Author Topic: Need advise on how to attract my ex fiancee (Read 9570 times)

DanF007 · « **on:** August 01, 2011, 07:36:11 AM »

So my ex broke up with me a month ago, we were together for 4 years and engaged. We lived together in her place that she bought and I helped fix up. Our relationship was in a bit of a financial strain but i was able to pay the bills just fine. I guess i got a little complacent with the market and didn't take care of the relationship the best that i could. I know everything i did wrong and how to fix it and avoid making the same mistakes. But its been a month and she wont pick up my calls and i have done everything that i could to show her that I do love her and i can change. Now i am trying not to contact her anymore to give her space. But the last time sent text back and forth she said she didn't love me anymore because if not she would be feeling the way she is. I really do love this woman and want to marry her but at this point i don't know what to do. Everything inside me is telling me to call her but i know that wont help, what do i do? I have already started bettering myself..

2thetop · « **Reply #1 on:** August 01, 2011, 08:05:44 AM »

Hey dan, just popped on here to show you some support. I am sure things will be fine. I am going to let one of the more experienced forum members give you the good advice, but I will just say, keep working on yourself. Make sure you work on what you want to work on to make you happy with who you are. She will return.

Sweet Spirit · « **Reply #2 on:** August 01, 2011, 08:26:17 AM »

2 the top, You ARE one of the more experienced ones! Either that or you are a quick learner! LOL.

Dan, I was just popping in as well. I would like to write a more detailed reply but I tend to get very long winded (as other forum members will attest to;) and the man I attracted back into my life is waiting for me in the other room so I would like to get in there to say goodnight before he falls asleep.

Anyway, hang in there and I will try to write more tomorrow. In the meantime one of our other forum members from the opposite side of the world (I am in the US) may get to you before I return, as it is almost 11 pm here and our other friends here are probably just waking up to a new day. There are lots of helpful people on here so you are in great company. As 2thetop said, things will be fine!!

Oh and yes I did mention that I attracted my man back, so it is very possible for you to do the same with your woman!!

Have a great night (or day depending on what part of the world you are in.)

DanF007 · « **Reply #3 on:** August 01, 2011, 09:06:18 AM »

Thank you both for your support. It really feels great to chat with people that understand what i am going through. I am grateful for any advise that I can get. I am currently in Miami, FL its 11:30pm here now.

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #4 on:** August 01, 2011, 09:16:21 AM »

There are a bunch of people in your same situation, believe me, you are NOT ALONE HERE!!

We will all be here to help you and each other the best we can.

Cheer up!!

DanF007 · « **Reply #5 on:** August 01, 2011, 09:19:20 AM »

Thank you!

Sweet Spirit · « **Reply #6 on:** August 01, 2011, 07:29:56 PM »

Hello again Dan.
Like KnJ said, there are many people on this forum who are trying to attract their exes back. I was one of those people too.Like I said earlier, I have a habit of writing long posts so bear with me here.

These are the things you can do:
First try to be happy by yourself. Work on yourself (which you are already doing.) But just find happiness in yourself not depending on her or others to be the source of your happiness or unhappiness. That also comes with loving and forgiving yourself and loving and forgiving others.

FEEL grateful. Some people write down things to be grateful for, and they read that list several times a day. That did not work for me however. I needed to FEEL it, not just say it over and over again. It is much more important to feel it because it gives you a sense of real gratitude and you can't fool God ( the universe.) for instance, when you wake up in the morning FEEL the sensation of the soft bed and be grateful. When you take a shower FEEL the sensation of the clean water running over your body and be grateful. When you are eating, taste the food and be grateful. When you are outside FEEL the beauty of nature and be grateful you have eyes to see it. Use your five senses to feel and be grateful. be grateful for the wonderful day you are going to have knowing and trusting that it is going to be good no matter what happens. FEEL and be grateful for things that have not happened yet like you KNOW those things are going to happen. Then you will be given more things to feel grateful for.

Visualize yourself in a happy and much better relationship with her. Some people make vision boards. I don't. Like reading the gratitude list I feel that if I have to look at a vision board then I don't really have it etched or memorized in my mind (or heart) what I really want. But do whatever works for you as long as you can visualize it and feel as though you already have it. That way you won't be stuck in the stage of still wanting it because as long as you want it, you will be manifesting more of still wanting it; so just FEEL you already have her or that she is on her way to you. The key here is to get rid of the need. You don't need anything except food water and shelter to survive. You have what you need already. The rest is just stuff you want, so FEEL as though you already have it.

Let go of any desperation of needing or wanting her. That's where trusting the universe comes in. Let it go; release it to the universe and TRUST in its perfect timing. When both of you are ready, the universe will deliver a new and better relationship and you KNOW it will be amazing!

Every living thing in the universe is connected.We all feel and emanate each others energy and vibrations so send her vibrations of love and she will feel it. When my BF and I were apart, I whispered to the wind, "I love you Ken." I trusted that the wind would carry my message and feelings to him wherever he was, and he said he felt it. He knew I loved him and he said he never stopped loving me either. This man left me last year and said we would never have contact again. He was hurting too. But my heart KNEW he didn't mean it. My heart KNEW he would be back after he sensed the change in me. And 5 days after I let go and the real spiritual transformation took place in me, he was contacting me 5 days later! He KNEW and felt what I was feeling!!

For right now, continue working on yourself. She will sense and feel the changes without you contacting her. Just trust the universe to handle it. Don't text or call her (anytime soon) saying that you have changed. Talk is cheap. Hand this one over to the universe and BELIEVE she will get the message. Also search your heart. It knows the truth. Do you feel in your heart that she still loves you despite the fact that she says the opposite? If so, then she does still love you. She just needs time and space apart from you to be happy on her own. Listen to your hear/gut instinct. It knows the truth. It is the connection to your higher self which is the connection to the creator of the universe and all other living things and it has all the correct answers. If you have negative thoughts or feelings dismiss them immediately! That is your mind deceiving you! Remember that thoughts become things and you want good things to happen so think and feel good things.

Love her unconditionally no matter if she is with you or someone else. BELIEVE she will return and sense the change in you. I am here to tell you that LOA is very possible and is at work ALL THE TIME! I was successful at attracting a new and better relationship with the man who left me last August. He is different and I am different. Yes people change but in our case we both changed for the better thanks to knowing about LOA.

In summation:
Feel grateful, Know she is on her way back to you, visualize a better relationship with her, and let it go. release it to the universe trusting it WILL happen. Then get happy and excited! You have the keys and "secret" to manifestation, now use them to your advantage!

Oh, and participate often on here. Share your results and concerns. We are all here for each other; encouraging, supporting and asking for help. Its a great place to be.

Much love and many blessings to you. Welcome aboard!!

DanF007 · « **Reply #7 on:** August 01, 2011, 08:57:06 PM »

Sweet spirit you are amazing!

I am copying your..

"In summation:
Feel grateful, Know she is on her way back to you, visualize a better relationship with her, and let it go. release it to the universe trusting it WILL happen. Then get happy and excited! You have the keys and "secret" to manifestation, now use them to your advantage!"

..to my notes on my laptop, so i can read it everyday. I am really grateful that you spent your time to write so much to me. I could read more you are very smart. Could you recommend me a good books about the LOA and relationships, Thank you.

DanF007 · « **Reply #8 on:** August 01, 2011, 09:05:34 PM »

Also our anniversary is would have been on Aug 26th this year should i do anything? My birthday is Aug 14th, but i don't really expect a call, email or text from her.

2thetop · « **Reply #9 on:** August 02, 2011, 07:35:37 AM »

Quote from: Sweet Spirit on August 01, 2011, 08:26:17 AM

2 the top, You ARE one of the more experienced ones! Either that or you are a quick learner! LOL.

Sweet much love to you....thank you for the compliment. I just hope some of what I have said has helped someone lol.

Dan....A long with what sweet said, I just want to touch on one thing. I only do this because the human brain is, in short, a trip. IF you have any doubts or fear, do not run from them, do not let them shake your foundation. Its normal to have doubts, especially on a subject that many of us were social programmed from birth to deny is possible. IF they do pop in your head, accept that you are feeling the doubt or fear, and move on and for me atleast, i instantly think of me and my love doing something wonderful in our newly formed relationship.

Look up EFT to help remove any negativity and also to help progress through your changes. Its amazing what love will do to you isnt it? Be grateful for that. Be grateful for you chance to shine. Like sweet said, gratitude is a big thing. It keeps your vibration up, which in turn keeps your mentality up.

Ask for what you want, believe you will get it, and embrace it with open arms. Like the others have said, we are here always. Welcome to the family

Much love and to your success

DanF007 · « **Reply #10 on:** August 02, 2011, 11:07:20 AM »

Thanks for your support 2thetop. I guess today wasn't a good day for me. She got together with my best friends to give them some of my things. I guess it hurt the most when i saw that she had sent me the pictures in there frames. And she told them that she missed me but that she was firm in her decision. I guess the only positive thing that i got going for me is that the relationship didn't end in bad terms and that she said if in the future its meant to be we will be together again. I just wish i knew if we would be together again and we didn't have to go through this.

2thetop · « **Reply #11 on:** August 02, 2011, 11:29:00 AM »

Don't stress. Thats normal from what I understand. Start knowing things will work out. Focus on what you need to do to work on the things you want to correct. That way when you are reunited you have more to offer. You will know what you need to do to have a more successful relationship. Love doesnt just disappear into thin air. Sounds like a similar situation to mine. Not sure without the details, but my girl got burned out on a few things. If your fiance was willing to marry you once, you can get her back. You just have to believe in yourself and be happy with who you are.

Im sure someone can expand a little better. My brain is a little tired right now but I wanted to respond to you. Keep your head up and think positive. Just be grateful for this opportunity to grow and make the most of it for now.

DanF007 · « **Reply #12 on:** August 02, 2011, 08:10:33 PM »

My last email to her. Unfortunately last night i wasn't strong enough to not send her something after she saw my friends and gave them my stuff. 2thetop the last line I borrowed from you. I know this is my last e-mail to her because I have to stay strong. I feel that she is associating being with me as pain and she said she was happy now and although she misses me she is firm in her decision. I was expecting the worst but i didn't expect it to hurt so much even when i found out that she is going through the same feelings as i am the only difference is that she doesn't want me back.

Last night:
"I wish I could have seen you today. I understand why that is not possible. And your right all the things that I am doing to better myself is because I want you back. Nothing you can say will change that. I’m hurt and I am not happy because of all this mess. But I understand that you need time alone; even if it hurt me, it’s ok I am strong enough to take this pain. If I could take your pain away I would, so you wouldn’t feel any pain. My strength comes from my faith in us and although you may not see it now. Our future together looks beautiful, I have seen it. I do agree with the break up, this is probably the best thing for the both of us now. Love doesn’t just disappear into thin air and reunited I will have more to offer.
D.F."

Last Email:
"I apologize for what I did wrong during the relationship and for putting the responsibility of my happiness on your shoulders, that was unfair. I care about you Jenesis and only want the very best for you.
D.F."

Mariposa, (KnJ) · « **Reply #13 on:** August 02, 2011, 09:37:47 PM »

So you sent her the 1st message last night? And then the 2nd message today?

I'm just curious.

I want to let you know that I have a great feeling about this, really I do!!

If you can get happy with yourself and give it a little time apart for now, I believe you two will end up together. I think she really does love you and once she realizes how much she loves you and misses you she will come around.

Keep your chin up! Stay positive!!

Smile, and get happy!!

We're here for you!!

Lots of Love!! ♥♥♥

DanF007 · « **Reply #14 on:** August 02, 2011, 09:45:44 PM »

Yes that is correct, last night email was dumb and out of desperation.

After reading an e-book, the magic of making up which was ok, i guess. I am truly happy to have found this online community. Thank you all for your wishes and great advise, like i said before i think it is positive that she said "if its meant to be we would be together again" and she feels that we didn't end in bad terms also i was her first for everything and we lasted 4 years. Which our anniversary is coming up on Aug 26th but i don't know if i should do anything, like text her or e-mail her...

By the way any good book about the LOA that i can read while I wait for the universe to throw me a bone j/k lol..But really any good book anyone can recommend?