UPDATE!!LIES LIES LIES....:(

[traceymar]

hey guys!
hope everyone here feels better than i do...i feel so tired and disappointed, i dont know what to do anymore...as many of you here, am trying to get my love back...for those who havent read my story...i broke up with my bf of 4 years cos he got cold feet about moving into my country ( we had agreed that this was the best option). Anyway, its been 3 months since then and we are in limited contact...last week while txting each other i asked him if we could meet since i ll be off from work for 2 weeks...he said that he is working crazy hours and we wont be able to spend much time together (its true, he works about 12h a day)...i was disapointed cos i thought that if he really wanted to see me he would grab the opportunity, after all it was me who was flying out to meet him...so i told him that i understand, that its my fault  for insisting too long and that maybe i ll just have to give up...he said that he it makes him sad that i think he is just giving me excuses and that we would like to write me a mail explaining some things...
for the next 2 days i waited for the mail but nothing...then he txtd me asking if i read it and why i hadnt reply...i told him that i never got a mail from him and asked him to send it again...he said that he would do it as soon as he could...its been 3 days since and he didnt send anything...i cant take this anymore...i really dont understand him..if he doesnt want anything from me anymore why didnt he just accepted it when i said i ll just give up and started this story with the mail?
yesterday his mum called me (we have a very good relationship and she wants us together)she told me that she is worried, cos he doesnt talk to anyone and that he spends a lot of time in his room...she also said that he still has all my pics in his room...
i dont know what to think anymore, its killing me...i ve tried so hard to apply the LOA...vision board, affirmations, positive thinking, going out and having fun...you name, i did it...i believed so much that i would meet him these days...i asked for signs if it would happen and got them all...but now i see that it wont happen and i feel that am losing my faith...am wondering...does the LOA really works...if it does then why it seems that everything is going against me...? am so confused and am worried am falling into deep depression...i would appreciate any thoughts or opinions on this guys...

[simplyjess]

Hey traceymar,

While reading your story, some things I noticed were expectations and interpretations. Now I'm not telling you to have no expectations whatsoever, but there are some "If he this...then he would...." going on. He definitely has feelings for you and wants to make the effort, but keep in mind that different people show their love in different ways. Your expectations are based on your own "language of love" (there are 5 in total), while his may be different from yours. Look at the things that he DOES do and appreciate them (e.g. still having all your pics in his room, writing you the letter, etc.) This is something I wish I knew when L and I were together, because back then I would think "if he cared, he would do this..." When something doesn't go as expected, I complained and pointed out what he WASN'T doing. Thinking back now I really wished I believed him when he said, "But I DO care."

Expand your perspectives and try thinking from his point of view. You said how it's been 3 days since he said he would send you a letter. The situation of not receiving yet is just an event, but as humans we interpret it and give a subjective meaning to it. We start thinking of WHY he didn't respond, but keep in mind that your interpretation is only ONE of the many reasons he did not respond yet. He may just be very busy and too fatigued to write a proper letter to you. Think about it this way: If you have an important letter to write to him, would YOU write it when you are stressed and tired from work?

Don't give up!!! You have the chance here to shift things around by starting with yourself. To receive more of what you want, give it first, and trust that things will happen in its own time. Sorry that this was a bit lengthy, but hope it helps

[chrissy8907]

I think if you truly believe and can imagine you both back together in love having just a fun life. Don't give up!! Focus but at the same time let go . You have a very good level head on you I can tell from your writing . Just let go and I promise it will all come to you. It's all working in your favor , you just have to let it

[traceymar]

Hey simplyjess! thank you so much for your reply! your words surely made me think about some things...i do try to see everything from his point of view and i try to put  myself in his place...i really dont want to give up...i love him so much...i hope you are right! thanks again and all the best to you!xxx

hey chrissy!!many thanks to you as well!! i can imagine us together...we are so perfect for each other... our relationshoip was great, the only problem is that he cannot decide to move here with me...
you said '' focus but at the same time let go'' can someone really do that? how? can u advise me on this please?
thanks again! all the best! xxx

[JustForToday]

i agree with the posts above!

focus---- keep your desire
let go--- get detached more, especially about the outcome

while reading your story i couldnt find something which makes me think he is not interested or anything. he is interested in you. just enjoy the time now!!! appreciate each step he is doing and appreciate your relationship with him.

dont give up, but try not too hard. try to focus on your self more. sometimes we try to focus on the manifesattion too mcuh and hard.

clear your mind, ask for the email again and enjoy. he will be back.
today i saw something wonderful on FB:

IF YOU ARE DEPRESSED; YOU LIVE IN THE PAST
IF YOU ARE ANXIOUS; YOU ARE LIVING IN THE FUTURE
IF YOU ARE AT PEACE; YOU LIVE IN THE PRESENT

THIS IS NOW---- so need to feel depressd or anxious or worrying about the future. 

[traceymar]

thank you crazysoul!!i appreciate it!
just i feel so tired and disappointed again...in the end, yesterday we txted each other and he said that he would try to do it but nothing again...but  i know that he was on his computer for a while...dont know what to think...i have no more strength to fight for this...its like he is always putting me on hold...and i have no more excuses for him...
anyway, i guess that was it...i really hope i ll find a way to cope and be happy without him...
a big thank you to all of you...for all your support and love!
may you manifest anything you desire!take care my LOA friends!
all my love...

[truelove]

Sorry didn't mean to 'like' what you said because you sound so sad...

anyway, i guess that was it...i really hope i ll find a way to cope and be happy without him...
 

What I wanted to point out is that it is this that is holding everything back Tracey. You have to be able to cope and be happy without him, because that means you love you.

I have learnt that the Universe will only give you as much as you can handle, when you can handle your life you get more life.
If you feel like you are not coping with your life, you must get your things in order, and make yourself happy, regardless of him. FOR YOU!!
You are the most important person in your life and if you are not loving and looking after yourself, no one else will.

I hope you understand what I mean here. I feel the letter is not coming through because YOU are not connecting with YOU! Make the connection to yourself and your connection to him will flow..

Lots of love to you Tracey
(p.s. I am Tracey too! So I guess I am also talking to myself here haha.)

The love you want is inside of you! xxx

[traceymar]

thank you true love!
i do understand what you mean and am sure you are 100% right but its so hard to put these words into actions...
am now trying to connect with myself...to love and take care of me! if in the end he sends that mail i ll deal with that at the time but for the moment i ve stopped expecting and caring about it...
have a great day!!
xxx

[traceymar]

HEY EVERYONE!

I JUST WANTED TO SHARE MY NEWS WITH ALL OF YOU!
SOMEDAYS AGO I WAS SO FRUSTRATED ABOUT NOT GETTING A MAIL FROM MY LOVE, I WAS SO SAD AND READY TO GIVE UP...BUT THEN, I GOT THE MAIL!!!HE TOLD ME HE DID WANT US TO MEET AND MANAGED TO TAKE SOME DAYS OFF FROM WORK TO DO THAT!!!WE HAVE NOW ARRANGED TO MEET IN ANOTHER COUNTRY(NOT HIS, NOT MINE), SO WE CAN BE AWAY FROM EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING ELSE, FOR 5 DAYS! WE AGREED NOT TO TALK ABOUT OUR PROBLEM OVER AND OVER AGAIN...WE WILL JUST GO, ENJOY EACH OTHER AND RELAX...DONT KNOW HOW IT WILL BE...I'VE PROMISED HIM AND MYSELF THAT I LL JUST BE GRATEFUL FOR THIS AMAZING OPPORTUNITY, FORGET MY WORRIES FOR A WHILE AND HAVE FUN WITH HIM LIKE WE USED TO DO!
AM HOPING, THAT EVEN THOUGH WE'LL NOT MEET TO SOLVE OUR PROBLEM,  IT WILL HELP HIM REALIZE HOW GOOD WE ARE TOGETHER AND RETHINK
WISH ME LUCK GUYS!! I DO NEED YOUR POSITIVE VIBES!
ALL MY LOVE TO ALL OF YOU!! XXX

PS. THIS MEETING IS ON MY VISION BOARD FOR THE LAST 2 MONTHS  AND EVERYTIME I ASKED FOR SIGNS ABOUT ITS MANIFESTATION, I GOT THEM!!

[Sneha]

Wow tracey ,amazing news! iam so happy for u.not talking about ur problems that u have decided.u deserve tension free lovely romantic relaxing time.just have fun, feel happy.universe is their to take care of the rest.thanks for sharing ur happy news with us.

[traceymar]

Thank you so much Sneha
i ll do just that, relax and feel happy! i trust that the universe will take care of the rest!!
i ll share more news when i get back!!!
have a great day!!
xxx

[sunnysideup]

Hey Traceymar

So great that I came across your story, it is almost identical to mine... I spoke with my guy yesterday and he said that he was comfortable that we are separated, but I know from friends that he is not, that he still has our pictures up etc etc. I'm seeing this as a break to focus on me , and for him to focus on him. I know that timing is everything, right now I am enjoying going down-stream... there have been a few rocks down the river.. but i'm looking forward to meeting him at the bottom.

Really happy to hear your news ... positive stories like these give us all hope

Have a great time holidaying together

[truelove]

HEY EVERYONE!

I JUST WANTED TO SHARE MY NEWS WITH ALL OF YOU!
SOMEDAYS AGO I WAS SO FRUSTRATED ABOUT NOT GETTING A MAIL FROM MY LOVE, I WAS SO SAD AND READY TO GIVE UP...BUT THEN, I GOT THE MAIL!!!HE TOLD ME HE DID WANT US TO MEET AND MANAGED TO TAKE SOME DAYS OFF FROM WORK TO DO THAT!!!WE HAVE NOW ARRANGED TO MEET IN ANOTHER COUNTRY(NOT HIS, NOT MINE), SO WE CAN BE AWAY FROM EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING ELSE, FOR 5 DAYS! WE AGREED NOT TO TALK ABOUT OUR PROBLEM OVER AND OVER AGAIN...WE WILL JUST GO, ENJOY EACH OTHER AND RELAX...DONT KNOW HOW IT WILL BE...I'VE PROMISED HIM AND MYSELF THAT I LL JUST BE GRATEFUL FOR THIS AMAZING OPPORTUNITY, FORGET MY WORRIES FOR A WHILE AND HAVE FUN WITH HIM LIKE WE USED TO DO!
AM HOPING, THAT EVEN THOUGH WE'LL NOT MEET TO SOLVE OUR PROBLEM,  IT WILL HELP HIM REALIZE HOW GOOD WE ARE TOGETHER AND RETHINK
WISH ME LUCK GUYS!! I DO NEED YOUR POSITIVE VIBES!
ALL MY LOVE TO ALL OF YOU!! XXX

PS. THIS MEETING IS ON MY VISION BOARD FOR THE LAST 2 MONTHS  AND EVERYTIME I ASKED FOR SIGNS ABOUT ITS MANIFESTATION, I GOT THEM!!

Wow!!! This is wonderful news Tracey. I think it's an awesome idea to just get together and enjoy eachothers company, not focus on the problem, just focus on the present and the wonderful time you will have together! This is lovely!!!

[traceymar]

Thank you sunnysideup!
positive stories here gave me hope and faith when i needed it, thats why am sharing mine, hoping i ll help others as well!
i hope you will meet your guy and everything will turn out the way you want them to be!! stay positive! my thoughts are with you!! all my love

hey truelove!!
thank you so much!!i ll keep you posted
take care!!xxx

[hellokiki]

great news!!!! i am sooooooooooooooo happy for you