My view , on getting ex back using the law of attraction

[SilverSoul]

I saw some old thread about this . and I wanted to share my thoughts ...

so the way I see it , the correct way to use the law of attraction to get your ex back to a relationship with you . in translation to the laws of attraction , would be :

First , you must realize that you can't force anyone to be with you . or change his mind . and if trying to  convince  that person by begging , stalking , making him feel guilty , showering him with love ... etc. doesn't work , don't think that you can just ask the universe to change s\his mind for you. thats not how it works ... infact it is very likely that one of the reasons for the breakup is that one of you tried to control the other ...

So what you need to do is accept the break . and give you both some space ... by no contact . if you are afraid that doing so would mean it's  the "end" . just believe that if it was LOVE ? then that person can't forget about you and get over you so soon . and s\he still has feelings for you ...

in the meanwhile you need to pick up your pieces , and use this time you  got now , to get your emotions back in order . because in this state where your emotions are a mess , and you have lost yourself . you are not in alignment with  what you want .

once you are calm , you could see things more clearly . like what went wrong in your relationship (and how can you work it out together) why this matters to you so much , and why you love that person .

only then you could be sure it's really what you want . and instead of grieving about your loss . what would just make you feel horrible . you should appreciate the time you had with one another . and visualize yourself together in the future again . it must feel to you like it's more than possible . and I believe you should do that whenever s\he pops in your mind .

If you can't see it happening , and feel like you 2 don't match anyway , or the reasons for the breakup are something that cannot be fixed  , etc . then use this as a way to realize what you DO want , and attract it to your life .

But if youre just feeling like you don't deserve it - then you are just not ready ...

to attract that person back in your life you must first realize what he found in you in the first place . and that might be something you have neglected lately . so work on your look , health , career , your social life , hobbies ...  and having fun . be a magnet .

but unlike the original guide someone posted here , I'm not saying you should not care about your ex ... I can tell you from experience that in most cases when my exes came back -  I didn't want them anymore . because by the time they were gone . I focused on the things I hated about them  and in our relationship , to the point where I really did move on .  so ask yourself , is that what you want ? if not , you should end your contact in a high note , so anytime you will think about each other , you will remember mostly , the good times...

Yes , it would be best to clear your mind from him as much as possible , yet you will have your weak moments where you will miss her , and will think about him alot . but you gotta keep those "cards" to yourself .  and act as if you are ready to move on . and actually ...it won't be an act . you will be able to live your life - and be happy on your own - and that will make you attractive to the thing you  WANT  .

Getting to this point , will require  certain  balance  , and this process cannot be rushed , but eventually -  your lover will contact you . or maybe you will meet by chance ...the same chemistry you had before will naturally do it's thing . and you will both be on even terms , or in the best case scenario - you will have it under your control and from there ... everything is possible .

[Vicki Christina]

I think most of us will agree to your post!   Thanks for the reminder.  We all need it! 

[Katie]

Very interesting post, but I don't agree with

I focused on the things I hated about them 

if I had done that, I would have increased my guy's jerky behavior. Instead, I focused on his qualities, even though at that time he wasn't displaying any qualities at all 

[SilverSoul]

Very interesting post, but I don't agree with

I focused on the things I hated about them 

if I had done that, I would have increased my guy's jerky behavior. Instead, I focused on his qualities, even though at that time he wasn't displaying any qualities at all 

Thats the idea , I focused on the negative things , and thats how those "exes" looked  in my eyes . and I can barely recall one good thing about any of my past relationships now . and I would say no for another try to any of them without a doubt .

except my most recent one - who really was different , and even when I look at things clearly now - we made a good couple . nothing is perfect but I really loved her ... and still do .

I always knew we would have a "breakup" in our relationship . and I just could feel it coming . but my biggest fear wasn't that we won't get another shot - because I knew we will .

My real concern was about what I feel . I was just afraid she would do something that I won't be able to forgive for . and that while moving on with my life , I will focus so hard on the things I hate about her . that when eventually the universe will bring her back in my life - it will be only for me saying - I don't want her anymore ...

That's a great way to move on ^ and make sure you will never be together again . but for anyone who DOES want to get his\her ex back . you gotta focus on the good times . and the qualities you loved about that person . unlike most "guides" would tell you ...

[Katie]

Sorry, I didn't get the point, you are talking about forgetting an ex, in that case I understand your "method" 

[SilverSoul]

Sorry, I didn't get the point, you are talking about forgetting an ex, in that case I understand your "method" 

You completely misunderstood me XD please re-read what I said . I'm advising you what NOT to do if you want your ex back .

[Katie]

yes... I understand