Many ppl asked this,now I am asking too...

[krousnik2345]

Brief info on my situation:
She broke up with me 3 months ago, after 5 yrs relationship ( we are both 25y ). Reason was she said, there is no more spark between us ( need to point here that in the last 3 months of our relationship, I was very depressed due to some personal problems, and I was very "closed" and somehow distant ) . She changed her life drasticly, before she didnt have that many friends, now she has lots, before she didnt really go out, now she doesnt miss the ocasion etc .

 I kept calling once a day for two weeks, trying to reason, but stopped after I realized there is no point. During this time she told me that she is in love with someone else ( great,right? ). I started to read forums, get-ex back books etc, and I stopped contacting her, and started my healing process. I contacted a few times because it was necesary but most of the contact came from her. In the past 6 weeks, she contacted me every week once, mostly to ask for favors,I beeing a nice guy, responded kindly ( damn it ! ).

 During these contacts, she told me she was never together with that guy, but now she is in love with some other guy, who lives 1000 miles away. And that this is the one for her. At this point I cannot say if they had a meeting, because I dont know. All I know is that she said that she is single, but loves the guy, and wants to be with him and no one else. I cant find words to explain how I felt when I heard this. She also pointed out that she cares for me, but does not love me, and that we are friends now ( statement to wich I didnt respond ). Enlight me please, how can someone fall in love two times in 2-3 months? Is she confused? Does she know what love means? Is it just lust that she feels? Or needines, desperation? I am trying to understand all of this...but I fail !

 I love her, I am disapointed and hurt, but I am trying my best to move on. I dont call her, but I respond when she calls. When we talk, I try to be positive and happy, I make jokes etc, not showing my true feelings. What should I do? I am new to LOA, I read this entire section of the forum. Should I stop all contact with her, and try to learn and implement LOA? Is it too late?

[Moonpetal]

Hello!

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I know how it feels.. I have been in that situation as well and what helped me is focusing on myself and focusing on attracting that state of being when I felt worthy and deserving of love and letting go of any anger and resentement because if you focus on these feelings you will only attract more of them. The way you see yourself and situations around you is the way others will respond to you. By giving more love and attention to yourself  you become happier, positive, more vibrant and  people are attracted to this and respond to you in a similar way. You become like a furnace and others become attracted by your warmth.

In my story, this man got engaged a few days after we were planning a date. Back then we didn't know each other that well but still, you can imagine how hurtful that was after exchanging love for each other. Anyways, I let it go and did exactly what I said here but never stopped having loving feelings for him, always thought of him in a tender way but didn't let it run my life because after all, I am the center of my cosmos.. After a couple of months he sent me a message that he broke up with her and that he missed me! Imagine my surprise We are dating now, we have our ups and downs and what gets me through these downs is that what I have said about feeling good and being positive..

Hope that helps even a little bit! Good luck

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

[DH4-everhappyinlove]

Well said Moonpetal

Krousnik.... No it is not too late...it is obvious that she is confused but don't let that be an issue for you believe me you will never understands everything she says but know though for a fact that there is still feelings there for you or else she would not even bother to contact you...Start by working on yourself concentrate on you, I don't think you have to cut contact with her unless it is affecting you negatively...since you have read this whole section of the forum n alot of books i am sure you have come away with some good advice also ways and steps on how to apply the law and moving forward from then on...you can always come back here to post your progress and ask for additional advice...so go ahead n start applying the law you have done well so far so that is a plus for you.

much love and peace.

[Moonpetal]

Thank you Good luck to everyone and lots of love!

[krousnik2345]

Thank you both for the posts !
I admire and appreciate your positive thoughts !
I also dont think that its too late, its hard, but with time it will get better. Long journey is ahead of me.
Thank you again for your insights !

[Believing Love]

Moonpetal ... wow !!
Your story is very inspiring

Krousnik2345

Im attracting my man too and he is also in doubt on who he really love right now .. But he still said that he loves me more than anyone that ever close with him and of cos he said that he love me but he cant be with me.
I was devastated I was down.. But today after im cool headed I think this is a great progress for me because he is telling me how he feels.
I believe whatever happen next is what im focus on what i want to happen. Because Im on the pedestal now n not him..so universe will definitely give whatever i want.
So you need to be sure of that too,dont say its going to be a long journey because the universe doesnt understand time limit. It act to ur vibration and i believe we could get them in 5mins if we believe and transmitting the right vibration. Nothing is too big for the universe !! Remember that !!

[krousnik2345]

Yes I agree with you and thank you for the post.
As I stated before, I am new to LOA, I've been reading about it in the past 2-3 weeks. What I realised was, that it gave me exactly what I asked for. You can see in my story that in the last 3-4 months of relationship, I was depressed and closed. Basicly during our relationship, we never lived together, but she would spend a lot of time ( days and nights, lets put an average of 4 nights a week ) at my place. So during last few months, when she said to me " I think I will sleepover tonight "  I was thinking   "omg,again...ffs I need some alone time to figure out my stuff". I even got warnings from her, she said many times that I will cry over her when we split, I tho never belived it.  There it is, she and " it " gave me what I asked for, and what I deserved ! This is why I am a firm beliver !

[Moonpetal]

Thank you Believing Love. There is another side to it though - beware of what you attract because you might just get it! Sighs

Krousnik, I don't think she is over you, maybe just confused! Good luck

[Katie]

Oh yes, we do get what we think. I know I attracted everything negative that happened with Patrick since last December. I was severely depressed and I kept on thinking : if only he could leave me alone, if only he could go out without me, I just want to rest and be alone... and when he told me several months later that he did want to go out without me and live his life without me  I realized that the Universe gave me exactly what I wanted.

The good side is that we can reverse things. I changed my thoughts and I attracted him back. Like all laws, LOA is impartial and impersonal, which means it works when you want it to and when you don't want it to.

[57angel]

Knowing that we will get everything that we ask for when backed up by beliefs, whether consciously or unconsciously is what makes us all who knows this be in the lead in our lives All the more when we know that we have the power to change our circumstance made me feel excited every day as things unfold before me You can be, do and have everything that you want Krousnik, am sure you will get her back just like Katie

[krousnik2345]

Thank you all for the posts and positivness. I give you all my blessings .
I know what I have to do, exept one thing.
I dont know how to handle the contact,because it can backfire. If I dont answer the phone next time she calls,it can go in 2 ways, a) she can freak out and force herself to "wake up" realizing that she lost me forever, b) she will get stubborn and just give up. If I answer, a) she will see that I am here for her anytime she needs anything aka "safety net" and also that she can use me (not too attractive for any female) , b) risk to get into the friend zone.
If she stops calling,and for example I contact her every 2nd week,just to see how she's doing,this would probably mean that she's over the situation and I need to close the door.
Thoughts?

[krousnik2345]

No one? lol

[Katie]

Krousnik, I understand what you mean. But I don't see where the problem is in getting into "the friend zone". Alot of members here have no contact at all and they would love to have a phone call from time to time. If you are just friends for the time being, that is something you can build on. If you think this is bringing more negativity than anything else, it's up to you to decide if you prefer a no contact situation.......If you think she is using you because she calls when she needs this or that, set your boundaries. In loving and respecting yourself, you will attract love and respect from her.

[Moonpetal]

Krousnik - "If you think you can or think you can't you are right either way".  When having doubts, what you get is more situations that will manifest more doubts. I manifested a lot of this in the relationship with this man and now am going to stop this and focus on what I really want, it was interesting to see that everything went downwards exactly when I started to have these doubts. The law of attraction does work indeed!

 You care about her so much, and you care about you too and a man who has confidence in himself and who knows what he wants is very attractive and alluring

Well said Katie, in loving and respecting yourself you will attract love and respect from her

[krousnik2345]

Thank you both for the posts