NO CONTACT RULE FOR GETTING YOUR EX BACK

[sh-boom]

Thankyou both for your replies, we have been NC now for just over a month (which feels a long time, but in reality i know is hardly anytime at all), and although I am sorry for my actions I know that if I hadn't had my 'freak out' I would still be where I had been for months, still in contact but in limbo. So in a way I feel this needed to happen to give me lack of any other option but NC which in turn is helping me to heal and also to improve myself as a person and learn. I do believe that if it hadnt happened, I wouldnt be here today learning about LOA and bettering myself and my life in general, so I am grateful that it has brought me this wonderful opportunity.

I have sent her loving thoughts on a couple of occaisons and it felt very powerful. I have also been using positive affirmations that she has forgiven me, and also that I have forgiven myself for my actions.

I will continue as I am currently, which is NC and letting go step by step. The universe knows she is who I want, but the universe also knows what is best for me, so I will trust 

[cheeks409]

Ok. So I want to try this but idk I'm scared of completely losing the chances of us getting back together. We've talked and hes told me he still has hope but he wants to take time to see how we do without each other. It makes me think he just wants to get over me and let go of the relationship. It really sucks... If i do no contact I dont want him to think im done or angry. cause im neither... I want him to want to be with me and talk to me. but not just as friends :/ ... idk what to do im really confused... We were supposed to hang out then he canceled and now he says maybe... and if i do no contact and he calls me do i not answer? what if he wants me back and i dont answer... help

[Autumn]

Coming back to No Contact, I've had a realization of sorts about it while talking to a friend of mine the other day. When you stay in touch during a period of such emotional turmoil, you become mostly reactionary. Any emotion - hurt, guilt, fear and loneliness sparks contact. You talk, text or even fight with the other person and offload. So your emotions decrease in intensity, you're not dealing with them but putting them off. It's like short-term release, akin to an addiction. It doesn't allow you time and space to deal with your emotions because of the feeling that no matter what, your guy/girl is there. To be true to your own emotions and figure out what you want, I do think a little time is essential. That's not to say you absolutely have to cut off contact, just don't let it be an outlet point for all your emotions. Like I've observed, NC works for some couples and doesn't for others. Depends on your relationship dynamics. Try to maintain equanimity in these conversations and refrain from lashing out in pain, anger or extreme emotions. Don't let them dictate your actions, but be there for each other if they really need it. It is a very trying time. I know how it hurts, but it's extremely important to get clearer and be clear on your stance as you progress in NC. The last thing you want is to be stuck in a grey area of contact, lurking in the background, if you can't be their support as a girlfriend/boyfriend or as a clearly and well-agreed upon friend. Just my thoughts on it.

[cheeks409]

Oh and I did ask him if he really thought to keep talking was a good idea. So he responded with a yes because he wanted to work on talking again. We kind of have a long distance relationship. We saw each other every weekend. We work during the week.  Since we worked and went home after we barely talked. Weekends were always great though but we did fight a lot during the week which is why we broke up among other issues. Anyways he said yes he wants to keep talking so we can work on communicating again yet he doesnt contact me because he wants the break up to sink in - thats what he said. he is sending me very confusing signals.. i dont wanna end up friend zoned cause i have a lot of hope left :/ ... its just so damn confusing.. i havent been texting him or calling anymore. but i constantly wait for him to do so...

[Autumn]

Oh and I did ask him if he really thought to keep talking was a good idea. So he responded with a yes because he wanted to work on talking again. We kind of have a long distance relationship. We saw each other every weekend. We work during the week.  Since we worked and went home after we barely talked. Weekends were always great though but we did fight a lot during the week which is why we broke up among other issues. Anyways he said yes he wants to keep talking so we can work on communicating again yet he doesnt contact me because he wants the break up to sink in - thats what he said. he is sending me very confusing signals.. i dont wanna end up friend zoned cause i have a lot of hope left :/ ... its just so damn confusing.. i havent been texting him or calling anymore. but i constantly wait for him to do so...

I don't know the exact dynamics of your relationship. You know him best. Do try to be supportive but without coming over too strong. He knows that you want something more. Now back off a little and let him come to a decision. You don't want him to feel at any point in the future that he might have done things differently if not for your influence. Be strong, confident and assertive. Let him rediscover respect, admiration and understanding of your strength as a person. He wants to work on talking again, which is a good sign, build up the trust and and affection in a relaxed manner. Communication will improve. Let him decide what he wants to do, you just concentrate on enjoying yourself and keeping yourself happy. You don't really want to be dependent on him now, do you? Relax and enjoy life in the meantime, he'll be back

[brunothe1]

Hey Champion's , It has been 8 yrs now that we broke up, Is it possible for me to get her back?
I have loved her to the core - Thats when I think that when U really love a girl, U are really not attracted to her physically!!!!!!
Yeah I really Love her Guys, Can any one help?