Is it "Un-Wise" or "Stupid" to be attracting an ex back?

[Miracles]

Hello forum!

It's been some time since i last posted something here. I really appreciate the positive energy and support i get from you guys, it's the first place i go to when i find myself having questions!

I started listening to Abraham some time ago. I find the teachings very enlightening and soothing. And I started to feel calmer, and to have more success with my manifestations (money, very pelasant conversations with ex)

Thing is, one of my goals is reuniting with my ex in a newfound, jouyful, romantic relationship where we both understand eachother perfectly, and have the ability to grow and mature together..

And it's going well, actually 2 days ago we were talking and he said he wanted to meet up tomorrow =)

But i was listening to Abraham on youtube, talkin about "getting over a breakup".. and esther was saying that we should allow ourselves to fine-tune our connection with who we really are, and that's by accepting the fact that it might not work out with 1 or 2 or 3 partners before we find the "one" ...

So this made me think.. am i just being clingy and stubborn for wanting my guy back?? Is it stupid that after 2 years, i still think about him everyday and see a future for us together??

Any thoughts on this will be really appreciated..

Much love!

[57angel]

Thing is, one of my goals is reuniting with my ex in a newfound, jouyful, romantic relationship where we both understand eachother perfectly, and have the ability to grow and mature together..
And it's going well, actually 2 days ago we were talking and he said he wanted to meet up tomorrow =)

Oh wow, congratulations to you Miracles! This is already a huge success, getting him back. Keep affirming on the quality of relationship that you want to have with him - am sure this relationship is much much sweeter the second time around and with LOA

But i was listening to Abraham on youtube, talkin about "getting over a breakup".. and esther was saying that we should allow ourselves to fine-tune our connection with who we really are, and that's by accepting the fact that it might not work out with 1 or 2 or 3 partners before we find the "one" ...

Miracles, Abraham said "it might not work out with 1 or 2 or 3 partners"  and he didn't say it is for sure. I think this varies on how fast we learn our lessons on letting go of our fears and doubts from the experiences we had in relationships, and for how fast we realize the importance of working inwards and to let go of those needed to let go, to delete and to add those needed for a relationship to work. For those who are that slow like me, I already had 3, and am more than sure now that on my fourth partner, he is the "one" I am looking for.

So this made me think.. am i just being clingy and stubborn for wanting my guy back?? Is it stupid that after 2 years, i still think about him everyday and see a future for us together??

Nope you aren't stubborn for wanting your guy back if you know from the bottom of your heart that you love him in its truest sense and not because of your "ego" reasons to have him back. Even if he is the first coupled with your becoming a better and happier YOU, am more than sure that you will get the kind of relationship that you want to have this time around. Be grateful that you have him back, you deserve all the best in love and in life, am so happy for you.

[Miracles]

Thank you Angel for you sweet reply =)

I guess thinking too much and speculating about things never works. The fact is that for some reason, the universe always reminds me of this man, and it feels good when i see our future together.. So to hell with it, i will continue on my path and see where it leads ..

For now, i'm attracting him back, and it's makin me happy.. And i know that everythin that happens is for my greatet benefit! Every single time! =)

[abhi]

Hi Miracle,

How you did it? Please tell me also as I want to get in touch with my Ex and want HIM to send me a friend's request on FB.

How long I have to visualise this? Also, Since I have wrong through litlle bad things in life, I am not able to visualise HIM with that nice feeling.

Is there anything I can do, to feel that emotions that feeling again?

Please tell me how to do it.

Thank you

[lilly]

But i was listening to Abraham on youtube, talkin about "getting over a breakup".. and esther was saying that we should allow ourselves to fine-tune our connection with who we really are, and that's by accepting the fact that it might not work out with 1 or 2 or 3 partners before we find the "one" ...

Does this go against the "you can fix everything and make everything work with LOA in terms of wanting a specific person or does it only apply to a breakup where you don't want to be with the person anymore?? Because moving from partner to partner would mean giving up on who you feel you have a deep connection with otherwise.
Somehow, I think that if you feel he is the one then anything is possible with LOA..what is really Abraham's view on that??

[lashark]

Well on you asking if it is stupid or unwise. No, because. Life caused you to ask. Your experiences in the contrast you lived caused you to launch rockets of desire and your prefferance was born. If life has caused you to ask, the universe has the means to produce it manifestion wise. What is unwise is holding yourself back from allowing the recieving of it by doubting, and complaining and being negative. Because then it hurts.

Abraham Hicks NEVER EVER SAID YOU CAN'T HAVE YOUR EX BACK.


I hear and see this so much.... I mean the book is called ASK AND IT IS GIVEN! She goes on so many rampages about you being able to BE DO OR HAVE ANYTHING.

I totally understand why that video might have caused you some resistance, in thinking about attracting an ex. But you have to remember, she wasn't talking to the audience or you. She was talking to the hotseater. I love videos where people are in the hot seat because so many times, their questions are VERY relatable. However everyone is different, no two people are vibrationally the same or have the exact same vortex because no two people have lived the EXACT same lives with the EXACT same point of view. So when she talks to a hot seater she senses where they are vibrationally and then helps them into coming into some kind of alignment, and she has to use words they can really hear. That's why you hear so many people asking her for help. She assists them in coming into alignment with what they are talking about. Some lady had a desire for marriage, got in the hot seat and 2 weeks later eloped. Don't take her responses to the hot seaters word for word. She is talking to them and they aren't always on the same vibration as you or the audience and 10 people can be told the same thing yet they only hear what LOA allows them to hear. So when she is specifically talking and helping someone she has to use specific ways of talking to them so they get it. I hope this makes sense. 


I've heard her in numerous videos say that you can absolutely attract a specific person. It just depends on how much you believe you can. And isn't that what everything comes down to anyways? Plus a belief is just a thought you keep thinking hint hint* The only reason she says to go general is because TYPICALLY going general is less resistant. And awareness of the absence of our desire and resistance are the only things that keep it from coming.

[oceanblue]

I don't think it's stupid at all to want your ex back, as long as it feels right to you.  If your body and intuition and source are screaming at you that the relationship is off somehow, and if you feel weird or uncomfortable or anxious or upset when you think about the relationship, instead of feeling good and happy, then you might want to rethink.

Go by how you feel.  If it feels good, it's right for you to want that.  I just had the first contact with my boyfriend (I refuse to call him my ex) in 3 weeks and we haven't seen each other in 5 weeks.  Since the breakup 6 weeks ago, I thought about the relationship in an intensely loving way.  It made me practically euphoric to think about it.  My heart would pound and I would smile, just like I did when we first got together and I'd think of him.  It felt beautiful and right, and being without him was what felt 'off.'  Sure, I had a few moments of doubt where I wondered if wanting him back was the right thing, but I was always doing two things when that happened.

One - I was overthinking it and making it complicated.  Two - I was giving my attention to problems and negative memories and emotions of the past.  That kind of thinking only serves to make you unhappy and confused.  I'm not saying that we should just pretend like problems never existed.  But if you think you can accept that person AS IS, without wanting to control or change them, and in doing so you still feel good and happy when you think about the relationship, then I would bet that most of those problems wouldn't really be problems anymore.  It's all about how we perceive things.  So many relationship problems stem from wanting to control the other person's behavior so we feel better and we get all twisted when they don't comply.  If I feel really really good about me and life in general, and I have a consistent loving grateful attitude toward my significant other, then the better part of those problems cease to exist.

[ToMeAndOnlyMe]

No, not stupid but there are circumstances. If there is unwillingness to let go of the negativity of the past and adjust aspects of yourself that were harmful to yourself and the relationship, you're essentially setting yourself up for a constant circle of repeated disappointment. It really is important to be happy with yourself before pursuing the ex, I speak from experience as I got back with my ex about a month ago.

Love others, but never lose yourself in the process. LOA is about being centered with yourself. At the time my bf and I broke it off, I had been unemployed several months, anxiety ridden and lonely. While I spent time practicing LOA, with him in mind, I spent much of my time improving my own personal situations and achieving personal goals. When we got back together, it was really a new beginning to everything since my side of the situation completely changed.

Love yourself first, then love others cause they'll love you more knowing you love yourself .

[2thetop]

awesome advice......thanks for the post!