My Update

[LeyLine]

Hi Melanie

Congrats on ur progress!!! Its amazing, you cant believe how happy i am for you!! I think that u did very well when you broke the no contact when you did....i mean, no contact is good, but inspired action is better;) Your success touches me in a very deep level, because ur situation always reminded me of mine (maybe at some point we can chat and you will see how many things we have in common), and thats why i was quite hard on you a few weeks earlier...because i didnt want u to do the same mistakes i did Anyway....im sure that for now everything will start getting better and better

Many blessings

[loveofabundance]

 

and thats why i was quite hard on you a few weeks earlier...because i didnt want u to do the same mistakes i did

I think it's actually super sweet that we've all been tough on each other at times and yet we still care and keep coming back to the forum because we are all being motivated out of love.  Truly, we are all so fortunate to have been lead here because we each have proof that throughout the world, positive people are to be found!  Much love to all!

[Sweet Spirit]

Euphrosyne, Love of Abundance, Angel Grace, Bubbles, Mark, Mr Positive, Vicki Christina, Despoina, Brave Lioness, and my new friend Munib (and all my friends here,)

Thank you so much!

@ Euphrosyne,
I am so glad that you jerked me into the reality of things. I began seeing my boyfriend in a different way and I was able to turn it into something positive. You have helped me so much!! I stopped feeling that he owed me and instead thought about the things he did for me. I stopped the need for dependency and I stopped resenting him for not trying to make things better. You really opened my eyes, and for that I am grateful!

Its amazing how my attitude has changed since joining this forum. Since I started talking to my BF again, I noticed how it no longer bothers me that he doesn't call (he still hasn't called just e-mail and chat online,) and he was supposed to let me know last night if he was meeting me in Atlanta tonight, and when he didn't contact me last night I was not upset, I just accepted that for who he is. This morning he e-mailed me to let me know that he may not be coming and I was not disappointed, then just a few minutes ago he said he may be coming. If this was 4 or 5 months ago,(when he was not living with me,) I would be on an emotional roller coaster! I'd be pissed and depressed  that he didn't contact me when he said he would, and I would be disappointed and depressed for him not coming, then I'd be over elated that he was coming....up/down....up/down.......If his plans change yet again and he doesn't come\ okay/ that's fine. I am still happy!!! His life is very unpredictable right now and I accept that. I can't believe how indifferent I have become since letting go! I am no longer high/low. I am on an even keel of happy!

Everything is beautiful, even the ugly things!!

I'll let ya'll (a southern term LOL) know what happens next..........

-Melanie

[Sweet Spirit]

*Update again*

I just talked to him for the first time in 6 weeks (on the phone.)

His plans did not work out to where he would be coming to Atlanta and that is okay with me!!! In all honesty, I am not ready to see him yet.
What happened was, when we chatted online the other night he asked me to look for some car parts that he left here. As you know, he does not have a job. He is living with his friend about 100 miles north of where I live. Anyway, during our chat the other night he said that another friend had tickets to a braves game in Atlanta and needed a ride. His plans were to drive the friend to the stadium and then meet up with me to get the car parts. I found the parts and he said that he would let me know by last night if he was coming. He didn't contact me like he said he would last night. Then, he e-mailed me this morning and said that his friend got another ride. I replied that I would mail the parts and he replied that he didn't want me to spend the money and as soon as he could afford it he would come and visit me and get the parts then. I said okay.  Then he got online and chatted with me for a minute telling me his friend's ride fell through and he may be coming after all but he would call and let me know for sure. Then he called (first time I have heard his voice in almost 6 weeks,) and said that the friend got another ride and he would not be coming after all. I said okay and I hope you have a great day, and he said thank you and good bye. I did not offer to prolong the conversation. The whole phone conversation lasted less than 30 seconds. Only 30 seconds after almost 6 weeks! Apparently I am not that important to him after all. LOL Funny thing is, I am not upset at all. You would think that he would want to talk longer but that's how he is.

Hopefully he noticed the indifference in my voice, and hopefully he does not think I am upset or disappointed. I really don't know what to make of his behavior other than he is bummed out over his whole situation. I mean it really sucks right now. He is broke and can't really go anywhere because he has no money for gas. I actually feel sorry for him. All I can do is say, "I hope you have a great day." I will no longer initiate contact. If he says we are still in a relationship he needs to learn how to treat it like one. That was my problem with him before.

During our chat the other night, he asked if I had been out with or met anyone, and I said that I did not want to date anyone because I need to work on myself and I don't need anyone to make me happy. When I asked if he had met anyone he said that he was trying to find himself and he was just trying get a paycheck. He will probably get back on those dating sites once he can afford to meet  someone, and that's okay with me because now that I have let go of the outcome, it no longer matters if we continue our relationship. I'm just satisfied that we are friends again. That's all.  Who knows? Maybe I will be busy when he decides to visit. I am no longer going plan my life around him!! If he truly wants me he is going to have to put in more effort because I have done all I can do. The key is to stay positive; not necessarily of attracting him back (I've already done that,) but that whatever happens is good. He is no longer EVER going to have control over my emotions. I have taken him off that pedestal. I am no longer "in love" with him. I do still love his soul but it is up to him now to pursue me if he wants to. Let him date other women and he will soon find out what he may have lost. I am at the point now that if something better comes along I will gladly accept it!
 
It is so funny how letting go changes the perspective of things. After attracting him back into my life I am wondering why the hell I was so consumed with grief over the breakup!

Ah the beauty and power of letting go! I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!! Thank you LOA!!

-Melanie

[Detached&Allowing]

It sounds like you are in a very healthy place Melanie.  Keep it up!!  Remember, if you can't be single and happy, you definitely can't be with another and be happy.  It's a hard behavior to change.  (Being so reactive)  We are deliberate creators of our own lives.

Best of LOA to you!!

[LeyLine]

Melanie im happy, happy for you!! And dont imply that you are not important to him because he talked to you 30 seconds!! If you werent important he wouldnt have kept the relationship status on FB and he wouldnt contact your son After all, you said that you were indifferent too...if u ask me, i think you were both quite nervous and thats why you talked for only a few seconds...which is perfectly ok, considering that you are one and a half month apart. Melanie, if you want him back for real...you shall have him. Theres no alternative, since we are the only onew to create our reality...and since you want a reality with him by your side, you shall have that reality. Be sure to continue LOA even after you completely manifest...because i think the hardest part is to maintain the relationship, not bring the ex back....and unfortunately many people grow too confident after manifestation and forget about loa.
I have manifested as well (up to a certain point), but i will consider my case a success story suitable to be posted here, only after i drive to the airport to pick up my guy. Until then....im getting more and more amazed by the way the universe responds even to my slightest desire with dozens of signs and small manifestations, and im thankful that my ex shows such an improvement in his behavior, saying all the things i wanna hear and admitting (for the very first time) his share of blame in our break up. I know he has at least one booty call lover right now...but i couldnt care less!! Think about it...the entire universe works for me..shes part of the universe too...so she too works for me, hee hee. If u find out that your own guy has some kind of girl, i would suggest to consider it in the same way. That way you will never have opponents and enemies, just allies and friends


Peace

[bravelioness]

@31euphrosyne-

Melanie, if you want him back for real...you shall have him. Theres no alternative, since we are the only onew to create our reality...and since you want a reality with him by your side, you shall have that reality. Be sure to continue LOA even after you completely manifest...because i think the hardest part is to maintain the relationship, not bring the ex back....and unfortunately many people grow too confident after manifestation and forget about loa.

I'm guilty about being overconfident.I mean,when Andrew & I started to become intimate,things started popping out of my head like what if he just used me,what if he was only after my virginity etc.My friends told me not to think like that.I prayed & prayed & started to apply loa.when he & i started going out again,I became too overconfident.Then things started going wrong again & I thought negative again,focusing on the what ifs.I think my situation right now is the product of my negative thinking.And I read the post here about scientific prayer,I realized that I was praying the wrong way.And yes.What for you is inspired action?I'm a little confused here because a post said that inspired action and doing something in order for you to get what you want is most of the time being confused.Anyone is free to shed some light regarding this. I'm really sure of what I want.Well,everyone knows that I want me & Andrew in better terms by the Christmas season.

I'm doing all that I can to feel better.Thank you.Please respond to my updates in my update page.