LOA and reality: how to behave IN PERSON?

[UpLOAding]

One of the most important messages I got from the film was "Whatever is in your mind or you think about influences your mood, your visualizations, and what you attract." When they talk about relationships, there is an artist who always draws and the counselor tells him not to draw things he doesn't want.

I interpreted it this way:
Ignore anything that you don't want.

e.g. If the girl you like is with someone else, don't think about them being together, don't think about the other guy, etc.

But I didn't understand one thing:
Does this mean we have to actually behave that way?

e.g. when i am with the girl must I behave as if we're already a couple, treat her like my wife, and stuff like that? And if the other guy comes, must I behave as if he is invisible and doesn't exist?

In general, when I use LOA to attract her, how must I behave when she is physically present?

[lise]

Personally, I stick to visualising rather than behaving in that way as I think the other person could be at best perplexed at worst scared off. I think some things that are suggested are bordering on displaying mental health problems. It's one thing to visualise and imagine the feeling you'd have when you get what you want - another to act as if someone is your wife when you're with them when they currently have a partner. I'd feel stupid and would undo any positive vibes I was trying to create. But that is just me.

[UpLOAding]

That's the problem!
 
All this time I've been confused as to how one should actually behave in person, and I interpreted what the LOA instructions said as doing everything possible to re-establish those feelings, vibes, etc. in real life as well.
 
Damn me. Damn me.
 
I seriously need advice because I want to follow LOA, but this is all so contraddictory...

[lise]

lol @ damn me damn me.

I don't think you can follow the loa as such - it just is - it exists. what you're aiming to do is to utilise your thoughts more positively so the things you attract are good rather than negative.

I think you need to focus on the good things in your life and be grateful. Visualise what you want things to be whilst not obsessing - then detach from the outcome. In person, you need to be friendly, happy and none obsessive. Easy peasy! lol It's not though is it when you really want something because you are attached to the outcome.

For me -I try not to beat myself up to much about negative thoughts - at least since reading the loa - I'm more aware of my negative thoughts and TRY to overcome them. I'm hopig in time this becomes much more easy as it's not my natural inclination to look at the bright side.

I do try to listen very closely to my intuition and address my subconcious (doubts!)

[UpLOAding]

I'll give you a very specific example of what I did, and would like to ask what you would have done, according to LOA.
 
The girl I love starts speaking positively about another guy, praising him and smiling while thinking about him.
What I did so far: do as if I didn't hear anything or think about something more positive e.g. a song or some entirely different topic.
 
However, recently she asked me:"Why do you always change topic when I talk about him?"
So I said, "Oh, I dunno, I was never very interested in him". Not in a negative way, but simply indifferent.

[lise]

Well asking me what I'd have done is not necessarily what I suggest you do. I'd have probably rolled my eyes and pretended to be sick everytime she said how much she liked him! - well not quite but I'm not great at hiding my feelings!

Does she know how you feel about her? If not, why not?  If she knows - I'd be honest and say - I find it hard to listen to sometimes becasue you know how I feel about you but sorry, I didn't mean to upset you.

If she doesn't know - I'd maybe say - I didn't realise I did it really - perhaps it's a bit of the green eyed monster. I'd love someone like you to feel like that about me. Sorry, I didn't mean to upset you.

It plants the idea that someone like you likes someone like her - without specifically saying you and her.

[UpLOAding]

Oh, that's interesting =)
 
Regarding my story, I wrote about it in "Success Stories". Well, we were best friends, like brother and sister. I tried to take it to a higher level but I think I moved too late since I am very opinionated about pre-marital sex and promiscuity. So she has been more interested in other guys in the meantime and I agreed that we can be friends - for now
 

[Iron Ur]

accept the moment, livein the NOW and be happy and gratful for what you have in that moment

[Mergirl]

Hehe I had a similar problem. I am firm follower on the concept of act as if the thing you want you have, as suggested by Abraham Hicks. This happened on the weekend this forum was down because of maintenance and I had to post my question on another loa community.
Anyway I had changed my fb current location to Canada and then a friend who lives abroad asked where I was and I lied and said in Canada and I couldn't tell her that I was faking it to align myself there through loa. Well I was feeling guilty for lying and I normally hate lying and even for loa I am not one to feel good about it. Well according to the feedback given on the other forum, acting as if you have it is more of something you do in your mind so that your sub-conscience is tricked into believing that it is your experience and that you see it so to help manifest whatever it is you want into reality.

[Mergirl]

Ps I still have my current location to Canada so when I sign in I see it and convince myself i am there or will be. As for anyone who asks me, I just say not yet but I am hoping to soon.

[UpLOAding]

So, let me try to get things straight and understand what all of you are saying:
 
LOA has no specific "instruction" on how to behave when we are physically together with the person we wish to be with, and we should figure out by ourselves how to improve the relationship?

[Akshita]

Hi uploading..
I think I've been facing the same problem. Ive read a lot on the LoA and I guess I've been trying to follow all the procedures. I think we should just stick to what we think would work for us. If u think visualization works for u, stick to it.
If behaving in a certain manner works, just practice that.
I think even I should follow my own advice. 

[UpLOAding]

LOL, Akshita, in a way that is the most intelligent thing I read here since the first day I came here
 
As I told in my topic in "Success Stories", I really followed what LOA inspired me to do "there and then".
 
I'm just scared now that I might have exaggerated at times. Or sometimes I'm scared that it's all "just my imagination".
 
On the other hand, I think that I would have never achieved a certain level of success without being 100% enthusiastic and active!
 
 

[Akshita]

I understand...at times...i feel I may be over-doing things. I get scared too. But its a law. Its supposed to work. And it will. For both of us and for everyone else here. Lets just have patience and stay calm! 

[UpLOAding]

Man... it's so hard to ask advice from experts who believe in different values...
 
...but anyway I think these days I had some positive developments and positive success!
 
Way to go!