Ex Dating Someone Else..

[PlusOne]

We broke up almost 2 weeks ago I believe. Also this is a continuation from;

e and my girlfriend of a few years have recently broken up, we had a good relationship whenever we had been together physically, but apart (we're long distance) things got rocky if we hadn't been with eachother recently, meaning we would always be able to put things behind us easier if we had recently been together in person, sounds kinda weird but..I want her back, I've tried taking these steps;Initiated NC right after I had offered her the chance of a friendship for the time being rather than a relationship, which she had declined because it would have been harder for her.Focusing on myself; since the breakup I've bought myself some new clothes, created a whole new 5 day workout routine, started talking to old friends.I've also tried to take her off the 'pedastel' and it has found me some success.We are currently a week into the breakup I believe, and almost a week since I started NC.I'd love some guidance, thanks everyone.Much Appreciated.

So she got with someone who she had known would bug me a lot.
I'm kinda pissed but more because I feel she's being immature.

Thoughts? 

[tereza]

I guess forgive her for doing that and continue to focus on yourself. Also, forget about them. I know for me, I tend to fixate on the other person even if they aren't the other person I think they are.  It just creates more of what I don't want and it's not pleasant.

[Mr Brightside]

I’m a little confused after reading this for the second time. So she broke up with you? I’m assuming. Then you wanted to stay friends, she said no because its too hard. Then she started to date someone else quickly. Someone you know from the looks of it. Also this is a long distance relationship, but it wasn’t always correct?

Its hard to give advice based only a paragraph, but I’m getting a general vibe here. She was looking for more of a commitment from you, also known as you better move to be with her. She’s probably sitting there having her friends and family talk in her ear about how she needs someone who is there more, trust me this is generally where this shit comes from.  You guys have arguments, she says whats the point of this, some other guy enters the picture and shows interest. She says well he is here at least, and leaves. Based on the fact you are only 2 weeks into break up, she had this in the back of her mind for longer than that.

Anyways not trying to be a asshole here ( I say that a lot on this forum), I’m trying to dissect the situation into what is presented.  I’m going to go against the grain here, and not agree with the NC that people are fond of.  She is looking for someone who is there, you going NC and being there even less is completely counterproductive.  That’s essentially the break up reason, since you pointed out the relationship is great when you are physically there. You guys dating for years like this is not helping, she is sitting there tapping her foot saying when is this guy going to commit.

My advice is go all out here, I mean you need to show not only you want to be with her but are willing to move to make that happen.

As always if I’m out of line, I apologize in advance.

[57angel]

PlusOne, Tereza is right, forgive her for doing so! Take this time to work inwards, as she needs to take this time as well to know what she really wants in a relationship and to realize what she has given up in you. Focus in your making a better, happier you so you will have a lot of love to offer to your relationship. If it is with her, then the Universe will arrange everything for your "very happy and loving relationship" together, if not, then there is someone out there, who just like you is still learning her lessons as well towards a "very happy and loving relationship with you"

[PlusOne]

Thank you, both of you.

Just trying to grasp the last shreds of hope I thought I had, the way I see it now is that I should consider myself the one of value here and even though I still care for her, I shouldn't be that easily replace and I can find someone who will appreciate me more.

I still would appreciate any thought here, though!

[Detached&Allowing]

I must say that if Stefzilla is correct in the analysis that I totally agree.  It is tough to hear sometimes and take responsibility, but sometimes you have to do it.

Much love and the very best of LOA to you!

[Mr positive]

this is a little cat and mouse game! You fall in love with each other, the love dies, she finds a new person to be with, you lose a shred of hope, than what will happen next is she dumps this guy or vica versa than she comes to you as a shoulder to cry on and its up to you to put an end to this vicious cycle by forgetting about it! Forgive her for this game and move forward with your new and happy life! You need to not buy into this game! I went through it with mine way to long! If shes really the one for you than love yourself first! Cherrish this time appart because its time for you to grow into the person you want to be not what she wants you to be! Think of this as alittle vacation away from each other! She will always come back to you and she will be the one drawn to the newer you, the better you! The more respectfull you! She wont be able to resist you! Get over the old relationship and welcome the new more beautiful relationship!

[Detached&Allowing]

http://www.thesecretofdeliberatecreation.com/masterkey.pdf

[sh-boom]

patience is the key. working on yourself is the right thing to do. her being with someone else may only serve to make her realise the reasons she was with you - focus on believing this and that will be the reality of it.