Law of Attraction & Perfect Relationship

[Detached&Allowing]

I think it is amazing he came around.  Don't put a limit on how long you should give him to call.  You have two choices - either dwell on all the "what ifs" which will only bring you pain or have faith he will come around and maintain his most recent behavior. 

Something that caught my attention in your original post is you say you never want to get married or have kids.  Don't answer to me, answer to yourself, do you really want to be single or just in a committed relationship without the ring/marriage/kids?  Sometimes, as women, we forgo our wants to settle for just a bit of attention.  Do you really want to be with a guy that you only talk to periodically?  I ask these questions, b/c I was there.  I negotiated what I wanted and settled.  However, my true desires and LOA were much stronger than my situation.  Eventually I walked away and found my true love.  Someone who is inline with all my wants/truths/desires.  Someone who wants me as much as I want them.  We have been together for over a year.  Live together and will be married in the next year or two. 

Good luck!

[urmila37]

hi to everyone, i just want to know much about law of attraction & perfect Relationship. I have a bf with whom i share a very good relation through a year but few days back due to his personal problems our relationship is undergoing many problems.Now a days he is not calling me nor he is messaging me. I know we share a relationship of soulmate and have dreams about our good future. But due to financial problems that recently hited our life we are undergoing through bad circumstances i dont want to loose him nor he wants to loose me but the problems are critical and i need some solution through which i can remove my family members as well his family members out of this bad situation. Please do guide me

[Detached&Allowing]

I would recommend focusing on you.  The more you focus on the possibility of losing your friend the more it will come about.  Be grateful for all the times you had together.  Visualize seeing/talking/spending time with him.  However, I do have one question (rhetorical) are you sure he hasn't started dating someone?  Many times our best friends of the opposite sex will make excuses b/c they don't want to hurt the others feelings.  A good friend will share their problems and let you help him/her with them.

[puja]

hi
thank u for the inspirational stuff...steve..u know my story...he lied cheated etc... but i just feel he is the one and everyone says dont focus on the specific person...yes he replied bk to my apology by may god bless u but i keep getting plagued by how he doesnt want to make contact because he hasnt made an effort.. and i feel he is being infulenced y a few ppl i know i made  a few mistakes ut well do did he.. so how does one visualise and what eft can i do

[Detached&Allowing]

Visualizing is like daydreaming.  Ever daydream?  It just like that.  You play your movie in your mind.  Feel the positive feelings.  See your positive actions as well as the other person in  your life. 

Side note: You are going to keep getting resistance because this guy does not have the attributes that you TRULY want in a mate.

[loveofabundance]

I have a funny attract ex back story that happened to me last night.  Some of you are aware that I was sad because I had to let go of the man I love and how I have gotten stronger as a result.  Well, I don't cry anymore and am getting on with my life.  Interestingly, another ex texted me last night and I heard in passing that a guy that I had flirted with the night before I met my most recent guy, had remembered fondly the night we had flirted.  My attraction level is rising!  This is all due to letting go of attachment and EFT.

[stevelewis]

Well done love of abundance! These things will happen, and you will move forward EFT is great isn't it?!

Steve

[0050681]

Should I greet my ex a happy birthday if im folloing the LOA and no contact rule?

[stevelewis]

Should I greet my ex a happy birthday if im folloing the LOA and no contact rule?

How long since last contact? If less than 6 months, I would say NO NO NO! Especially if your keeping up the no contact rule... Whats you're situation?

[0050681]

Thanks. He said he doesn't love me. I think I pushed him to say those words. I kept asking him if he loves me. he said he wasn't sure. we have been dating for a year. we knew each other for 6 months before we officially dated. he is a very good man. and i think i blew it off when i told him i love him and asked if he loves me. that was on our 11th monthiversary. i really love him. i know he needs time and space to sort his problems out and think about his future. i'm not sure if i can still influence his decisions. he said he doesn't love me and i am not part of his plans. it hurts so much. he initially asked for a month's space, but i was needy and kept texting him. and then one day he just said he wants to look after himself and wants a clean breakup. i chased him twice. but he was firm. he said maybe i am not right for him. that was the last time i spoke to him, which was 5 weeks ago. and then he texted two weeks after. not sure what his intention was so i did not reply.

I want to greet him to let him know that i understand. the last time we spoke he said i do not understand. he said it was nothing to do with me and that he just wants to look after himself now. he said he is not happy with life in general. and then i asked for a chance. i told him i can give him the space and wait for him. he said, but i don't love you. i care so much but i don't think we're perfect for each other. i don't think i can be weak in front of you.

it really hurts because he only realised that recently. he didn't tell me he felt that way. i thought it was unfair. 

[0050681]

I chased him twice. we broke up May 30. five days after he said he was sorry for all the pain and for not being able to handle his issues. i did not reply. 3 days after i texted him and asked if we can talk. we talked. that was when he said he needs to figure out what he wants in life. he said he doesn't love me. a week after i asked him to call me. we talked. that was when he said he doesn't want to give it another chance.

[lawtosuccess]

Yes, Law of attraction plays an important role in building a closer relationship. Very useful information here. I was very aggressive in nature. I lose my all friends because of my nature. Law to success helps me to change my attitude. It really worked for me.

[ash]

is it necessary to write him a letter apologising especially where i am not convinced i wronged him in any way?cant i just start no contact asap(already started it anyway) and move on with my life?

[stevelewis]

Ash. I would say it's not necessary if you're already where you are! Continue where you are going... Especially if you didn't do any wrong

[ash]

steve.i should say,he believes i wronged him. let me give you the short of it:i started no contact almost 2months ago and then broke it after 24days(coz i felt compelled to talk to him)turns out something great had happened to him that day and we talked for almost 2hrs.a week later i smsd him,and he didnt reply(later said that he wasnt available and didnt know i had sent a message,yeah right!)the following week i tried reaching him and we fought as i queried him over some stories i had heard about him moving on,he denied and blocked me on facebook as he was mad at me.still is,i guess.funny thing is all this drama is happening between us yet we are supposed to be exes!he even told me that he would rather live the rest of his life regreting loosing me than regret marrying me but that he wanted us to be friends as we try to rekindle our rship(hogwash)....our passion is strong but unhealthy and i want that relationship to die.and i dont want to be friends with him,he wants to have his cake and eat it too....do i owe him an apology?i think not....if he was offended by anything,that is his problem right?he will get over it.....