My own update

[Sweet Spirit]

Brave Lioness,

You would not believe how liberating it is to let go of the desperation and obsession of needing your ex to make you happy. I had a very serious relationship and if anything, it should have been much harder for me to let go. My boyfriend and I were practically married without the piece of paper. We were together every moment of the day, so when it was over it was a huge shock for me. I knew that contacting him would show that I was weak, needy, and insecure, and men do NOT like women with those traits unless they are cavemen who want to control a submissive woman.

Let go and work on being a strong and confident woman. You have an advantage where you can run into your ex. I don't even know where mine is! I have a feeling he is in a town about 100 miles away and there is no chance of us running into each other anywhere locally. Let your ex see how you have changed. Do NOT engage yourself in doing things that involve thinking about him (like the wedding album.)

We have setbacks not failures. You are going to be fine once you make yourself let go.

Good luck dear! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!

-Melanie

[pachacuti]

My wife is becoming completely unstable now. Turning the screws on the situation is bringing out the absolute worst in her.  She is showing herself to be materialistic and selfish and everything is about what she wants. As I move forward there will be more hell to pay, but having my dignity back feels way too good. I let myself play the sucker too long. It is nice to be the calm and collected one during our conversation, as she twists and spews more awful things out at me. But so it goes.

Before any of you think this is the dark side of LOA and that I am proof that it won't work for you, trust me, it will work for you.  You just may not know HOW it will work for you.  In my case, it has opened up my eyes to a reality I was ignoring or accepting. My wife has turned into a person that is unrecognizable.  Even several of her friends have commented to me that they just don't understand it and that they are ashamed (I tell them not to be, because she is creating her own reality, not them).

Stay tuned as you find out how this whole thing unravels. I am sticking to the plan that the universe placed in my hands: I am only focused on my unborn child and me being the absolute best daddy in the world and protecting her from harm from all corners.

God bless of you.  It is absolutely wonderful to be here.  I am so grateful to have embraced LOA.

Mark

[Detached&Allowing]

You are absolutely right in that we never know the "how" behind what we want to achieve.  We just know we want to achieve it and move forward.  Keep up the positive attitude.

Best of LOA to you Mark!!