Moms....Not sure how to handle...

[DancingQueen]

Hey guys...

I'm not really sure what I should do here. I love my mom so much! I know she really cares about me, but I wish she would stop worrying about me so much! I've been trying to attract my ex back, but at the same time I've been struggling with fears, and sometimes these fears caused me panic attacks. So for this reason, I've been stepping away from attracting him back and trying to work on the panic attacks.

The problem is, my mother knows I've been having them. She just doesn't know why. And she keeps asking me if I'm okay, and trying to give me advice. I really do appreciate this, because it means she loves me and cares for me, but every time she talks about it, it feels like its affirming me that I have a problem that I can't move past. I feel like she's not giving me a chance to get over this myself. I know my mother is just being a good mom and worrying about me, but I feel like I can't get past this if she keeps trying to talk to me about it.

I've actually politely asked her to stop mentioning it, and she's promised, but she's broken that promise many times. I'm not sure how to handle this situation delicately with her, because I really do love her, but I need to have my own time to get over this ex-boyfriend fear-stuff. : (

[Mr Brightside]

I had the same issue. Have you tried meditation? I can find you a link for a good one if you like, they arnt that long but great to relax you. It will take some time but trust me it really helps , and you will feel so much better

[Detached&Allowing]

I can totally relate.. my mom does the same stuff... it isn't about my bf so much as it is about my career, living circumstances, etc. 

All I can say is forgive her in your heart and listen to the following with headphones. Make sure the right headphone is over/in the right ear, etc.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wUaRoo8-ty4&list=FLnBDT1ODm-LCip0Iym6RogQ&index=8&feature=plpp_video

Much love and the very best of LOA to you!

[Sneha]

Aww ...I am with you here.My mom s to worried but my marriage.I try to pacify her but I feel worried when I see her like this.
They are our mothers, who gave birth to us so it is natural that they are connected and concerned.Just try to keep things amicable the two of you.I have been trying this , u can try too---- love and positive thinking,spending happy time together helps a lot.

[Feelinggreatnow]

Hi Dancingqueen, i can relate to what you are going through coz i am also in the same boat as you the only diff in my case is they want me to reunite with my ex with whom i am totally uncompatiable and both my parents are together on this. When i thot about it one thing i understood is  that it is their sixty years of belief that a girl needs a man to keep her happy and secure versus my two years of faith based on understanding  and learning about loa that my life partner with whom i am totaly compatiable is on his way. From time to time my parents say that no such person is there and if any one comes he will only be with me for a few months and then he will leave . I nitially i used argue with them a lot, but then i realised that the arguing puts me in to negative vibes which is not good for me. So now what i do os when ever they are talking to me on the same subject line i pretend i am listening and sometimes i nod my head in form of acknowledgement also,  but inside me i keep on affirming. Everything in my life is smooth and easy going and i visualize all things me and my partner are doing together. This fills me with positive vibe. 

[Feelinggreatnow]

Hi Dancingqueen, i can relate to what you are going through coz i am also in the same boat as you the only diff in my case is they want me to reunite with my ex with whom i am totally uncompatiable and both my parents are together on this. When i thot about it one thing i understood is  that it is their sixty years of belief that a girl needs a man to keep her happy and secure versus my two years of faith based on understanding  and learning about loa that my life partner with whom i am totaly compatiable is on his way. From time to time my parents say that no such person is there and if any one comes he will only be with me for a few months and then he will leave . I nitially i used argue with them a lot, but then i realised that the arguing puts me in to negative vibes which is not good for me. So now what i do os when ever they are talking to me on the same subject line i pretend i am listening and sometimes i nod my head in form of acknowledgement also,  but inside me i keep on affirming. Everything in my life is smooth and easy going and i visualize all things me and my partner are doing together. This fills me with positive vibe. 

[Feelinggreatnow]

Hi Dancingqueen, i can relate to what you are going through coz i am also in the same boat as you the only diff in my case is they want me to reunite with my ex with whom i am totally uncompatiable and both my parents are together on this. When i thot about it one thing i understood is  that it is their sixty years of belief that a girl needs a man to keep her happy and secure versus my two years of faith based on understanding  and learning about loa that my life partner with whom i am totaly compatiable is on his way. From time to time my parents say that no such person is there and if any one comes he will only be with me for a few months and then he will leave . I nitially i used argue with them a lot, but then i realised that the arguing puts me in to negative vibes which is not good for me. So now what i do os when ever they are talking to me on the same subject line i pretend i am listening and sometimes i nod my head in form of acknowledgement also,  but inside me i keep on affirming. Everything in my life is smooth and easy going and i visualize all things me and my partner are doing together. This fills me with positive vibe. 

[Feelinggreatnow]

Hi Dancingqueen, i can relate to what you are going through coz i am also in the same boat as you the only diff in my case is they want me to reunite with my ex with whom i am totally uncompatiable and both my parents are together on this. When i thot about it one thing i understood is  that it is their sixty years of belief that a girl needs a man to keep her happy and secure versus my two years of faith based on understanding  and learning about loa that my life partner with whom i am totaly compatiable is on his way. From time to time my parents say that no such person is there and if any one comes he will only be with me for a few months and then he will leave . I nitially i used argue with them a lot, but then i realised that the arguing puts me in to negative vibes which is not good for me. So now what i do os when ever they are talking to me on the same subject line i pretend i am listening and sometimes i nod my head in form of acknowledgement also,  but inside me i keep on affirming. Everything in my life is smooth and easy going and i visualize all things me and my partner are doing together. This fills me with positive vibe.