone way much better than the girl/man of your dreams, because they will be real!
And not some dream you have about her or him.
And to be very honest, if they have someone else, or had someone else in the meanwhile, there is someone out there, someone who is really sick and tired of your dream woman, dream man!, no matter if he or she is miss or mister universe, or the hottest man/woman in town, there is someone who doesn't think of them that way but are really sick or their little problems, thingy's, etc.
The biggest mistake we all make is that we romantisize the relationship we had.
We forget all the trouble, fights, flaws, mistakes, not so good times, the things they forget to support you, or just send a quick hello and all things that makes it not so great.
We only see the good things, the love, and all the things YOU did.
But forget the things you wished they had done, or would do, but never did!

What does it mean love actually?
You love her/his smile, her/his smell, her/his ways of doing things.
But would you still love her/him when he or she is really sick, trowing up, smelling of laying days bed of sickness, have bad days?
Would they love you as much when you have all that, or would they be like, he wash yourself, hey clean that up etc.
That is normals day live but we forget all that because we only see the good things.
But many of us never even know if they would be still loving us so much when we are sick, helpless, bad mood, not in the mood and so on.

Love is love the one you are with even in the bad times and unlucky for many that even doesn't count.
So what is the love of your life?