please any advice--- i am low :(

[crazysoul]

i think everyone knows already that my ex contacted me yesterday and posted 2 lovesongs which we both loved and listened to. and sent me a friend request and i confirmed that, but didnt answer to his message.

i need advices or someone to talk to, different opinions, cause i am really confused and down right now
since my best friend died last month, i really need you to help me...

today he posted another 2 songs, but this time they were about a breaking realtionship and it doesnt work out etc.... nothing positive at all.
yes- they are for me- i am his only friend beside an old lady and he deleted his old account.


i dont know whats right anymore----

sorry, but i am really low.
 

[Stefzilla]

Hey,

I have only been on this forum for about a week and a half so i dont know the entire story. I am just wondering how long ago did this break up happen, and from what i am feeling it wasnt based on anything major.

[crazysoul]

Hey,

I have only been on this forum for about a week and a half so i dont know the entire story. I am just wondering how long ago did this break up happen, and from what i am feeling it wasnt based on anything major.

[Stefzilla]

The problem is you both had some very big issues to deal with very early in your relationship. You both have a connection to each other, but he had issues to deal with and then your friend passed away so that was also very hard on you both. He added you to FB, i know it doesnt sound like much, but why do that if you dont want that person to be in your life. He is also posting songs and keeping contact.

What needs to happen is to start fresh, leave all the pain in the past and just try to bring the relationship back to what made you both attracted to each other. I have seen this happen before, people are great together but something happens early on and scares one of them, so now they associate the pain and all that hurt with the person instead of seeing the bigger picture.

I can honestly tell you he cares, best thing to do is keep it light and happy. Try to talk about fun things and positives , once things start getting better why not try to see him again. Plan a vacation, to go somewhere you both will enjoy. I know its hard being long distance but I dont see why this cant work out.

[crazysoul]

i got over this pain already.... and i was never angry at him cause i am able to feel his soul and heart. he never did something on purpose.

and i know he needs a big healing, he doesnt love hisself and he cant understand why someone should love him

i really do appreciate your help

[Stefzilla]

Dont react to FB things in a negative way. Wait a few days and post something nice, doesnt have to be love songs, but something you both have in common. Be there for him, let him open up to you and gain that trust that you want to help him and can help him.

Im a guy, i can tell you he cares about you, he has personal issues to deal with and if you are there to help him and support him he will love you even more.

[crazysoul]

thank you so much- you are an angel

i feel already better, asked the universe to show me the direction i have to go... and got the answer.