Mother-in-law just called the cops on me, can my life get any worse???

[gogetter]

I am not trying to be a victim here, but yet another bad thing just happened to me. Everything compounds it seems and I KNOW this is my own doing, what I am drawing to myself with my own actions, I get it. But I don't know how to undo it!

Even if I sit here and think I WILL BE POSITIVE and I do the affirmations, etc, it is all fake because it is not even how I really feel.

I am vibrating with anger right now and just want revenge but I know that is wrong too yet I can't stop crying and I just want to cause pain back to those who hurt me!!!

My stupid ex got his mother fired up against me and the cops just called me and said she wants to charge me with harrassment and I am not allowed to EVER call there again. It was embarrassing trying to explain myself, it was humiliating and now they are all laughing at me and feeling triumphant and I hate it I hate it I hate it. I hate all of them!!! I wish they would die! I am sorry I can't help how I feel or maybe I can and I should but I don't know how, maybe I am bothering everyone on here and it is time to disappear and stop bring you all down.

I feel sick right now sick of everything. And I just wish I never ever had to talk to my ex or his toxic evil family and deal with their lack of love for the children ever ever ever again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Iron Ur]

normaly it is this boiling point that you reach where you find your blocks and problems and whats lying dormat under you.
 
affermations back be powerful BUT only if your set strait, you will not allow something if hidden deep down you don't beleive it.
 
if you self some time to get it out of your system as best way you can, don't put anymore focus on them, even when you want to get back at them just leave them be.
 
a freind of mine from work got a restraining order put on him when his wife left him, he was so broken up and angery he slashed his laptop.
 
the good news is he ended up getter her back and FAST, he got it out of his system, said "nothing I can do about it" and found himself another girl and the woman who divorced him AND put a restraining order againest him came back to him.
 
 

[Detached&Allowing]

Your vibration is what is attracting all of this.  You know this to be true.  You have to be the one to change it.  Start being grateful for whatever you can think of.  Yes, it is forced at first but it will get easier.  Things WILL get better.  You can also give this a shot.  It's called Ho'onopono.  Say it with sincerity and passion.

I'M SORRY
I have no idea what in ME has been creating all my circumstances that I don't want

PLEASE FORGIVE ME
For not knowing how I participated in these undesirable manifestations

THANK YOU
For clearing me of my limitations and negativity...I am eternally grateful to you

I LOVE YOU
I surrender to your love, knowing that you will bring me what I want for the good of all concerned

[Detached&Allowing]

I got the name wrong, it's called ho'oponopono

[loveofabundance]

And I just wish I never ever had to talk to my ex or his toxic evil family and deal with their lack of love for the children ever ever ever again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Guess what?  Now, you don't have to talk to them.  In fact, you couldn't if you wanted to.
 
as far as them not loving the kids, kids don't need an abusive parent in their lives anyway.  My dad was abusive and I didn't like him.  I dreaded when he took me for visitation.  The day he dropped all contact with me was the day a lovely ten-year old girl had one less dark cloud in her life.

[gogetter]

It won't be that simple.

My ex wants to call me when HE feels like it. He thinks HE can call the shots as far as when HE wants to be involved and when it suits him. So unless I block his number, he will still call and call and if I answer, he will be snotty and laugh at me for the police thing and say things like, "good thing you got put in your place bitch, you going to stay there now or do we have to beat you down some more?" And I just can't take it!!

And if I block his number, he will simply call me from a payphone. He won't try hard to reach me and maybe weeks will call where he doesn't, but he will always be out there, always lurking and always trying to talk to his kids, but only when it suits him.

He left his truck here and he left all his possessions in my basement and he has plans to come get his things and see the kids at some point in the future. Just great. Always hanging over me. Always looming. And no way free of him.

I want to run away.

[Iron Ur]

read this

http://www.psitek.net/pages/PsiTekTAASOPM17.html

[Vicki Christina]

Do not answer the phone.    Let all calls, unless caller ID is someone you know and want to talk to, go to voicemail or answer machine.   When I got a divorce, life was crazy but not abusive, however I put the ex's things in a storage closet and gladly paid the monthly fee until it was time to turn it over to him.  That way he had no reason to show up without a prearranged plan.   Feel your anger for a while and write, talk, cry, scream, hit a pillow with a bat...whatever to release some of it.  Then start your affirmations and gratitude list...  It will pass eventually if you do not react.   Hugs, VC

[57angel]

Gogetter, I can fully understand how it is to be in that situation. VC, IronUr, Love and Schenderson have good advice to you, follow them. Acknowledge the feeling of being mad and angry to everything that has been done to you. Acknowledge the feeling but do not ever let that anger and resentments to stay much longer to deprive you of a very happy life and ruin you. Acknowledge it and let it go, it is indeed a decision for you to let it go, even if we want it for you but if you choose not to, it will never happen. Decide to let those negative emotions there in you, the soonest possible time so you can start your affirmations and being so grateful for all the good things that happened in your life. This maybe the hardest part in your life, but take this as your learning lessons and try to see the good things for you - when you come out of this situation, am sure that you will just laugh at this, and will make you a stronger as a woman and better as a person. You deserve all the love in this life, always know that you are

[loveofabundance]

You can always throw his s**t out or give it to charity you know.  You can have his truck towed.  You keep giving away all of your power willingly and then complaining about it.  Why did you choose to call yourself gogetter when you're so seemingly unwilling to put one foot in front of the other?

[HelpingitHappen]

Gogetter,

I know I have said this before, but you have got to stop calling, stop trying to talk sense to those who have no sense.
They are doing what they are doing out of their own fears and feelings of inadequacy. They know they are not worthy of you and what they do only makes them think they feel better, when all thats really happening is they are getting farther lost deep into their own sense of self loathing.
You know you are right, they know you are right, but they are blind.
Your choice, or attraction to this forum is a wonderful opportunity for you to learn how to love, forgive, and let go. Thats all you need to do at this point. Love, forgive, and let go.
If you will do these things alone, your life will change from dark to light.
It will not be easy, it will be a challenge, but you are a gogetter, you have within you all you need to free yourself from your unhappiness.
Keep up with the affirmations, and keep convincing yourself you are not affected by the actions of the blind people that taunt you.
It may seem like a lie now, but remember, a belief is a thought, you keep thinking, and soon this will embed itself into your subconscious and will become a fully fledged belief.
I would not call, I would not take their calls, If somehow he does get through, find out what he wants, if it doesn't involve paying you child support, or seeing his children, then kindly say, "no thank you", hang up and move on from there. And in no way make him aware that his calls, or presence affects you in any way. (You can take him or leave him, makes no never mind to you) This will undoubtedly make him rethink how he treats you.
Choose NOT to be his victim. Turn this around and make him work for your attention.
I don't want to be a stick in the mud here, but I am feeling like maybe this guy may not be what you truly want. In this case, maybe you are better off using LOA to attract someone better, someone who has a head on their shoulders, someone who will offer you love, and support your decisions in life. Someone who will WANT to be a part of your kid's life.
Either way, whether you want your ex, or someone else. You MUST let go.
Hang in there baby, I know things will go better for you. You have to believe it though, You have to KNOW it.
BW

P.S.
Find out through your local law authorities what you can do about removing his property from your place. He should be placed on notice that if he doesn't remove these things by a certain time and date, then it will all be deemed abandoned property and removed to the local landfill.
The truck; here we call it "State Impound" You call a wrecker service and tell them that this truck is parked on your property without authorization and they should come haul it off. If he wants the truck, he must go to them, pay the fees, and they will release it to him. If not, they will store it for a certain amount of time, then sell it at auction and he loses it all together. If that wrecker service doesn't do that, then pick their brains to find out how to get it done.
These things will send him a message, that you are not going to be walked on. He either stands like a man, or hides behind mommy. His choice, but you have to follow through with all you say, or it will all be for not.
It will also feel good to have regained some power. Its not revenge, its about letting go. 

[Ginny]

Even if I sit here and think I WILL BE POSITIVE and I do the affirmations, etc, it is all fake because it is not even how I really feel.

This is your problem right here. From my own experience, it does absolutely no good to fake positive emotions - they have to be genuine.

A trick I learned from the Abraham-Hicks books, which really helped me: don't be so intent on being "positive". Sometimes the distance from here to there is too great for us - instead of trying to be "THERE", focus instead on making steps in the right direction. ANY step in the right direction is a good one, no matter how small, so be happy and grateful for them as they arise.

The other thing is, don't mistake "positive" with "socially acceptable". This is about you feeling good, not about feeling in a way that you think other people think you should feel. If it makes you feel a little bit better to vent your rage and frustration, then that's better than faking a happy smile and feeling terrible inside. The hope is that you wouldn't dwell in rage, but could then find an even happier / more positive perspective from that vantage point. They rank the various states of emotion, and the point is that if you're moving towards a more positive emotion, even if it's from "crappy" to "slightly less crappy", then you're headed in the right direction. Choose the thoughts that make you feel better, not worse. It sounds like trying to be "positive" is making you feel worse right now.

Does that make any sense?