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Hi, i hope you can help,

i have been reading all the threads on how to attract your ex back but was wondering if anyone had any other advice for my specific situation..i would be soo grateful for any advice.

my ex boyfriend and i were going out for 2 yrs and in may he broke up with me for no reason said he didnt know if he wanted a girlfriend anymore, this was last june , i didnt contact him then 2 weeks later he contacted me and wanted to get back together. we were hardly back together 2 weeks and he breaks up with me by TEXT!!!i tried to ring him once after i got the text and he didnt answer..that was in august and i did not contact him since, i sent him a text in january saying i hoped he was well and good luck in a work placement he had gotten and he did not reply.i am still friendly with his mother and she met up with me before christmas and she could not understand why he broke up with me . i thought that by not contacting him he would regret his decision and contact me but 9 months later and nothing~ then last saturday night i ran into him after a night out!!!

i went straight up to him and was pleasant and just said 'hey how are u? how is college etc and he suddenly said 'my mum said u sent me a txt sorry i didnt reply my phone has been really weird the last few months and im not getting txt messages (because after i got no reply from him n january when i sent him the good luck txt ,i txt his mum to double check i had the right number and she said 'i told him u said good luck, he said thanks' and i left it at thta because i genuinely did wish him luck). i just said 'no problem i just wanted to wish you luck because we've known eachother too long not to be civil and i just wanted to wish u luck'.

that night when i bumped into him i had been out with my friends celebrating my 21st birthday 2 weeks early (my bday isnt till the 30th and i bumped into him in burger king after the night club. when he spotted me he looked sooo shocked!! he asked me what night club i had been in and who i was out with and i said we were out celebrating my bday early and he said 'yeah sur eyour birthday isnt until the 30th and i said 'ha look who remembers...and he said  'there are some things u cant forget'....then i cant remember exactly what he mentioned about the breakup but i just asked smiling like i wasnt upset or angry 'why didnt you say it to my face and he said 'it would have been way too hard i couldnt do it' so i just said smiling 'u werent man enough' and then i just changed the subject asking how his mum was. it was so funny caus i had been imaging in my head what i would do if i did bump into him and at last i got my chance:-)

it was strange when i was talking to him i didnt feel anger or hate, im so glad i was able to go up to him and talk calmly and honsetly it wasnt that awkward but i felt so sad that we got on and from our coversation on saturday night still do get on well and i only live an hour away that we still cnt be together.

the thing is i dont wnat him back because i am depending on him to be happy etc. i know i can be happy without him and ive really learned this in the 9 months we have been apart so maybe the breakup was positive in that way that i was able to realise that i am the only one who is responsible for my own happiness and i have been able to start thinking much more positively, this took time though for months after the break up all i was thinking was 'what is wrong with me?

i have been out with other guys but its just not the same. is there anything i can do to help us get back together. i think he is going out with a new girl since january or december but i dont know how serious it is..he didnt mention her on sat night. after i said goodbye to him he looked shocked and a bit bothered because all his friends that i know through him were being so nice to me and giving me so much attention.

i am hoping and imagining everyday that he will txt me on my birthday (30th of may) and i will be down in his home town (where i lived when i wnet to colllege for 3 years) again that weekend !st june for a friends birthday and i would just loe if we could meet up and talk. my dad said that im better off without him and that he is my ex for a reason but i keep saying to myself that we can get back together and i am trying to use the creation process of the secret to imagine us back together. i have honestly forgiven him now for braking up with me by txt i just think taht maybe he did what he thought was right at the time.....

i really really wish things could work out with us but i know i am happy by myself if they dont.
i am really trying to visualise him contacting me and us meeting up for tea and feeling as though we are already back together but sometimes i feel dount since he has made no effort to contact me in the 9 mths.

recently i have been thinking that us breaking up may have been a good thing because i have come to realise taht i used to depend on him to make me happy when i now know that it is up to ME to make myself happy and i dont think i would have realised this if he had not broken up with me but i would just love if he wanted to get back together:-)

what do u think i should do

sorry for such a long email but i would be SO grateful for ~ANY advice you have. and is it possible for me to get him back if he is seeing this new girl?
thank you sooo much:-)
« Last Edit: May 18, 2012, 08:38:01 PM by RS »

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I would be interested to hear replies to your post RS - I posted a few days ago.  I have not seen my ex for 3 years and not heard from him for a year, he has met someone else, lives 150 miles away, we are not in contact any more and I need a real miracle.  Good luck xxxx

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Thank youso much siamesegirl for your reply, it means a lot and thank u for wishing me luck:-)
 i really hope things work out with your ex boyfriend too:-) i have been watching the secret everyday and looking at all the 'how to get my ex back using the law of attraction posts' and i really really hope it can work. i think we need to be happy either way and let our intention out into the universe and maybe just trust it IS going to happen.

i would love to get any other advice that i can. my family and friends dont understand they tell me i should move on and forget him and i cant. i have actually come to think that the break up was a good thing because i have learned a lot about myself in the 9 mths we have been apart and i now know that i cannot depend on someone else to make me happy, we have to be happy with ourselves first but now i would just love if he contacted me and wanted to work things out. i am visualising everyday that he will contact me for my birthday on may 30th and then that will lead to more contact.

Good luck Siamesegirl and don't give up hope:-) xoxo

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RS.

I have been in your place. Many people in this forum have been in your place. When I asked the questions you are now asking I got the same answers which you are now getting. It is hard to to accept those answers, the heart is so unwilling.

Think about yourself. Only yourself. Use the emotions, the pain, the rage to make a better life for yourself, become better. Certain things are beyond your control, stop worrying about them. Don't try to understand anything. Don't analyze. It is futile. Everything will sort itself out in its own due time.

Accept that is is over. Only a new relationship can happen with him now. You have to become so strong that you can refuse him, live without him, be happy without him.

The more you question, the more you will have doubts. Just trust in the Law.

Either you will let go or he will be back. If it is meant to be, it will be. It will be alright girl.


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So your in your early twenties so Im assuming he is too? Maybe he is just being a young college guy and doesnt want to be tied down right now and it has nothing to do with you really? You know him so what do you think that could be the reason why he broke up with you and hasnt contacted you?

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Thanks you so much for your reply arminhul:-)
did you end up getting back with your ex? if so how long did it take. You are completely right...

hink about yourself. Only yourself. Use the emotions, the pain, the rage to make a better life for yourself, become better. Certain things are beyond your control, stop worrying about them. Don't try to understand anything. Don't analyze. It is futile. Everything will sort itself out in its own due time.

Accept that is is over. Only a new relationship can happen with him now. You have to become so strong that you can refuse him, live without him, be happy without him.

i know i have been over analysing, for some reason i am worrying that i am not doing enough in order for him to return but it is really up to him and i have no control:-( i also worry that i am running out of time but as you said i just have to let it go and you are right if it is meant to be he will come back, there is nothing else i can do really. and i do agree that i need to fully let go of our past relationship if i do want to start a new one with him, its just hard to know what to do to let go so that then the universe can hopefully make him come back but u are right that in the end i have to be happy with or without him.

Thank you so much for your kind words xoxox

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Thank you for thr reply eighties chick:-)
So your in your early twenties so Im assuming he is too? Maybe he is just being a young college guy and doesnt want to be tied down right now and it has nothing to do with you really? You know him so what do you think that could be the reason why he broke up with you and hasnt contacted you?

yes i am turning 21 soon and he is nearly 23, i am finished college but he had one year left, we also live 1 and a half hours from eachother, i met him when i went to college in his city and i am down there nearly every 2 weeks to visit and go out with my college friends, thats where i met him last weekend.

this could very well be the reason, when he broke up with me by text he never gave me a reason which is why i guess it was so hard too..i kwpt thinking 'what is wrong with me?? why doesnt he want me?? all he said in the message was that he didnt feel the same way about me and thought it was best we go our separate ways but i have never found out his exact reasons and even his mother could not understand it when she and i met up at christmas. my father has said the same thing as you that he is young and probably doenst know what he wants but it makes me so sad that we got on so well for 2 years and suddenly he can just cut me out of his life. i honestly thought when u didnt contact your ex after a break up they regret it and come back..hasnt happened yet:-( im still hoping it will even though i think he is dating a new girl.

i go from being extrememly hopeful and certain that soon we will be back together and maybe even after seeing me last saturday he will regret his decision more and want to work things out...to then thinking are we over for good since 9 months has passed..i really want to believe we will get back together because even though i have dated other guys i really would love if we could get back together...

thanks for the reply xoxoxo
« Last Edit: May 20, 2012, 01:33:44 AM by RS »

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heres an update on my situation...my bday came and went and no text from him at all. i know i shudnt have but i got really upset..i felt so hurt because it would have been my 4th birhday knowing him and i thought since i had chatted to him when i met him 2 weeks ago and he even mentioned my bday i would definetely get a bday txt,...but nothing.

i had been visualising him contacting me everyday and then trying to detach myself from the outcome. i felt so let down and hurt again and i got a bit annoyed at myself that after 9 mths he could still make me feel sad:-(

i looked up the girl he is dating now facebook page and her cover picture is of him and her. i feel hopeless i really thought that he would make contact. im between 2 minds i dont know whether to give up asking and visualising him returning to me or to continue..i am happy without him and i know i will be fien but i still cant understand it at all:-(

just feeling really disheartened:-( and finding it difficult to b positive...any advice would be REALLY appreciated
thanks xxxxx

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thank you so much lady universe for your reply it really did make me feel more hopeful:-)

what does remote seduction involve if you dont mind me asking? to detach myself do i just keep the image of us getting back together in my mind and then just try not to care about the outcome? im not too sure what to do...just him not texting on my birthday makes me fele like he really doesnt care about me anymore,,its so hurtful. my friends and family dont understand they say 'why would you care if he texts you or not after how he treated you and he is with someone else but i really do not want to give up hope.

thanks again xoxox

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Thank youso much siamesegirl for your reply, it means a lot and thank u for wishing me luck:-)
 i really hope things work out with your ex boyfriend too:-) i have been watching the secret everyday and looking at all the 'how to get my ex back using the law of attraction posts' and i really really hope it can work. i think we need to be happy either way and let our intention out into the universe and maybe just trust it IS going to happen.

i would love to get any other advice that i can. my family and friends dont understand they tell me i should move on and forget him and i cant. i have actually come to think that the break up was a good thing because i have learned a lot about myself in the 9 mths we have been apart and i now know that i cannot depend on someone else to make me happy, we have to be happy with ourselves first but now i would just love if he contacted me and wanted to work things out. i am visualising everyday that he will contact me for my birthday on may 30th and then that will lead to more contact.

Good luck Siamesegirl and don't give up hope:-) xoxo
I know what you mean when your family says Just move on and forget him, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Obviously they dont understand the magnitude of love and how you really do feel from the core within, you heart :)  Keep hope and faith, because i am doing it too :)

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RS, you are already in the right path of loving yourself more - of giving that special gift to yourself, by doing the things that you love, by spending time with the people you love and those who love you :) Try to reach to the point to completely believe that you are born to be loved, cherished, respected and adored by your The One. If it is him or not, you need to let go of all negative beliefs, feelings and emotions associated with him, associated with relationships. If it is not him who will go back to your life, then someone who you deserve to be with will come along, when you are both ready to have that very loving relationship. There are really times that the Universe prepared for us to make us better persons, though we need to undergo painful experiences. What is important, we now choose to become better and happier persons, our way to getting everything we want to have in life ;) :) Hmmm RS, Remote Seduction is a meditation that many used here in getting their exes back. If you want to have an pdf copy of that, send me your personal email address and I will send it to you :)

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Hi could I get a copy of remote seduction as well

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thank you so much lady universe for your reply it really did make me feel more hopeful:-)

what does remote seduction involve if you dont mind me asking? to detach myself do i just keep the image of us getting back together in my mind and then just try not to care about the outcome? im not too sure what to do...just him not texting on my birthday makes me fele like he really doesnt care about me anymore,,its so hurtful. my friends and family dont understand they say 'why would you care if he texts you or not after how he treated you and he is with someone else but i really do not want to give up hope.

thanks again xoxox

i didnt txt mine on her birthday, but i love her to my very core. so dont think for certain it means they dont care about you. i spent the whole day thinking of her and wishing her a happy birthday in my head, but it wasnt the right time for contact.

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I know what you mean when your family says Just move on and forget him, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Obviously they dont understand the magnitude of love and how you really do feel from the core within, you heart :)  Keep hope and faith, because i am doing it too :)
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I know what you mean when your family says Just move on and forget him, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Obviously they dont understand the magnitude of love and how you really do feel from the core within, you heart   Keep hope and faith, because i am doing it too

Thanks for your comment ky 22 you're right hope and faith and trust that the universe will deliver what is best. best of luck to u:-) xoxo

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RS, you are already in the right path of loving yourself more - of giving that special gift to yourself, by doing the things that you love, by spending time with the people you love and those who love you :) Try to reach to the point to completely believe that you are born to be loved, cherished, respected and adored by your The One. If it is him or not, you need to let go of all negative beliefs, feelings and emotions associated with him, associated with relationships. If it is not him who will go back to your life, then someone who you deserve to be with will come along, when you are both ready to have that very loving relationship. There are really times that the Universe prepared for us to make us better persons, though we need to undergo painful experiences. What is important, we now choose to become better and happier persons, our way to getting everything we want to have in life ;) :) Hmmm RS, Remote Seduction is a meditation that many used here in getting their exes back. If you want to have an pdf copy of that, send me your personal email address and I will send it to you :)

Thank you 57 angel. you're right sometimes i can stay really positive but then sometimes i still find myself slipping back into the mindset of wondering why didnt things work out, is there something wrong with me etc. and it can make you feel so low:-(

thank you for saying i am on the right path...that is the good thing taht came form the break up i guess..i realised that i cant depend on him to make me happy i have realised that i hav to be happy with myself and in my own company first and then a boyfriend shoud just add to your life..not fufill it so i guess this is positive because if he hadnt broken up with me i wouldnt have realised this.

thank you for your kind words:-) xoxo

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