Law of Attraction & Perfect Relationship

[Ankur Sancheti]

They say "matches are made in Heaven", I believe "Matches are made in Thoughts". A great relationship starts with respect for the one (you want to be your friend or soul-mate), first in thoughts then in reality, like as I said earlier, "If it’s in there, it’s out there." A great relationship starts right in thoughts, manifested through constant attraction with faith, that you have already got one with you. Isn’t that interesting?
                              
Have you every observed, you do not get along with someone for years, though you are near to him/het, at the same time you take not more than few seconds to spot the one who you will get along very well. Isn't it interesting? Well, sure it is.

It has very simple explanation. When someone who we call likeminded or the most sought after for you, bypasses, you feel your frequencies to find soul-mate or a friends are answered or responded, and this is enough clue for you to follow one. This is how we meet with our great friends or soul-mate.

I met with a person (who today I call with pride my Great Friend) on my way back to home from Office. Well all you need to do is, to keep attracting with faith, Just keep the end result (what you want) in mind, do not bother or waste your time thinking, how will you meet him/her, where? When?

Universe knows the shortest, most plausible, quickest and the best way to get you back what you want, provided you keep attracting with faith.

There is limitless scope of attracting a perfect relationship with Law of Attraction.

Over to you Now!
Ankur

[matthewferry]

.. and the law of attraction can be used to make the relationship last and be successful.

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Hmm... That is interesting..

[Banani]

And what if you already know the person and you already know that the person likes you too, but for some reason misunderstandings keep on happening?

I'm a young woman who's totally into this guy that I've know for two years now and I know that he likes me too but he's really busy and sometimes I don't hear anything from him for months but then suddenly he's being really nice to me and he wants to see me again. He is the type of person that doesn't want to get married and have kids and I don't either, but I do want to have a more close and trusting relationship with him, I want him to bare his soul to me and keep in touch constantly, not only once in a while. I want him to really care and worry about me and i want him to come to me if he feels sad or happy or confused or if he needs help or just someone to talk to. But so far he's been quite distant and I never really know what to expect from him. He might call me today and tomorrow but I might as well never hear from him again... Sometimes I'm scared that he doesn't even really care. But I want him too. I want him to love me. I don't want him to love him like I'm his only girl or something but I want him to love me like I'm one of his best friends and most favourite people to be around.

Do you think that I can make that happen with my thoughs? It's so funny that I'm asking this cause I know that the Loa works and I know that if you want something you can make it so, but at the same time, a part of me still won't believe that this is possible for me. Almost like everyone can do it but me I know that's not true but that's just my insecurity I guess..

Ow and I forgot something, he keeps also keeps on telling me to meet with this other guy and I really don't want to, i wouldn't mind to get to know that guy a bit, but I dont' just want to meet with someone I don't know at all and I don't understand why he keeps on pushing me to do so. I want him to stop pushing me and just leave it for me to decide...

Is that also something I can change? And how?

I'm thinking by writing this down at this forum I am kind of forcing myself to do something about it and to actively change my thoughts and habits to change things and to manifest what I actually want. I'm planning on updating my progress in this situation so others can see where I started and how I (hopefully ) made progress

XXX Banani

[Andrew Wilkie]

Banani,

How do YOU create these misunderstandings?  What prevents you from communicating in a clear and concise way about you and how you feel. Fear? I think you know my answer to that one - EFT.

You know your end result, with some caveats. You know what he doesn't like.  There's your answer -

Sometimes I'm scared that he doesn't even really care.

There is your focus -

I don't want him to love him like I'm his only girl or something but I want him to love me like I'm one of his best friends and most favourite people to be around.

You know LOA works, so what is your stumbling block or fear? Tell him what you want point blank. (This will bring up your stuff). My guess fear mostly.

If you could easily get over the fear, which you can, then what?

You've provide great advice on the forum, what would you tell others to do.. Go do it!

[Banani]

Thank you Andrew! Your advice is so helpful <3
Now I think about it, I realize you're completely right about the fear. I let the misunderstandings happen because I'm too scared to clearly tell him what I want. I'm scared, very scared that he won't like what I want and I'm scared to loose him because of that. And the silly thing is, that the only way that what I want could fail, is by not being clear about what I want
I think what I should do is writing down exactly what it is that I want with this contact and then visualize it en feel the happiness that it would bring. And then the way to act will be shown to me. That's what I would tell others So I guess it would work for me too...

[Banani]

What I want:

I want to see him once a month on average, 12 times a year altogether. I want to email him once a week and I want him to email me once a week. I want to speak on the phone with him every two weeks.
I want him to talk about his day, about how he feels, about what bothers and excites him, basically what’s going on in his mind and I want to give him advice and listen to him and I want him to appreciate that.
I want to tell him about what’s going on in my life and I want him to listen carefully and give me advice and be happy for me if I’m happy and feel sad for me if I feel sad.
I want him to get back to me within a day if I email or call him and he doesn’t have time to immediately reply.

I want him to call me on my birthday and I want him to invite me to his birthday party. I want to meet his close friends and I want him to introduce me to them. I want to take fun pictures with him and I want to have dinner with him when we see each other and talk about our lives and our hopes and dreams. I want him to be open and honest to me and I want him to really care for me a lot. I want him to kiss me passionately when he sees me and I want him to hold me for hours and stroke my hair and kiss me everywhere. I want him to smile when he sees me when he wakes up next to me. I want him to listen to my music and read the things that I write and look at the pictures that I did. I want him to like what I do and I want him to give me advice on how to be successful. I want him to tell me about the music he likes and the books he read, and I want him to ask me about my favourite music and books so he can read it /  listen to it too. I want to keep in touch with him like this forever, until we both die and then in our next lives too. When he’s older and less busy I want to have him around more, I want him to support me in what I do and I want to be there for him when he’s ill and lonely. I want to be one of the very few people that are really close to him and that he trusts thoroughly…

Wow.. I guess that’s what I want… What do you think? Can I make this happen?

[Andrew Wilkie]

Yes, you can make it happen. I would however to make it easier on yourself not, make 'the big day', a birthday. Why?  Birthdays, Christmas, New Year. They are already important days. You already have so much going on, on those days.

That's not to say that he wont contact and involve you on his birthday, yet does that make a birthday? If he doesn't call then what.  Will you sit there all day waiting?

[Banani]

I agree that maybe I shouldn't make the birthdays this important.. but I do this because my birthday is very important to me and his birthday is important to me as well. The last few years, every birthday I have felt sad that I didn't talk to him that day. Also, both our birthdays are only a few days apart from each other and his birhtday is on Christmas day. I only want to see him one of these days, all that other stuff, the dinner and all that doesn't have to take place on that day.. but I guess it's not about what happens on our birthdays but it's about what happens every other day of the year...

[Andrew Wilkie]

Banai,

You're already seeing what happens when you made a "big" day even bigger. You're sad. Change the date. How about write our you goal, it is now "date" . Make the date after your birthday. End your writing "this or something better". Therefore, it could easily happen on your birthday if that is the "better".

[stevelewis]

This is a good story for me to follow... It has similarities... Well I was getting little "How are yous?" every other week and once in a while... Well this was letting HER be in control, I was jumping, and not being in control. I might have waited up to a week to reply, but I ALWAYS replied...

Well I'd had enough, and whilst I'm still not ready to be with her, I want to be one day, I'm still not 100% sure what I want either, but part of it was knowing what she wants too (educated decision is better than none, and one answer I wanted was what does SHE want from me now)...

We had an awkward conversation (where we run out things to say), cos it's not the same, there are barriers right up... Well I bit the bullet and asked her out right "What do you want? You may not know, but what is it?", anyways, we spoke and talked more than we had for a long long time, and it was good. yeah she doesn't quite know what she wants from me, but I will now contact her when I want to (no more little bits of crap from her), also we did get cut off due to me having to go somewhere, and she wanted to continue the conversation. I said I wudn't mention the bad stuff from the past (she just cut me out with no good real reasons overnight), and I didn't, but did want to clarify that it wasn't a 'fake' relationship. I'm waffling here... I don't want or need to post details...

Anyways the point of it is, I bit the bullet in the end, said what I wanted to, I got honest answers from her, and actually kind of what I expected, a few barriers were removed, I don't think either of us are ready for each other at the moment, and maybe never will. But I took that chance and it was good, we'll speak again soon, and finish the conversation, gives her a few days to mull it over too...

So tell him what you want (and yes DONT set dates!) hehe  

[Banani]

So it's been several weeks since I wrote the things above and it's time for an update because SO MUCH HAS HAPPENED! I saw him again, he actually invited me, listened to me, took me out for dinner, told me personal things, let me meet some of his friends.. it was unbelievable. It was exactly the way I always dreamt it would be, but it never had happened this way before so I already kinda gave up hope. But somehow things changed. it was so amazing and I was actually crying because I was so happy and because I couldn't believe that what I've dreamt of for years, finally had come true!!! But it's been two days now and I'm starting to feel scared. What if this was the best I'd get, what if he won't like me next time? What if it will all go wrong and I'll always be hurt and apart from him??? I don't know what to do about that. I know I shouldn't feel scared and I should trust and believe and stuff but it's hard... I like him more than I ever did and I want to be his girl but I'm scared it can't be and I'm scared to get hurt... Any advice???

 So I guess the most important questions are:
-how did this happen all of the sudden... what did I do different to cause the major change?
-how can I keep on trusting and believing?
-what do I want now?

Here are my answers:
WHAT I DID DIFFERENT: I've been visualising more, I've become waaay more confident,i knew very well how i wanted to be treated and how i wanted our contact to be like, i wasn't desparate or obsessive about it but relaxed and open minded
HOW TO KEEP BELIEVE: notice the major change and believe that if I was able to take it from hopeless to amazing, I can also take it to excellent. know what i have to offer and why it's good for everyone. write about it, visualize it and make sure that my happiness doesn't depend on just that.
WHAT I WANT NOW: I wanna be his girl. His only girl. For ever. That's what I think I want. But I don't know for sure, I wanna find out, I wanna spend a lot of time with him. But I am 1000% sure that I want to keep in touch with him and be at least real close friends forever.

[stevelewis]

Banani, sounds similar, but I have just started again with the girl of my dreams, and it's hard (messed it up by being clingy with her before a month or so back, and I scared MYSELF off again!) TRust has been broken in the past, and because you've not let go completely you're going to struggle with that. Even though you may be feeling scared, etc DONT let him know this. Did you cry in front of him? It's hard, you've got contacts it's amazing, let him come to you again, don't do clingy, and hide what you MAY be feeling (scardeness, worrying, etc) from him. By all means feel this in your own time and use EFT, etc to make it less painful.

You say you're not sure what you want, but you want to see where it could go with him. I know it's hard (Im there too), but relax be greatful you're in contact with him again, and just see where it goes. Good luck with it!

[Sneha Kulkarni]

hey banani!!

Thats amazing!!!