Love.producer needs advice

[JustForToday]

of course it is hard the first days!! but dont look at her life, look now at yours 
use this time to care for yourself.... to learn to love yourself. do some affirmations as i said already and do things which heal you and help you to move on.
stay with us, take some of the positivity from our members here and begin to be grateful for every little thing you have..... move one, the quicker you detach, the sooner she will evtl come back or someone who is even better for you!!

dont give up

[Happybeingme]

I'm coming into this conversation a little late but I too understand how you feel. You are not alone in your feelings, many of us have been or are exactly where you are. It takes time to heal. You did not miss your one chance because I do not believe if it is what the universe wants for us that we will only have one chance. Please never ever think about ending your life. You do not need this other person to be happy. I know it seems that way right now but let go of her and you will see that you can be happy by yourself and quite possibly with another. I know it seems scary to do, because you feel that you have to hold on tight or you will lose all possibility at getting her back. but what you end up doing by holding on so tight is pushing her away and losing yourself. What you have been doing has not helped you be happy so why not give it a try and let go. It has been about 10 months since my ex broke up with me and he has been with another since then. I very much know how difficult it is to let go and how scary it can be. but you will do it in your own time. I have just recently felt the relief of letting go and I can tell you it feels great. I am happy again on my own and while i think about him and sometimes wish things were different, i no longer think that i will not be happy without him. I am going out and meeting new guys and for the first time in a long time seeing what else is out there for myself and not in an effort to try to get him back. You will get to this point too I promise. Her life is not better than yours, you control your life and your reality and you choose to believe this. Your life and happiness is in your hands and yours alone so don't look at her life and what she is doing or who she is with. do what is in your power to make yourself happy each day.

[love.producer]

I just want to express my gratitude to all of you who care for me.
wow, if there is anything i can do in return, just tell me

thanks for all private messages i've gotten. Its beautiful to see how many actually want to help, and they don't even know me! haha
Today I feel like i can do this! Ill try to hold on to this feeling!

No more watching or comparing from now on. Its just me. even if it feels like dying at the moment.

so much love to you all i feel cared for, i really do. thanks

[Mr Brightside]

  No problem, we are all in this together

[Free bird]

love.producer i was at the same position at u r right now and many of us have been thru wat u r going thru............all of us realized one big thing that loving urself is the key thing to get watever u want, even if it is her...........fearing ,jealousy and desperation will only take her further away from u...........so even if u want her or move on..........watever u wanna do, path is to be positive, to be man who not just her but everybody would love to have around............show gratitude to things around........do ur hobbies (play guitar, any sport or such thing)..........when u will be a new and improved u............sun shine will shine at u again........just take care of urself, and love finds its way to u

[JustForToday]

I just want to express my gratitude to all of you who care for me.
wow, if there is anything i can do in return, just tell me

thanks for all private messages i've gotten. Its beautiful to see how many actually want to help, and they don't even know me! haha
Today I feel like i can do this! Ill try to hold on to this feeling!

No more watching or comparing from now on. Its just me. even if it feels like dying at the moment.

so much love to you all i feel cared for, i really do. thanks

WATCHING---- NOPE
COMPARING--- HELL NO

you are unique and precious, just like anyone else!!!
it always feels like losing ground when you are leaving a mindstate which you were used to have...
like i cant be alone, i need someone to love me etc...

you are learning something new now, new ways, happier ways to a happier life
and it always feels like cold water 

[Baxter4ever2]

GUYS I NEED YOUR HELP!!! I attracte dthis guy that i would see around and now were together, and hes really serious about me, but i for one am not. But i like him because hes silly and hes so into me. but then again i attracted this other guy I know through friends and im quite attrtacted to him, but now idk whichj to choose? should i leave it to the universe?
but what if i keep thinking and attracting them both.

[love.producer]

lol baxter, you could be me right now.

just enjoy the ride

[love.producer]

My heart beats irregular.. I can't do this.
I accidentaly saw a picture of her. and it was taken at the location her new lover lives.
I just wanna dissapear. this is too much for me.

im trying to forget her but i love her and she is treating me like a stranger. She has totally forgotten how good i am. and It seems like i have too.
will she ever come back? man 10 months and i loose?

She probably doesn't even think of me. I wish i could forget her like she has forgoten me.
Im so hurt, maybe i should go see a shrink or something :s but they will only give me pills which i don't believe in very much.

damn my heart is beating strange, i gotta go take a shower or something. Is anyone here???

[Mr Brightside]

Go for a walk or have a shower... take like 20 min and just relax. Im sorry i know how you feel, but you really have to avoid seeing that shit

[Pretty_Smile]

Do you have anything to keep yourself busy for a while ? Like a project or some housework ? Or if you have some funny movies laying around you could have a movie night

[vanessa202]

the universe moves in mysterious and wonderful ways, last night i read a LOA story about a girl who was in a very simular situation to you, her guy was with another women and all hope had gone but she got her man in the end! it blew me away! when i read ur post i knew to find it and post the link as i know it will give you hope again.
http://thesecret.tv/stories/stories-read.html?id=17644
blessings xxx

[arminhul]

Bro you just need to divert your energy get busy. I am in the same spot as you. I had my birthday a few days back. She didn't even wish me. And to think I was her everything while she was with me and I didn't even shout at her once when she broke my heart. I don't exist for her. You have to be prepared to lose her forever for eternity. Once you are prepared you cannot lose in life. Let the love go. It will come back to you.

I had a lot of fun on my birthday anyway. Try man you can do it. I did it. It is not impossible. Just keep busy.

Let go. Let go. Surrender. The past is history. Patience friend. Don't wait for happiness. Be happy. Think happy. You will be happy. Avoid her like the plague. All the information, no facebook, just avoid it and you will be at peace. The lesser you know the better. Trust me. I believe it. We are going to be crazy mad hopping nuts happy. Have patience. Walk the path. Be the man.

I wish I could meet you bro. I so identify with you. You can do it man.

[love.producer]

thanks so much arminhul you're the man! haha.

Yesterday out of nowhere she removed me as friends on facebook.
here we go again. she has done this before, and that was when she was dating this other guy and then months later she added me again and wished to stay friends.
So my first thought is now she is pretty serious with this new one or they just did something serious ( sex whatever ), because she always does this when she feels "bad" for having me as friends and at the same time dating someone else.

this is actually good also, it means there is something between us, otherwise she wouldn't bother.
Now i will let her imagination spook the hell out of her, i won't even respond, she won't know what I'm up to. That can be very sexy sometimes, because her imagination works in my favor. I wanted to yell at her and say"WTF you were the one adding me wanting to stay friends, whats wrong with you?"

but I won't its better not caring, also its more attractive being strong.
im gonna do this, let her go.. SHE WILL FEEL IT. SHE WILL COME AROUND SOONER OR LATER.
And who knows, maybe i still love her then, maybe i don't.

its just so crazy that she removes me all of a sudden.... unprovoked, as always she is battling with soemthing

[Free bird]

Thats the spirit love. producer..........now u r finally becoming a man and gaining control over ur emotions...........Bro just keep this spirit up and we all right here to help u, guide u and listen to u........its time for urself.........its time for u to take responsibility of urself and nobody can do that btr than u

Cheers to u