Is Anything Really Possible?

[Mollys_Love]

What advice can you give to someone wanting to manifest in a situation that feels impossible?

Here’s where I am: I love a lady who is deliriously in love and engaged to someone else.

Also, while we have contact through the phone, facebook, and email, we haven’t seen each other in person since late December.

Additionally, we never dated before, we have just been friends. 

Any one of those things would be an obstacle, but all of them are present. It’s like it can never be.
But I love her so much and want to be with her.

The wedding is in 18 months, so I have time, but still it seems so impossible to achieve.

Whenever I think of her, thoughts about him creep in and upset me. When I talk to her it usually drifts into the wedding and him. Her facebook and email profile pic are both ones of them together—it’s like she isn’t an individual person anymore. He’s always a part of what is going on with her. 

It’s so difficult, any time I think I am on better terms with her or have transcended that jealousy and worry about him, an offhand mention of him by her or seeing a picture of them together will devastate me again. It resets all my progress and good feelings about my relationship with her.

What can I do?

[mixtress]

I truly hope you don't feel offended by this response but if you are truly in love with someone wouldn't you just want the best for him/her? If she is deeply, and as you stated 'deliriously' in love with her fiancé wouldn't you rather just wish your love a happy ever after with the person whom she has chosen to marry?

I suggest you just send out loving thoughts to her and wish her all the best in her marriage meanwhile practicing detachment toward your love for her. Who knows? Perhaps one day IF her marriage doesn't work out for their own reasons she can be yours.. Otherwise focus on the good qualities that you like about her and have LoA bring you another women who possesses those qualities (and more). 

Sometimes when you love someone it is best to just let them go.. Especially if he or she has already chosen a love to call their own.

[Mollys_Love]

Her relationship with him doesn't seem right. It happened rapidly-- he moved in in 3 months and proposed in 6. They barely know each other. She got together with him on the heels of a breakup with another guy she dated. He is nothing like her.  And what I said about her not being an independent person anymore, her life is revolving around him. I haven't had communication with her that didn't go to him or their relationship at one point or another. She's changing so much, and giving up some much of who she is. She may be happy now, but down the line I think she'll regret altering so much of what made her herself.

[LOVE_is_mine]

yes, anything really is possible! Believe you can do it and then let it go! Either you'll end up with her or someone better! But obviously this feeling is in your heart for a reason. The most important thing is to let go and feel like she's already yours! 

[Mollys_Love]

But how do I feel like she is mine when she's so devoted to him?

[LOVE_is_mine]

That can be the tough part. However, you need to do affirmations and visualize yourself with her. Meditate on it and really FEEL yourself with her and fill yourself with the love and joy that would come with being with her. But trust me, if its meant to be, it will happen as long as you believe. You need to have the belief that nothing is impossible. No matter what anyone tells you. And make yourself a better person. I think most of us have struggled with that part, like the part of feeling like you are with the other person already even though the reality of the matter is you aren't. But that's why you need to change your reality from the inside in order to change it from the outside! And the way you change your reality from the inside is by changing your thoughts!

There's tons of material on here to help you out. I know someone who has a link to the remote seduction mp3, you should look into that. Or google it.

[Ginny]

MollysLove - again, with respect, mixtress brought up a really valid point, and then you start back-tracking and making your own pronouncements about whether or not this other guy is right for her. That is for her to decide, not you.

I agree with mixtress - if you love her, I think you should focus on the outcome that will bring her the greatest happiness. Without your preconceptions of what that might be added. As long as you focus on what you perceive is lacking and what you want and don't have... Well, I think these things are a lot less likely to work if they originate in feelings of lack and loss, rather than pure love (which would focus on whatever is best for the person you love, rather than wha you 'want' from them)

[Mollys_Love]

I know that if I love her I should be happy that she is happy with him, and ever since they got engaged (late March), I've tried to accept their relationship, but I can't.

He is taking over her life, and changing her so much. He moved into her home after 3 months of dating. She is a musician, but right now she's selling insurance because that's more stable. She's changing her religion and being Baptized into his church.

I love her and don't want her to give up so much of herself for a guy.

[lilly]

Hello Mollys_ love,

I can understand how awful you might feel about this..does she know about your feelings at all? I see no mention of this in your original post?
If she doesn't I suggest you have an open conversation about it so she at least makes the choice she thinks is best for her and you won't regret not having done anything possible to win her heart.

Now from an Loa point of view, it is absolutely possible to manifest what you wish but again if she doesn't know about your feelings I think it would be best to let her know, so you instill this idea in her mind that you have an interest in her and it'll have her thinking about it. I advise you to use Remote seduction and that before falling asleep everynight to feel as if your wish has been fulfilled, try to ignore as much as possible that there is someone else in her life..
That said, don't think about the upcoming marriage at all or set yourself some sort of deadline because of it..just because she is getting married doesn't mean it will last in the long term and that all hope is lost..especially if you think that person is not for her.
I have been in a situation when the other person was after someone else at some point and they got back and closer to me thereafter, all of that through loa entirely, nothing is impossible.

What advice can you give to someone wanting to manifest in a situation that feels impossible?

Here’s where I am: I love a lady who is deliriously in love and engaged to someone else.

Also, while we have contact through the phone, facebook, and email, we haven’t seen each other in person since late December.

Additionally, we never dated before, we have just been friends. 

Any one of those things would be an obstacle, but all of them are present. It’s like it can never be.
But I love her so much and want to be with her.

The wedding is in 18 months, so I have time, but still it seems so impossible to achieve.

Whenever I think of her, thoughts about him creep in and upset me. When I talk to her it usually drifts into the wedding and him. Her facebook and email profile pic are both ones of them together—it’s like she isn’t an individual person anymore. He’s always a part of what is going on with her. 

It’s so difficult, any time I think I am on better terms with her or have transcended that jealousy and worry about him, an offhand mention of him by her or seeing a picture of them together will devastate me again. It resets all my progress and good feelings about my relationship with her.

What can I do?

[Mollys_Love]

I don't think it would be a good idea to tell her, I fear she might feel awkward around me and decide not to be around me anymore. I don't want to lose her completely.

How do I not think of her guy though? Every photo I see of her has him in it, she often talks about him or the upcoming wedding (which is in 15 months, the 18 was a typo).

How do I visualize us together when she isn't with me and isn't available? How do I change my thinking and focus on what could be instead of what is?

[lilly]

I'm going to be blunt but quite honestly, if she doesn't know how you feel about her even if she was interested maybe she thought the same as you and never made a move either..and if no one makes a move nothing's going to happen..and if she keeps talking about her wedding with you and you seem ok about it in front of her how could she even begin to imagine that you have romantic feelings for her..
I understand that you don't want to lose her as a friend either but you might be wondering all your life what could have been had you told her about your feelings..

You cannot let this jealousy and pain builds up because in a way this man made the move you have never done and ultimately it is remorse you might feel, maybe not today but maybe years from now.
It seems to be a matter of what is the most important for you, the friendship or the feelings you have for her. The very fact that you are on this forum and wants to attract her shows that your heart wants more than the friendship but you have to be willing to take actions. Some members here who have been in such situation took some actions ( or inspired actions) that contributed to the fulfillment of their wish.

Now to go back to LOA, stop looking at pictures of her with the other guy, change the conversation when she talks about the wedding.
Close your eyes everynight before going to sleep and imagine she is the same room as you, play scenarios in your head where you are both together as a couple. It is not easy, it requires discipline but it is very possible. Don't give up hope even if it doesn't look like it is working it is assuredly!

I don't think it would be a good idea to tell her, I fear she might feel awkward around me and decide not to be around me anymore. I don't want to lose her completely.

How do I not think of her guy though? Every photo I see of her has him in it, she often talks about him or the upcoming wedding (which is in 15 months, the 18 was a typo).

How do I visualize us together when she isn't with me and isn't available? How do I change my thinking and focus on what could be instead of what is?

[Mollys_Love]

I'm not ready to admit my feelings to her since she seems so close to and involved with him. I want to, but I think for now it is best to wait until I can draw her closer to me, so she may be more accepting of how I feel and more willing to reconsider our relationship.

How do I stop thinking the worst and thinking of him when I think of her?

[lilly]

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I'm not ready to admit my feelings to her since she seems so close to and involved with him. I want to, but I think for now it is best to wait until I can draw her closer to me, so she may be more accepting of how I feel and more willing to reconsider our relationship.

How do I stop thinking the worst and thinking of him when I think of her?

[LOVE_is_mine]

Yeah you need to get yourself in the right mindset first. But honestly, I think the sooner you are honest with her and tell her how you feel, the better. Get it out there. It's obviously killing you inside. So go do it, take a chance! 

[Mollys_Love]

I want to, but right now I want to bring her closer before I do.