My own update

[LeyLine]

@sweet spirit, if u wanna let go, just think one thing....do u think u deserved the way ur bf treated u? at least this is what i did..

Peace

[Bubbles]

@31: Yep this was what I did too. I guess after being mentally drained for (almost) intense 2 months from all that obsessing and stuff. I gave up living my current state of life during that 2 months.

It started with a lot of guilt and self doubt - wondering if I did anything wrong. It was great to hang out with old time friends because they help you find back who you are. They were the ones who were there before the man came in. They were the ones who embraced your bad, your good and your ugly. So it helps Go out! Have fun!

Enjoy the friends you made before your relationship came in. They usually bring you right back to where you were before everything started.

And that's when you know, you did have a life before he came in. Everything built up now in your mind was constructed by you and you alone.

As what my sister has been telling me these last 2 months - "Something can only hurt you that much, if you allow it to. If you think it's got you, then well it has got you."

[Vicki Christina]

Bubbles,  You are right - friendship relationships are very important!   I hope everyone in crisis has wonderful friends to go cry with, laugh with, and just be yourself!    Real longterm friendships will just pick up where things left off and help you find a reason to feel happy and secure..... first step in LOA!

[pachacuti]

Take heart, my dear list mates. While I can't talk specifics about my situation, let me just say that today the universe spoke to me loud and clear.  I am indeed on the right path.  There is absolutely no doubt.  One day I will share the specifics of the events of today, but they were magical and left me convinced that the universe is conspiring to give me what I truly desire. 

For those of you still mired in doubt, I am certain that this works like I have been stating. First you learn to let go, however that happens for you, be it gradual erosion of attachment or some sudden burst of insight.  Then you will enter into an indifference, but a good indifference.  The indifference is quite scary at first, but as you realize what you have, you will come to treasure the peace it gives you and the confidence and joy you feel. Then, in this state, your desire with hit you with clarity and you will know exactly what you want and you will really feel that you have it already.  Watch for it.  If you persist, it will come.  I guarantee it.

Keep the faith, my friends.  It truly will all be wonderful.

Mark

[Bubbles]

I'm glad things are progressing well for you Mark!!

For me, I'm starting to really reply all those messages that have been accumulated in my dating portal for the last don't know how many months (yes I had that portal live even when I was attached but I didn't use it).

Time to enjoy the company of someone who loves me as much as I do. Hahah

[pachacuti]

Yay, Bubbles!!  Go for it and enjoy!!!  I'll be sending good vibrations in your general direction

Mark

[Bubbles]

Thanks Mark!

It's awesome to breathe fresh air again after being cocooned in that dark stormy period. Cheers to all and happy day ahead! (My day just started here in this part of the globe).

xoxo

[pachacuti]

After my last report, I immediately fell into funky town for a couple of days.  That hit pretty hard since I had been doing so well with being indifferent and visualizing so clearly what I wanted.  It was followed by some pretty sever feelings of jealousy, loneliness and hopelessness.  Part of me was still in the positive zone cheering me along, and if it were for my dear, dear 31, I may not have been able to make such a fast recovery.  In any event, today the universe passes the whole day stroking my head. I mean it. I keep getting these goosebumps that feel like a caress up my neck to the top of my head.  It makes me smile each time it happens.  I think my higher self is letting me be in touch with the higher self of my unborn child.  It makes me ecstatic to think that anyway.

As far as the negativity that I experienced, I will go with Abraham on this one and that that arose as I was beginning to go into an expansion with my higher self. Apparently when that is happening, our first impulse is to resist the change and BAM negativity. So, when you feel the negativity, you have another tool in the kit (in addition to examining the beliefs behind the feeling, gratitude lists, affirmations, and the like): you can try to fathom what specifically in that moment is the expansion that is taking you to your true desire.

Good luck and Godspeed to us all.

Mark

[Detached&Allowing]

Mark -

I truly love your insight.  Have a wonderful weekend.

[bravelioness]

Waah!The negativity keeps on coming back.I don't follow him anymore but I would most of the time find myself crying.I find the EFT thing hard to do.I'm trying my best to get out of this negativity but it keeps coming back.It's good that my friends don't grow tired of comforting me.

[Detached&Allowing]

@bravelioness - EFT can be very effective if you are doing it right.  Start by tapping on you the "karate chop" part of your dominant hand and say "Although I have a fear of {fill in the blank}, I completely love forgive and accept myself".  Then continue on to your eyes (both sides of the eyebrows), below the eye, below the nose, below the chin, right below the collar bone, under the armpit, and finally the crown of the head.  While tapping, work through your feelings.  Really FEEL them.  You may have to go through this a few times.  However, you WILL feel better.

[57angel]

Schenderson22 is right, I tried it and even those old issues and experiences that hinder us from completely forgiving, accepting and loving ourselves will be eliminated. In my recent setback, I really took the time to go back to reading EFT and really seriously learning about how to do it and then I flashed all the experiences I had since my memory can remember and started tapping. The setback I have recently made more than determined as before to become happier and I do feel a lot better after tapping. Hmmm I suggest you try listing all the aspects you want to check in you, and feel the emotion while you are tapping. If you still dont feel better, keep tapping and maybe do two or three rounds for one aspect. We all look forward for your post here that we can say you are already a Lioness who is that brave in throwing all the negative thoughts you have now. Best of LOA, take care!

[bravelioness]

I do try EFT but it only works for awhile.The feelings come back.Am I a failure?

[Detached&Allowing]

absolutely NOT!  The feelings you speak of don't just come from a most recent break up.  They stem from your childhood.  Go back and try to figure out why you choose (attract) who you choose?  Why is it that you feel so devastated?  These feelings and struggles stem from a long time ago.  Everytime the feelings come back.  Use your EFT and dig deeper into those feelings.  Cry if you have to.  You WILL work through your issues.

[Bubbles]

@brave: Of course you are not! Don't say that.

When my ex lover first left me, I had a lot of fear. Because he brought in a lot of fun things in my life.

Eventually when I stepped out of the shell and went to do those fun things myself - realizing I have many friends who would do the same thing with me and have more fun...

It dawned to me.... What was I so desperate about? I can create all those wonderful feelings myself.