Author Topic: i want to believe but it sounds ridiculous (Read 727 times)

tuscanasun · « **on:** January 27, 2012, 05:15:52 PM »

Hello to everyone on this lovely forum. My name is Assya and I decided to join you.
My story: I was dating this guy Kyle for about 2 years,on and off, we never had a very serious relationship, but we shared pretty good moments together. As I said we were on and off there were other girls in his life,and other guys in mine but he was always the one that I loved and the times when we were losing contact was because of him,of his lost of interest in me. The past few months he was really rude and cruel to me, he treated me like crap. It had happened before as well but then we were working things out at some point. These months it was just getting worse,I felt so miserable that I started acting like a complete psycho. I knew he was getting very close with his ex girlfriend so I told him that if he doesn't start to treat me right I would tell her about me and I will make him miserable as he makes me. We talked on the phone a lot he told me he has nothing to do with her and that he will treat me right.But of course,it was all a lie. He messaged me that I'm a psycho and if i do what I told i would do he will never see me again. I was so angry and heartbroken so I did it. I wrote her a letter. he blocked me everywhere and never wants to see me again because I am ill and I'm a psycho. I know I acted very immature but I couldn't control myself. I read here how people really believe in getting back someone they lost in big fights and arguments.. But I'm losing my faith,he really thinks that low of me and I don't know how to believe that someday I can attract him back. We had really good times together,I know when he wants to he can be so loveable and kind and I lost all of it.. It sounds so ridiculous that one day he will look at me with different eyes..

onlyhappiness · « **Reply #1 on:** January 27, 2012, 06:20:42 PM »

Hi Assya and welcome!
I know it is hard to believe but as long as you trust in the Law of Attraction anything is possible. I suggest you go to the Relationship section and read , read , read. I can tell you tghat absolutely it does work ! I won't go into detail but i attracted my ex back after a year apart . I then unfortunately attracted the end of our relationship 2 weeks ago after 2 and a half years together. It was my negative thoughts again that did this. I am now in the process of attracting him back again. All i can tell you is to remember this . Whatever you ask for you will receive .
So please believe you do have the power to change this!
Keep positive and keep learning! Best wishes and don't hesitate to ask for advice or guidence the people here are the best!!

iloverainbows · « **Reply #2 on:** January 27, 2012, 07:07:32 PM »

Hey Beautiful person,

You're not ill and you're not a psycho. You're a beautiful, wonderful human being.

Yes you can attract him back.

You have to start with you, and loving yourself. You only attracted the situation you did because it highlighted your feelings of fear of loss and that you are not loving yourself. He acted those feelings out to you so you could see them better.

Learning to love yourself can be difficult especially when there is hurt there. But it is so very worth it.

Come to value you, and he will come back. Or something even better will happen; either way you will be surrounded by love.

Don't use focusing on him as an excuse to not love you. Love you first...the rest will follow.

Love from me.

soholoa · « **Reply #3 on:** January 27, 2012, 08:42:17 PM »

Hey Assya and welcome to the forum! I'm quite new here but there are tons of really good people here that will help you and share their experiences. Stay healthy and focus only on yourself positively. Your positivity will attract the positives.

Now, back to your msg here. When I read your post, there are a few things you indicated that actually attracts what you've asked for. For e.g. you said, "he was really rude and cruel to me, he treated me like crap". Well, according to the LOA, you have just asked for those. Not saying you started the fight and disagreements, but sometimes it is good to know what the negativity is in order to fix the mistakes.

Have you seen the documentary movie called, "The Secret"? If you do, remember the story of Robert the gay man? He attracted a lot of negativity without knowing. Once he started focusing on what he wants and the end results, it was a miracle that positive things started happening to him within a few weeks. Amazing!

So now you ask, "what should I do to bring him back? I'm still angry!". Well, be grateful and look at the positive side of him. I'm sure there are tons of good things you like about him or else you won't be attracted to him right?
Now, I'm not certain if you are aware how the LOA works, but ask if you don't.

Hope I'm of help to you Assya.

marioska · « **Reply #4 on:** January 27, 2012, 11:11:06 PM »

Hi Assya! You're as health as your mind can imagine. You're as lovely as your mind can imagine. You're as happy as your mind can imagine. I believe that you've been trought bad times, but what do you really want? To be happy. And did you know that like attracts like? If you're a person that looks on the bright side of life, I'm sure you'll attract what you want. This happens with your boyfriend too. Change your point of view, but, most of all, love yourself completely. Do things that make you feel good with yourself. Remember that you're the master of your own happines, you cannot depend on others to be happy as no one can depend on you to be happy. Happiness is for sharing, not for being created by someone else.
In addition, I suggest you that when you feel ready to attract your boyfriend back (and that will be when you really love yourself) there are many techniques that may help you. You can read all the information here about things like Remote Seduction, Detachment, etc. that I'm sure will be helpful in one way or another. But please, before you start to attract him back, love and respect yourself completely.
That's my experience so far. I'm attracting my boy back, and I began to attract him from somewhere filled with fear, lack and resentment. Guess what? My results were filled with more fear, more lack and more resentment. But one day I woke up and thought that he cannot make me happy if I'm not happy with myself. And I began to love myself. I forgave him and I forgave myself. I decided that I love him but I'm not tied to him, or vice versa. I am still doing this, but I've seen some interesting behaviours from him.
Lots of love and hope this helps a little. Don't get desperate, you're on the right path!

tuscanasun · « **Reply #5 on:** January 28, 2012, 01:11:07 AM »

Thank you guys! You are wonderful people here. You give me faith that everything's possible. I now remembered that on the same date last year we had a big fight and we were separated for 2 months on the exact same date..

It's just funny it was our biggest fight then,and now much bigger a year later.

tuscanasun · « **Reply #6 on:** January 28, 2012, 01:17:12 AM »

I also want to say, he wasn't really my boyfriend,we had a strange relationship something like friends with benefits,but not really the friend part and the benefits weren't just sexual, there were emotions involved too,long talks and walks and phonecalls. I don't really know what we were exactly but I do know what I want us to be. I should also work on myself and some negative aspects of my behaviour.
And soholoa, yes I've seen The secret and i remember the story but the thing is when he started thinking positively Robert's collegues left the workplace. I don't want him to leave because he treated me wrong at some point, I just want to attract his good side and interest again.
Thank you a lot again all for being so kind and helpful

Queen Of Light · « **Reply #7 on:** January 28, 2012, 05:25:52 AM »

Quote from: tuscanasun on January 27, 2012, 05:15:52 PM

But I'm losing my faith,he really thinks that low of me and I don't know how to believe that someday I can attract him back. We had really good times together,I know when he wants to he can be so loveable and kind and I lost all of it.. It sounds so ridiculous that one day he will look at me with different eyes..

I can relate to your situation! I'm going through the exact same thing as what you mentioned here. But don't lose faith! I only just started using LOA with my guy about a month ago. I've had many days where I feel there is no hope, but then something happens within me and my faith gets restored the next day. But deep down I believe 100% that we will be friends again. Like you - many hurtful things were said by him to me and it DOES seem hard to believe that one day things will be different. But don't give up! Soon you will truly truly feel it in your soul that things will manifest. I feel that's where I am now. It's a nice feeling just KNOWING they'll be back in your life soon.

iloverainbows · « **Reply #8 on:** January 28, 2012, 05:44:27 AM »

Quote from: tuscanasun on January 28, 2012, 01:17:12 AM

I don't want him to leave because he treated me wrong at some point, I just want to attract his good side and interest again.

That's OK, you couldn't push him away even if you wanted to

Cause then you'd be pushing against and more would come to you.

However when you focus on the good parts of him...the BAD parts will leave

Hey well done, you're really 'getting' it xx Smile and the world smiles with you

2thetop · « **Reply #9 on:** January 28, 2012, 06:04:30 AM »

well it looks like some already touched on this. for the time being you should forget him. you will continue this cycle until you learn to respect yourself. people view you how you view you. he obviously has a lack of respect for you. just based on the fact he needs to lie to you. now that doesnt mean you wont and cant get him back. but at this point you have made it a characteristic of your relationship. and now the cycle will continue until you do something to change it. just talking it over wont do it either. you need to look deep inside. most people say ok and dont bother. i see it time and time again. people hear from their ex and think thats that, i did it! then with in the month are back here freaking out about something. so please, take time to learn to respect and love yourself above all else. you should be in a position you can be with out that person and still be happy.

i also noticed someone kinda touched on this. you need to understand that EVERYTHING that went wrong is your fault. if you dont see how, youre not looking hard enough or being honest with yourself. that doesnt mean he did everything perfect or that he didnt screw up. but i can tell you this much, if you really look, you will find that he was reacting to something that you did or thought. just thinking of something enough will make you begin to act it out in real life. thoughts are very powerful.

to attract his good side, do the above and focus on you and learn to respect and love yourself. DO NOT allow others to mistreat you, lie to you or walk all over you. EVER.

tuscanasun · « **Reply #10 on:** January 29, 2012, 09:36:00 PM »

I know you are all right. I read A LOT about attracting a specific person back. I've done it before,I attracted him but now I am blocked everywhere from him,facebook,etc.. this time I will have to attract him in another way. Last time we were separated he saw on facebook that I was going out with another guy and that was when he contacted me again.Andthe first time I was the one to contact him via message ( it was something like an inspiring action and it went very well) I know I don't have to be concerned when and how will this happen, I do my best not overthinking it i hope it will get easier with time:)

Queen Of Light · « **Reply #11 on:** January 29, 2012, 10:01:20 PM »

Quote from: tuscanasun on January 29, 2012, 09:36:00 PM

I've done it before,I attracted him but now I am blocked everywhere from him,facebook,etc.. this time I will have to attract him in another way.

I empathize with you! I was in the same situation with my guy 2 years ago. Estranged, but still connected through Facebook. LOA worked for me then (although I didn't know it at the time) because I had completely let go. Then one day almost 3 months after any contact he sent me a flirty msg on Facebook and we became closer than ever for the next 2 years. But then we had a major fallout late last year and he blocked me on Facebook. I was like you and panicked a bit because Facebook is his life and he does most of his communication on there. I never thought he would un-block me, but then about 6 weeks later I ended up getting a FB notification that someone had commented on one of his photos that I had also. That was a big deal because I rarely commented on his stuff. So I think the Universe wanted me to notice this. I immediately checked FB and saw he had un-blocked me. That was a HUGE milestone for me because I remember asking the Universe when the fight happened that if I could have only ONE sign that we would be friends again it would be if he would un-block me. I believe one reason it happened is because I made NO contact towards him in between that time. So don't over-think in this situation. He will eventually un-block you when he's ready. BUT also, in this day & age there are many many ways of getting a hold of a person. It will happen.

tuscanasun · « **Reply #12 on:** January 29, 2012, 11:26:38 PM »

I just saw he went in a relationship with some other girl

may be that's a sign to forget about him..

iloverainbows · « **Reply #13 on:** January 30, 2012, 10:24:35 AM »

Tuscansun, the universe will orchestrate itself, move mountains and shift anything you name to get you in line with what your vibrational frequency is. Don't worry that he's blocked you on facebook, that he has another girlfriend, if he moves countries or gets married or announces that he's gay. If you start WITH YOURSELF, and love you, and from that place of love vibrate love with him, and attract him back that way - it will not matter about facebook or other girlfriends or anything. You won't have to do a damn thing and you will be together. Whether the other girlfriend dies (or moves countries or announces that she's gay), whether he unblocks you on facebook, whether you both end up at a party of a mutual friend, or he calls your mum to see where you live now and then turns up at your house with flowers and a big teddy bear holding an 'I LOVE YOU BEARY MUCH' heart.

You are focusing WAY TOO MUCH on what is out there...DO YOU NOW REALISE THAT YOU ARE ALL POWERFUL! What is out there has NO SIGNIFICANCE WHATSOEVER...NONE! So ignore it, ignore it, ignore it, focus on you, focus on happy, focus on loving yourself and with all the things with which you are truly blessed. And if you find it hard to feel happy about him then do not waste another second thinking about him, use something else to get you into your vortex, some things which you are already happy about. Do not think about him again until you can feel happiness when you do, and that's going to take you ignoring him for a time and just focusing on YOU! That is exactly what I have done - my fiance was being such a dick that I moved continents and I blocked HIM on facebook! I even removed all our mutual friends off there because I don't want to see pictures of him or think about him, I am just focusing on ME. And that is so much easier when I am in Australia and he is in England. And I know he will come back to me at some point, I don't really care when because in the meantime I am happy, surrounded by friends, living my life and loving my success and bliss and joy!

You gotta cultivate the same attitude. Your inner self is so powerful, get connected with it and in tune with it. How happy you are is your indicator of how close to your true blissful self you are. Honour that self and your power. And when the time comes tuscansun, you won't have to do a damn thing, it will be so easy and it will just happen. Don't worry about making things happen anymore or about HOW they will happen, just forget him and focus on being happy. That's your only, number one, job! The rest will take care of itself. Trust in that.

tuscanasun · « **Reply #14 on:** February 03, 2012, 02:42:39 AM »

Thank you,iloverainbows. It sounds pretty good when you put it that way."You won't have to do a damn thing and you will be together. " Does it really work that way? The Secret movie states that you need to take some action,even baby steps in order to receive what you want..does it really work without doing nothing,nothing at all?