Me too want my ex back...long distance. Advice?

[Chantal]

Hello sweet people,

Finally I found something on Google (this website and the law of attraction) which I think should work! I am new to the LOA, but I am using it since 4 days and already think I had a great experience with it. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 5 months ago after a relationship of 7 years. Last year August (2010) we emigrated from the Netherlands to Belgium, in a big city.

I was homesick, missed my friends and saw him becoming emotionally seperated. I also was very jealous and did not give him enough space. After the break up, I moved back to my birthplace, 3 hours travelling away from him. Perhaps that is also something I wished for all the time, but now I am here, I wish I could be there again, with him. He said he didnot love me enough. 1,5 week ago I sent him a text with Thank you. He called me, he said he was just leaving his parents place and almost wanted to visit me with a bottle of wine. That didnot happen, but we called for 30 minutes. He said that I was a cool girl, that if I was in the neighbourhood I should come around and that we will talk to each other. So, we still have a little bit contact tough.

At first, I begged, pleased, confessed my love, said I wanted to stay, everything. All negative emotions. I just know he is the one for me. Today and tomorrow I will work on my vision board. I am looking for a study in the place he lives in right now, because I really like studying and going to school in Belgium is a lot cheaper than in the Netherlands. I just emailed him, with a link for space for his painting activities and said, that perhaps I would come around within now and a little while. I really miss him. He hurted me so much (when I visited him after 1,5 monts I saw him trying to persue a girl in front of me, he brought my stuff 3 weeks ago very angry and almost immediately wanted to leave, and other nasty things, but that is not something I'd like to  focus on right now)

I tried to sent love to him, and guess what? 5 minutes later I was overwhelmed with an extremely warm feeling! Does someone know what that was? It was a bit odd, but very nice! Does anyone have suggestions for me, how to stay positive, have trust, learn about myself and more? And is it wise to look for a study over there? I really want to go to school again, so. But it is also a bit for him and the hope that if I am there again, I can make him love me (that was one of the main reasons he broke up, that I was so negative about the city)

Hope for reactions!

[Priestess]

Hello, Chantal!

Your story doesn't sound too bad. First of all, you have an emotional connection with him that has been lasting for so long! And about the present moment, I can tell you are doing much better than many others have had, in similar situations. You are aware of your past mistakes and of what you can do now.
His bad behavior may somehow be justified, because you were stepping on his nerves by acting desperate. I don't think he did that out of hate or other terrible feelings... people react badly when they encounter something that puts so much pressure on them...

If you're able to send love, you're doing really good  Those moments when I could do that were the best for me, too. And yeah, this autumn I'm celebrating 5 years of my long-distance relationship. He left me some months before, it was all terrible, but he came back recently  ;)

[Chantal]

Hi Priesteres,

Thanks a lot for your reply. I read your topics (because I was a bit curious what happened when you started to use the LOA) and it is really a miracle!!! How are you doing right now?

Well, I did not get a reply or what so ever when I emailled him today. Also a bit confused I suppose, because the boy also said to me at the phone last Sunday that I really traumatised him and that last weekend was the first weekend he did not went out since I left. I know he is flirty, and can't help it at this moment thinking about what the hell he is doing. When I visited him 2 months ago, he said he did not wanted to have a relationship and he wants to be crazy about someone (darn!) and wants his freedom. Ok, that was the negative part. (I am normally really negative, it is a bit hard to just let that go... )

Tomorrow I'd like to start with my vision board, there was a funny thing: I needed a printer, (also, i am an illustrator, so I really need one!) because the printer of us is still in Antwerp, I looked at marketplace yesterday. I could get a printer for 25 euros. Today I could pick it up. I almost wanted to leave, when my brother called me, we had an appointment so. He said: "What time will you be there?" I answered: "First I have to go somewhere", he replied: "Whereto?" So I said I had to pick up a printer for 25 euro's. He said: "I have a printer, you may have it if you want", not sure if it works, but I hope it will, so, I suppose it will.

Well, it is also a cool thing that I am not nuts or something and you have experienced the sending love and get it back too... hehe... again thanks a lot! Have a great day and again, thanks! PS: How long did it take before you saw something happening by using the LOA? And how long did you used it to get your man back?

[Priestess]

Hi, Chantal!

First of all, please excuse me for being late with my reply, I am caught in activities that take much of my time...

So, as I understood, your guy is still in a trauma state because of your past together? This may be because either he is a slow healer, takes him more time to figure out things and get a different perspective, or you haven't changed your energies enough. When you guys are still connected energetically (and couples are, even if they separate for a long time), he can subconsciously feel your energy. Therefore, if you are still worried, frightened, negative towards him, he will get that message and maintain his attitude.

A thing I did and you must be very aware of is the fact that there are 2 people involved. I knew that my guy has his own way and just kept the faith that maybe he will change his mind one day and come back. There was nothing left for me to do but to remain silent.

How long did it take before you saw something happening by using the LOA? And how long did you used it to get your man back?

ummm... one may say it was very fast. First, I noticed my small jewelry business got successful overnight, exactly when I wasn't worrying about it, but needing some funds. I enjoyed it a lot. This was delivered to me right when I needed it (what unseen wisdom, eh?). About my guy, I still don't know how he'd been during our months of separation. I just know that our energies were 'communicating' very well and we even got to do the same things exactly at the same moments.... (found out later). Well, I've always believed he loved me much and can't simply let go of me.. and, no matter what, he'd never really get me out of his life... Perhaps it was this strong conviction that brought him back to me?

I was not really "using LOA"... nor am I today... but I'm using these laws and insight to make myself better and to understand things that are going on.
If you want to 'educate' yourself better, then I can suggest to start by being honest to yourself, to look inside with sincerity. When you feel trapped in thoughts of him, just imagine he can hear you and tell him your most honest wishes, feelings and thoughts. It is very important to be sincere at that level. We usually put on a lot of masks, often fooling ourselves too about what we are.

Take care and have a lovely time!