I have some updates! i am not sure you know my story but basically i am seperated from my husband who had an affair with another woman and left me. at first he made it so difficult for me, all what he wanted was a divorce, he was so mean to me and didnt even want to see or speak to me. fast forward one year and after 6 months of practicing loa we are supposed to discuss divorce settlment, he didnt want solicitors involved because it was going to cost alot of money. at first i resisted, tried to be difficult as a way of getting back at him but then i asked myself why am i doing something that is against my true wish! and decided to give in and let go of the solicitor! since then he has softened quiet abit he even mentioned to a friend that he is not in a rush to get the divorce finalised. i have been ill recently and was admitted to hospital, in the past he wouldnt have cared but this time he has been worried and asking around about me.
he is also trying to help me make a decision about my life when he initially tried hard to enforce his choices on me as in where i lived. now he is becoming more and more the friend i once knew. i for a long time stopped telling him i loved him for the fear that will push him away but when i told him of my decision to not involve solicitors i said i am doing this because i still love you and i dont care what anyone would think about that. i told him that by denying how i felt i was hurting myself and he was free to react the way he wanted...he kept quiet when i said that. he hasnt said anything about getting back together but if it was his old self he would have cut communication with me all together after i told him i still love him. last nite i spoke to him and for a moment it felt like old times.
i dont want to be reading too much into this but maybe i am looking for some positive signs to keep me going on this journey
thank you beautiful people
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