My story in a nutshell...

[Peaches97]

I haven't really posted my story on here and I've been on here for awhile..reading,studying an truly loving this forum!! Everyone is really helpful and great:). I'm going to keep it as short as possible...any input is appreciated:) I met my ex last march...we started as friends and took it slow...he had been broken up from his gf for a year but they were still friends cause they had known each other for years etc...I gave him the benefit of the doubt on that and just figured whatever I'll see how it goes we hadn't really gotten serious yet or anything so I wasn't concerned....we started hanging out more and got along really well...he'd still hang out with ex too but was always honest about it and we weren't really official so I stayed low key about it...we got closer and he said he wanted me to be his gf etc...then i said cool but are u sure it's all over with your ex etc..cause I i concerns u know...he said it was...I believed him...and still felt positive about the situation...only about a week past and he was acting distant...I asked him what was up and he said he wasn't really comfortable having a gf etc...so crazy since it was his idea lol...then I was like ok...do u just want to go back how we were before...I didn't want to lose him and didn't really know what to say...he said ok...we kept going and he was going through a lot of stuff which I helped him through etc...kind of a roller coaster but I was definitely supportive...we were acting like we were together lol..so weird...then he freaked out on me again saying he needed a break...then I backed off...then he said he loved me and wanted me to move in!! Just all over the map lol...i was happy but a little confused but loved him too so I said it...then we had a nice scenario for about a month and the end of sept he said he needed a break again:( , at that time I knew I had been need y and motherly towards him(my fault I know) but I was always there for him and did everything I thought a gf should...little did I know he'd been starting to talk to a girl at his work...much younger with a child...just totally crazy...we then just went to being friends..he'd never brought up the other gal but I knew better...I guess I attracted that somehow by my insecurity idk....then a short while later his little brother died..I heard and offered my condolences but we were pretty much in nc at this time...then a few weeks later I know now that I attracted him back by detaching myself after we stopped contact...he still had some things at my house and came by and it was obvious we still had feelings there...so hard...then I did nothing but act cool...we spoke a few days later and I ended up at his house after I'd had a rough family incident...we'd both kind of bonded through traumatic events too ... Then we started basically all over again..everything felt right and good..little did I know this other girl was still in the picture...he even said he loved me again etc...I tagged him in a pic on fb which wasn't even of us but something random and she wrote me!! Saying they were together etc...just insane!! Of course I called him and he denied calling her obsessed etc...I wanted to believe him but my gut told me different...but we kept going..for another month...he even moved and hr away and I went to see him....and then he called the next day saying he loved someone else and couldn't be with me...I asked him if it was that girl and why didn't he just tell and he said it didn't matter...said I was a great person he just couldnt be with me...so bizarre when he had said so many other things to me before and it was obvious we had something good..why would he ask me to move in with him if he couldn't be with me lol..said I was more than enough of a woman for him....just so confusing...so here I am two months later on this forum and doing much better Than I was in January but still a work in progress lol...and trying to manifest him back...and I've finally figured out I've already attracted him back once...so this just got way more interesting lol...we've had nc for 6 weeks...any one have any thoughts...?

[Sneha]

I think you need to work on restoring ur confidence and happiness .Just enjoy the things u love.
Try to practice EFT and Ho'ponopono.
Glad to hear that you feel that you are doing better.Just relax (easier said than done).Universe will present to you the corret time for him to conatct you - as friends or lovingly or inspire you positively to take action.Say happy and detached from the outcome.

Best of LOA and love to you.

[57angel]

Peaches, it is indeed so inspiring for me to see how much progress you have done to yourself and reach the point where you are now You had set the intention to the Universe and asked for him to come back to your life, and you did successfully get him back many times. Maybe, there are still hidden beliefs that you haven't let go yet but is still the culprit of what is happening in your physical world. If there are still, then let that go because that is not the reason why you are here. Your reason of being here is to be loved, cherished and adored. Try as much as you can to focus in yourself - do everything that you can to make yourself a better and happier you! Just as you need to learn your lessons in relationships, he needs to learn her lessons as well, he needs to know what is it that he really wants in a relationship, to truly ask himself what is it that he doesn't want. Let him go, the NC rule will allow him to find the difference how is it be loved by Peaches and will help him realize what he once got that he let go Stay focused of what you want will making the best in you

[Peaches97]

Thanks guys I know I am still dealing with some negativity regarding the situation but I have come far and am so much more peaceful because of all the love on this forum...my biggest challenge has been not to think of him with her and just him on his own or with me how we were....there are times when I'm really there and just send him love and I feel so good!! I wasn't able to do that even a month ago:) ..progress for sure!!

[simplyjess]

Hey Peaches,

So great to see that you're making progress and feeling good Sometimes NC is great because then that person has time and space to actually miss you. It sounds like he just needs some time to think about what (and who) he really wants.

Love yourself first, and everything else will follow. Wishing you the best

[star24]

wow what a story Peaches! its funny looking back, we can see how we sort of manipulated things for ourselves, but also in so many of the stories I have read, the ex usually has his/her own issues and insecurities. I guess space and  the growing process to really love yourself is usually needed on bother sides, for us and our ex.

Its so inspiring to read how strong you are, and its so exciting to think that the more time that goes by and the more we grow to love ourselves, the more we're improving our selves and can have an even better relationship with that person then we ever had before. when they finally get back to us we're all going to be pretty amazing! and our relationships are going to be so amazing, strong, healthy and happy

[Peaches97]

Simplyjess- have you noticed how sometimes it just helps to have a day or two go by and it changes your perspective? And u read some of the posts on here and things start making sense and u get a renewed sense of calm..just something I thought of today thought I'd share:). Gab- u are soo right! Our exes do have issues and insecurities too and we tend to forget that and put a lot of the blame on ourselves because they are the ones that changed their minds..it makes us take it personally too u know?..but its not even about that because sometimes like u said its that we need to be better people so we can have a better relationship and its all part of the journey:) I'm so glad we are all here together and manifesting with people that are so great!! We are truly blessed:).

[simplyjess]

Peaches, I totally agree with you! It brings my mind to peace, and reassures that I will be alright. Just reading people's stories, it really puts things in perspective. What Gab said reminded me that I am not the only one who needs time to heal...L does too because I now remember that he's got his own issues too. All I can do is love myself and love him unconditionally.

It's such a supportive community here; love and gratitude to everyone