UPDATE!!LIES LIES LIES....:(

[MEL]

IF YOU ARE DEPRESSED; YOU LIVE IN THE PASTIF YOU ARE ANXIOUS; YOU ARE LIVING IN THE FUTUREIF YOU ARE AT PEACE; YOU LIVE IN THE PRESENTTHIS IS NOW---- so need to feel depressd or anxious or worrying about the future. 

this is a great quote crazysoul....

[lovebird]

Wow! I hope you enjoy your time together, and that things will work out for you both! Oh, I so needed to hear a story like this, and I can't wait for an update! A happy inspiration!!!

[sh-boom]

your potential new relationship could not be a success if this secret was buried. it needed to come out into the open and he obviously did not feel strong enough to do so, but it needed to come out and the universe helped it on its way. think about it? had he openly told you he had been with another when you had asked, would that have made it alright? would you have been fine about it then? probably not! the important thing is that it is out in the open, and it is no longer a secret eating away at what could be a potentially beautiful relationship.
or maybe this is the thing you needed to be able to move on and find someone better? either way do not rush, do not be hasty, it is hard and it hurts, but when we make decisions based purely on emotion we often do things we regret. take a while to think things through, let your head and your heart reach a balance. and then decide what you want to do.
God bless you x

[traceymar]

i cant find the words to thank you enough...all of you...
i guess most of you are right but now i feel so betrayed...lost...hurt...in pieces...he let me down,plus he gave me a very serious infection...i ve been to the docs today...i ve also talked to him again,on the phone, he was crying again and kept asking sorry for the pain and the problems he caused me...
well,right now i only care for my health...but this virus will always remind me what he did as it stays in your body for life...
time will show....
all the best to all of you...

[lashark]

If you think the law of attraction is something you quit or start or stop or learn or do, then you have got it completely wrong.

Traceymar I wish you the best in life. Be with peace and love always and remember "to air is human. to forgive, divine!" -shakespeare

[JustForToday]

i am sorry that you feel this pain and hurt. and i am sorry that this infection will stay into your body for life time 

i also want to encourage you though to rethink your reaction. of course, at first you are in shock and hurt. but think of that- he was honest at least, brave enough to tell you the truth... a big sign of his love for you. he could have kept this secret if he didnt want YOU. the other woman means nothing to him, that is the reason he "lied"---- she has no place in his heart, so why should he risk his relationship by telling you the truth about such an unimportant thing for him?
to be honest, i would have lied as well. he was just afraid to lose you, so he kept silent first. and you havent been together at this point right?
dont feel betrayed, cause somehow he didnt. he loves you and told you finally the truth about what he did while you were seperated right?
this is a point to grow and learn from each other.... see the things clear. he didnt cheat on you, thats my opinion....

take some time to get yourself clear.

i send you love

[traceymar]

thank you lashark...

crazysoul, thank you again...for all your support...
he was not really honest or brave cos when i asked him yesterday he refused and called me paranoid, it was only after i started crying, explaining about the infection and begging him to be honest that he admited it...i dont know what the other woman means to him, i ll never know...
no we were not ''together'' at that point but it was supposed that he was trying to face his fears so we could move onto the next step...
i ll definately need to take some time to get myself clear...hope time heals...
all my love!
hope you are happy...you deserve it...xxx

[JustForToday]

i know what you mean about being brave- but he was somehow.... by being scared that he would lose you because of this and still admitting it. i am sorry that this happened between you and him, but dont take it pseronally. some men are running into something else to get distracted from their pain. and so he might.
he loves you, you know the truth now and its painful- i would be very hurt as well. but when you look deeper... why did he "lie", why did he has something with this woman, why did he finally tell you the truth? try to see a slight difference between chaeting and cheating, you know what i mean.

i hope you will find the peace and forgiveness in your heart to let him in again. he is already so much in pain and learned his lesson for sure. please give you both a new and fresh chance.....
and please stay here with us and keep believing in loa......

 

[traceymar]

well i guess i have to learn to understand male psychology...any men here? it would be nice to hear their opinion as well...
you are right, i know he loves me even though he is been foolish
i hope he learned his lesson and he trully realizes what he did...
ofcourse i ll stay here with you crazysoul i do believe in LOA even though am mad at everything now and i might say things i dont really mean...
thank you!!

[JustForToday]

wow, that sounds much more better:)))

HE WAS FOOLISH AND HE LOVES YOU

hope that stefzilla will show up here or any other man

[AS & I ARE HAPPY MARRIAGE NOW :)]

Hi traceymar,

Really sorry about how things turned out for you...

You can use LOA/switchwords/Gratitude to heal yourself too... BELIEVE that you can be healed... Please focus on your HEALED BODY

http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2012/03/05/complicated-health-cases-can-be-healed/
http://www.ask-gratitude.com/feeling-based-prayer.html

The Science of Miracles Gregg Braden

traceymar IS PERFECT HEALTH
traceymar IS TRUE LOVE
traceymar IS ABUNDANCE
traceymar IS PEACE
traceymar IS COMPLETE TRUST
traceymar IS COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP

LOVE & GOD BLESS,
NS

[Mr Brightside]

hope that stefzilla will show up here or any other man

Crazy you don't need any other man when im around. . Well it’s kind of funny or sad that I have lived through most of what people post on here. Before I start I was the guy in this situation, so yea I know what he feels.

My advice is let it go, I know its hard and right now it hurts but trust me the sooner you get past it the better. That other woman was nothing but a rebound, and the fact that she has STD’s should prove enough to you that she gets around pretty easily. He made a mistake, im sure she was all over him and guess what we all have our moments of weakness and things we regret. He feels terrible, as I did, trust me I cried many nights over it because of the guilt and shame I felt. Not only because I hurt someone I love but because I knew I made a very bad choice. My girlfriend ( this was many years ago) at the time forgave me, but it was something that always came up when we fought and really it dragged our relationship down for years. SO if you care about the guy, don’t torture him with this, because trust me he feels as low as you can get. If you guys get back together is really up to you, and if you decide you love him them forgive him. He made a bad choice, she was a rebound and a sl*t so don’t think of her as anything more than that. As for the std (which I have a feeling I know) don’t worry about it, yes it never goes away but 99.9% of the time you will not be affected by it whatsoever. 

Anyways my advice, and no I don’t have it lol if someone is wondering.

[lashark]

and no I don’t have it lol if someone is wondering.

Hahaha. Very smooth.

[lise]

@ stefzilla I understand that you're attempting to make Tracey feel better but I think criticising the other woman is counter productive. She met someone , he wasn't in a relationship at the time, why is she to blame? Because she has the STD? Well the original poster now has one, is it proof that" she gets around a lot."  No of course not! A close friend of mine caught an STD from her partner. She was with him from being 18 years, he was her only partner and she was faithful to him. They were together 20 years. It only takes once . She was symptomless for a long time before she knew she had it and therefore had she been with anyone else could easily have passed it on to someone. I hardly thing slagging off this other woman is useful.

[Dr Scully]

I agree with everyone else on here.  I'm sorry about the infection   That was the worst way you could find out but you would've found out eventually.  Forgiving him will help yourself heal.

As for why he lied, he didn't want to hurt you. Simple as that.  The other woman meant nothing to him.  (I don't know if you saw my other post but my ex lied about being on a dating site after we broke up, and I found his profile anyways.  It upset me but if he really didn't care about my feelings he would have just flat out told me about it instead of lying.  There would be no guilt there).  Same thing here.  He knew it would upset you and that's why he didn't say anything.  Also, you were broken up so technically he didn't have to tell you anything about his single life, as much as that hurts to hear.

This doesn't mean he doesn't love you.  She was just a rebound, he was probably upset over you and trying to get over you.  Also I've been in situations where I would be fighting or broken up with an ex and a co-worker has gotten VERY flirty and friendly (to the point of being inappropriate) afterwards.  Some people are just sneaky like that and will wait for an opportunity when you are vulnerable.