Long distance relationship case...please help!

[David V.]

Hello everyone. My name is David, and I come here to ask for help in a place like this, where it is common belief that everything is possible.

I have been in a relationship for three years, 2007, 2008 and 2009 with the one woman I have loved more than anything. On January 14 she broke up with me, because I had indeed become dependant on her, as the fulcrum in which my troublesome past and my brilliant future laid. My greatest dream was to become a family man with her at my side, and it became my undoing in the long run.

I worried insanely about her safety, and in doing so, unknowingly broke her trust and underestimated her as a person, which was also why she broke up. I made the obvious mistakes immediately afterward. I was angry because we both swore our union would be everlasting. I contacted her too soon [two weeks after], and she only said "I am done talking with you". I said and did brainless things I am barely now forgiving myself for and learning from.


My case is such that, being a long distance relationship, she easily can detach herself from me by closing the means by which we communicated, and never responding [or perhaps even bothering to read] to anything I ever attempted to explain to her.



How can LOA work in a case like this? I read in a thread here that after I did enough work with myself, I should contact her. But the problem is, she as of now wants nothing with me, and blocked me from her sight. I doubt she will ever again respond to me..no matter how much I have elevated myself to.

..even though I know I love her. I want to love her more properly. In a more mature and responsible manner.

I also know I am SICK of being told things like "too late", or "give up, boy". Such is what I have been told everywhere else.

[tereza]

Hello! I too am in love with someone who lives far away.

I suggest that you read this thread:  http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/law-of-attraction-for-relationship/bible-of-getting-your-ex-back-dns-post/

This guy attracted his ex back and she said she never wanted to see him again! So there is plenty of hope for your situation.  Especially since you've known her for so long and it is obvious that naturally there is something that attracts the two of you to each other.

You just need to get yourself back. I went through a similar process a few months ago and decided that from that moment on, I would only allow things in my life that made me happy because I was so miserable at that time.  So I quit a job that I didn't like(only took it because I wanted to earn more money so I could move closer to my love), I threw out all reminders of bad times (clothing, pictures of exes, etc) and even ended friendships with people who were nice people, but were bringing me down with their negative views on life...

And after a few months, I felt much better. 

It's still an ongoing process to stay positive and focused on taking care of myself, but each day gets a little easier.  Also,  just recently I contacted my ex because I felt led to contact him and we've started talking again.  Sometimes I get a little sad because I remember something bad from the past, but then I remind myself of the good things that happened and that are happening now.  I also read the inspiration stories over and over to remind myself that anything is possible. 

[Galia]

 

Great advice from Tereza here! Love it! This link is very good and helpfull.

[David V.]

The distance between her and me became very real when she purposefully distanced herself to the point of blocking me out in every conceivable manner. As it stands, I cannot hope to contact her. How can I still make it known how much of a winner will I become? Is LOA -THAT-  immensely powerful that she need not hear from me to know?

[Galia]

David, this is all about natural chemistry, energy connections etc...DO READ this article and you'll understand very clearly : http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/law-of-attraction-for-relationship/bible-of-getting-your-ex-back-dns-post/

[David V.]

Thank you for your concern. I did read it whole and it helped me wonders.
But I am stuck at this part, or at least right now I am, since I was blocked from anything and everything by her:


5) AFTER YOU'VE SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETED ALL OF THIS, GIVE HER A CALL AND SUGGEST LUNCH OR COFFEE.

After all this time has passed, the old relationship will be completely under the bridge. You can call her and just say "Hey, I was just thinking about you and decided to give you a call to see how you've been. Let's catch up over coffee sometime. I'm usually at the Starbucks on the corner of XYZ and 123 Street on Saturdays around noon. It'd be great to see you if you can make it."

[Galia]

 

Personally, of what I saw here, exes are coming back by themselves in the most part of the cases...so people even don't need to contact them...

I would advice you not to think about contacting her at this point. Do your inner work, be happy by yourself and if she is the one the Universe kept for you, she will unblock you from everywhere and she will be the one contacting you...this is what happened to many people here in the same situation...

The point is to do your inner work and become an attractive person (talking about energy)...

Good luck!

[David V.]

What an amazing thing that is....honestly, that reply did its part in bringing me tranquility. Most thankful, Ms. Galia.

EDIT - I have one more question. In another thread, I think, it said that I could dedicate soe minutes to send her loving thoughts. Or at least, to send her my love the most unadulterated manner possible, without fear, or frustration of anything. Should I do that, or forget the matter entirely?

..she is the one I chose, that is why.

[Galia]

David,

this is all about being happy and ready to receive, so being gratefull and detached of the outcome...

I think you can do general affirmations as well and actually the point is to be happy truly happy without her - this matters more than what kind of affirmations you will do - general or for a particular person.

Here some examples: 


" love comes to me without any effort"


"I have a clear idea of what I want in a relationship"


“I attract a loving relationship in my life"


"I give and I receive love"


"I am a filled up radiant being of light and love"


"I deserve love"


"I believe now that the relationships can be joyful and funny"


"I am open the others, I give and I receive love"


"Whereas my love for myself increases, it goes the same

for my love for (........)"


"I project love"

[miss_giggles]

David, an important thing seems to be the drawing back of our energy and focus on them. I read on here somewhere of someone who took the focus of their ex and back on themselves and out of nowhere, their ex contacted them unexpectedly, so i think because of this connection u share, they can feel when u withdraw. havn't u ever liked someone only for them to tell u their not interested and then the minute u let it go, they contact u! just focus on u and it will all click in to place. :-)

[David V.]

As of right now.....In one moment, I feel like I am gathering my own personal power and focusing on my motivations.....the next, back to feeling the void her absence left at first.

Yes.......I thank you very much for your support, Miss_giggles.