I can't believe I called her

[Duffman]

Update!!

I decided to go for it! After five months no contact...I broke the deal! I did something I really love to get myself happyfirst...then I called her!

Let me tell you, it wasn't the happy-go-lucky reunion I was hoping for, but she did seem glad to hear from me. She talked A LOT about the things that have been going on in her life. She said she wasn't doing anything worthwhile and she giving up her dreams of art school. She said all she's been doing is being on the internet.  But she basically told me everything she had been doing. She rarely asked me what I've been doing, but when it did come up she seemed not so excited about it. Just a, "Well, I'm glad you're doing really well." kinda thing.

After about 20 minutes, I said I had to go and she seemed a little disappointed. I told her she could call or text me anytime, and that I may not reply right away, but I'll always try to get back to her. Then she said, "Even though its been months since we talked I'll still be there for you if you feel sad and stuff or need someone to talk to." And I told her thank you but, not to worry about that since I'm livin' the good life!

Do you think I still have a chance???

[MeowMix]

Don't even THINK about "friendzone". If you think you are there, you will be. Just enjoy the moment, hope for the best and carry on. Also be grateful that you had that nice conversation with her. It sounds to me like she's not having a really good time with her life and didn't want to hear the nice things going on with yours. Perhaps she's scared you will say you're dating someone new? Kudos on just going for it! Inspired action Just keep yourself happy with other things and keep your vibrations high. Of course you have a chance! GO FOR IT! <3

[MikeG]

Haha excellent! I read your post in your other topic and you clearly have understood how the LoA works. If the universe tells you to do something, then you should follow the sign! I'm really happy that you managed to finally contact her and she looks like she really enjoyed talking to you!

Remember, if you think she's put you in the friend zone then you've been put in the friend zone. Think that you are together and soon it will become true!

[Kas]

Great job! I agree with the others.  Don't even think about the "friendzone".  Focus on the fact that she picked up your phone call, she talked to you, she told you all that's going on in her life, etc.  I don't know your backstory but clearly whatever you are doing esp. with feeling good and using LOA is working. Good luck!

[Duffman]

Aw, gawrsh. Thanks, guys!!! That really means a lot! 

You wouldn't believe how much I sky rocketed with happiness after that call!

The weird thing is, right now I feel almost somber. Or almost a little sad. I don't know why. Maybe I just miss her, and I had been holding on these five months and now talking to her made me remember. Does anyone have any idea why? I guess I just miss everything, and it seems so impossible right now with her indifference. Is there a positive way to look at this? Or a way to be hopeful?

[Detached&Allowing]

Congrats on taking the leap. 

Let me tell you, it wasn't the happy-go-lucky reunion I was hoping for

  Keep in mind we cannot control "how" we achieve our desired manifestation.  We can only ask for what we want, let go and move forward.  The Universe will provide to us opportunities that may inspire us to take action (otherwise known as inspired action)  However, a true inspired action come with zero expectations.  You were "expecting"/ "hoping" for a certain outcome, hence the reason you did not get it.  Basic principle of LOA is "like" attracts "like".  Therefore "hoping" brings about more "hoping" etc...

Do the exercises that were given to you.  You will find they will help you move past this and get your desired manifestation faster.

Lots of love and the very best of LOA to you!

[57angel]

Congratulations for this inspired action Now you have taken back the power in yourself, and I will never wonder if you get her back, soonest Keep the positive and happy vibes

[Ginny]

Hi Duffman

It's great that you are on such a high

I have a side thought though... so, if we attract things on a similar vibration, then...  your girl sounds like she's on a bit of a downer at the moment. Speaking in non-LOA terms, I think when she said that she would always be there for you if you wanted to talk - I think what she was really saying was "Please be there for me, I need to talk". Yeah, I know that's a lot to read into a few sentences, but that's how I'm feeling it. And then you came back with, "No, I'm great, I don't need to talk", which...

the only problem I ever have with LOA (and this is a problem I had as a child, when I felt it was being forced down my throat) is sometimes... this refusal to look at the "negative" can sometimes be perceived as not caring. That is certainly how I perceived it when I was a child, and no matter how much my mother ignored my unhappiness, it didn't make it go away (in fact, it made it greater, because I was hurt that my mother was ignoring me).

I'm just wondering if... since you're so strong and happy in yourself at the moment, maybe you're in a good position to offer to be supportive and listening for her? Sounds like she needs someone to motivate her and get her see the good stuff in life and where she wants to be. So, if it's not going to bring down your vibe at all, maybe you could offer her some support as well? (ie not just, "I'm great, doing fine, will contact you when I get a chance" but more constructive suggestions for how she can get her arse back into gear and start pursuing her dreams again? )

just a thought - of course she's not your responsibility - but then we're all connected, and the more love, support and understanding you give out, the more you get back

[Duffman]

Hey Ginny!

Yeah... You know something like that flashed across my mind, actually... I want nothing more than to be there for her...but the honest truth is I really haven't been all that stable or happy. I was happy at that moment, but I've been on the worry, sadness, and fear boat more often. I've read so much that we're not supposed to initiate contact or make ourselves too available to your person of interest, right? I dunno, I'm trying to understand but I'm so confused. 

Also, I avoided contact for so long bc evertime she said goodbye without an I love you or when she'd act so casual instead of like b4 it broke me inside. I know it shouldn't be that way....i know I need to focus on the end result but its hard to picture it now after 5 months. I visualized a lot b4 I can't seem to envision it as much now. I do want to be there for her. So much. But I'm just not sure how to proceed doing that and be faithful in our future together as a couple.

[Duffman]

Oh, I also forgot to say, that I'm not sure if my want to be there for her and talk to her is just me missing her and expecting more? She deserves someone who wants to be there for her and not want anything back, right?

[Ginny]

Yeah - I think the no contact thing is about: if you are contacting someone from a position of need and desperation, then you need to step back and work on you, don't get in contact. But if you are contacting someone from a position of strength and a high vibration (and you are not fooling yourself on this position, and it wouldn't bring you down if you didn't get the outcome you expected) then it's okay - good even.

Sounds like you may need to concentrate on yourself a bit more, so you are probably doing the right things!