I am in need for some advice and possibly a push in the right direction. So my husband had an affair a year an a half ago, he asked me to leave, told me he didnt love me anymore and was so mean to me...all throughout i held on because i love him! i cried, pleaded, begged, made a fool of myself for months and it only got worse...he filed for divorce which is still not finalised yet!
then i came across loa and started applying it! affirmation, staying positive, believing that we are meant to be together...etc, in addition i also focused on creating positive experiences with my him...we are seperated but every time i speak to him on the phone even if it is discussing the divorce i sound very positive, happy and accomodative! at first i was getting defensive, talking about my rights, blaming him but then realised that was just driving me closer to what i really didnt want and instead i gave in, i decided to become true to who i am not for him but for myself and that is an understanding, loving and giving person and started exhibiting that to him...he has become more friendly with me, responds to my texts and calls and we speak for near an hour every time, discussing other things like our jobs, we laugh, share jokes....etc
i know the other woman has stopped being in his life! everything sounds good so far but the problem is that recently the legal side of things has become abit more complicated, solicitors are trying to make it tough on him, which will likely end up in him paying more than he can afford. he is a generous man but since we split he hasnt been with me and he is materialistic, in the sense money matters to him...and since things got more complicated on that front he seems to have softened quite abit with me...he talks and shows me he cares! the other day i mentioned to him that a friend of mine is doing an counseling and it is working and i was saying it in a joking way that maybe we should try it but then he said send me the link, i would be interested...well this came as a shock, this man had no ears if i may put it that way, one year ago i begged him to go for couseling and he gave me an outright NO! now he is willing to have a look at it!!! well he hasnt said he still loves me or asked me to get back together but he is softening and the marriage counseling thing came as a big surprise for me!
I spoke to friends and family and they are all discouraging me saying u need to realise sometimes that a relationship is not meant to be and just let it go! they are all being negative and raising doubts in me! what i am struggling with is whether this is geniuine from his part or is it because of money issues! could it be my practicing of loa manifesting? i would appreciate any opinions because i am in risk of falling back with this