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tereza · « **on:** July 09, 2011, 09:36:12 PM »

For the past couple of weeks, I had been exchanging emails with my guy. The last letter I sent him was on Tuesday and I haven't heard from him since. I'm worried that I may have offended him with something I had wrote.

Should I send another email asking if he's alright or should I just leave him be?

Sevens · « **Reply #1 on:** July 09, 2011, 10:14:53 PM »

I think what most people would say here is trust in the process and believe =D

Just leave him be and put out positive vibrations on yourself

Miracles · « **Reply #2 on:** July 10, 2011, 12:28:51 AM »

Quote from: tereza on July 09, 2011, 09:36:12 PM

Should I send another email asking if he's alright or should I just leave him be?

Dear tereza,

I agree with Sevens, Do not send him another email asking him anything.. Never mind how he feels now, if he doesn't answer your second email, YOU will feel horrible!! and the main goal here is that YOU FEEL GREAT!!

Do not try to control the outcome so much.. I know it's natural to expect him to reply to your email.. but believe me, if you trust a little bit more, and have a bit more patience, somehow, sometime, the universe will SURPRISE you!

Let go, Continue living happily detached, and prepare to be surprised!

Sweet Spirit · « **Reply #3 on:** July 10, 2011, 02:55:32 AM »

Sevens and Miracles,
What GREAT advice!

Tereza, you should not worry that you wrote something that may have offended him. You know full well that worrying will only give you more to worry about. Also, I have to agree with Miracles in that if you sent him another e-mail and he did not respond, you would feel even worse and you want to feel better; not worse. I know its hard not hearing back from him for such a long time. I've been there myself; but in between the worry, I knew everything would be just fine no matter what the outcome; and so it WAS!!

Let it go and focus on YOU and whatever brings you happiness APART from him.

We are all here for you!!

Love and blessings to you!

tereza · « **Reply #4 on:** July 10, 2011, 04:03:55 AM »

Wow! Thanks for the replies Sevens, Miracles and Sweet Spirit (glad to see you around again

!

This is a different perspective than what I had been thinking of and I'm glad I asked because I think everyone is right. I'm trying to control the outcome and I should relax and let go. It'll be fine.

anamarie74 · « **Reply #5 on:** July 10, 2011, 04:56:33 AM »

Tereza, I'm so glad you asked! All the good advice that was offered to you also helped me in my situation! It's hard for me to relax, and let it go. You're right though, It'll be fine!

tereza · « **Reply #6 on:** July 10, 2011, 05:00:36 AM »

Glad to hear you found the answers you were looking for Anamarie!

Yay! Time for a party in my thread!

Pinkypink · « **Reply #7 on:** July 10, 2011, 05:12:06 AM »

Great advice from the girls Tereza!
I totally agree ~ hold your head high and just go n have some fun doing other things- don't worry about what he is thinking coz you will never know!
I think guys generally don't like it when a girl says the old "Are you alright" hehe
Luv,
Pinky

tereza · « **Reply #8 on:** July 10, 2011, 05:28:43 AM »

Good point Pinky!

Believing Love · « **Reply #9 on:** July 10, 2011, 05:58:25 AM »

Sweet Spirit .. Melanie, I miss you !!

Tereza,

dont worry about the emails,because if you do, you're giving the power back to his hand..
Let go and focus on your self.

=)

tereza · « **Reply #10 on:** July 11, 2011, 08:13:47 PM »

Thanks Believing Love!

Guess what everyone? He wrote back yesterday!

The pros: He wrote on his day off, which is pretty awesome cause he usually writes when he's at work and trying to kill time. So yay! He was thinking of me in his free time! He also was totally ok and not offended or anything.

The cons: What the heck took him so long!!! Oh and did I really need to know some cute girl complimented him? Whatever.

I'm so glad I didn't send another email asking how he was. It clearly wasn't necessary. Thanks everyone!

Sweet Spirit · « **Reply #11 on:** July 12, 2011, 12:41:55 AM »

I am so psyched for you Tereza! That is such great news!!!!!

Quote from: tereza on July 11, 2011, 08:13:47 PM

The cons: What the heck took him so long!!! Oh and did I really need to know some cute girl complimented him? Whatever.

HOWEVER,,,,,,,,,

You know better than to see cons in all this!!

Everything is a PRO girl!!
It shouldn't matter how long it took, only that he wrote back!! This should be considered an exercise in patience and you passed the test. You were strong not to contact him so be proud of yourself and grateful too!!

And as for the girl who complimented him? Don't worry about it. At least he has some qualities that are worthy of compliments and that should make you feel good.

@Tereza and Believing Love,
Thank you......I have missed all of you too. Life is good and my relationship is getting better...............

Love you all!!!!!!!

bravelioness · « **Reply #12 on:** July 12, 2011, 08:48:41 AM »

I have a situation similar to that of tereza's.I'm worried b/c I haven't heard from my friend for weeks now.I tried texting him or sending him a message via FB chat but still he didn't respond.I started to worry about things like did I piss him off blah blah.I sought help from our friends from this forum & they said that he might just be stressed or having a bad day that I shouldn't worry & that he's gonna respond soon.I decided to leave him be for the meantime,going online during the day as to avoid chatting with him b/c he goes online at night but I continued sending him loving & caring vibes.I spent time with other friends too.Recently,I saw in his FB wall that he's stressed & sad.A lot of his friends sent comforting words & I'm always the last to respond & my words are the most catchy,comforting,& helpful.Today,he responded in his wall post.I'm sure he wasn't angry.I'm glad though he responded but I'm not sure if I was included in the list of people to whom he responded lovingly.

What other advice can you give me in my situation?Am I on the right track or something?Thanks!Missed you all.

tereza · « **Reply #13 on:** July 12, 2011, 09:34:40 AM »

Sweet Spirit, you're absolutely right, everything is a pro.

I'm glad you brought that up because I think that was another lesson I needed to learn today as I also got an email from the Secret Scrolls thing and it said to be mindful of criticism. So I'm going to focus on the positives in this situation...it's great that I got to hear from him and I'm glad that he's happy.

Bravelioness, I'm sure you were included in the list of people he responded to. I think it was nice that you sent him encouraging words and when he's feeling better I'm sure he'll get in touch. I don't think there's anything else you need to do right now.

bravelioness · « **Reply #14 on:** July 12, 2011, 12:44:09 PM »

Good news!He replied but just a yes or no answer.This may be baby steps but I got to admit that I'm kinda disappointed but hey.Better than no reply at all.I chatted with him.It was a good conversation & it ended up with me saying that we're all there for him & that he shouldn't hesitate to call/chat/text when he needs something.I also said that it was nice chatting with him after not hearing from him for quite sometime.Then I wished him well.I didn't force him to open up further b/c I think it might end up irritating him further or pushing him away.I took it lightly.Meanwhile,I also gave time to my other friends.Was it a good progress?Did I do the right thing?Any advice?Thank you all!