I don't know what to think anymore

[bravelioness]

@mlybrand-I admire you for being positive despite the situation going on with your life.Another thought that scares me is what Sweet Spirit said that you can't attract a person who doesn't want you.And as you know,Andrew wants me not to contact him,follow him, or go to his house anymore and I think he's even telling his family to ignore me and to stay away from me as well.With what Sweet Spirit said,my doubts are increasing and this small voice comes in again and says,"Don't count on it anymore will you?" GOSH!I hate these feelings.They always come back.Why does not the feeling of me and Andrew being in good terms again come and stay?Now I'm getting even more scared.Sorry for the setback I'm experiencing.I also think that it's so frustrating.

[Ginny]

What Christina said

[bravelioness]

Updates.I'm doing my visualizations every night & early morning so that it would be easier for me to get rid of the fear I'm feeling.But sometimes within the day for a few hours,I experience the negative feelings again.to help combat it,I'm thinking of starting a new project called my wedding .It contains what I want for our wedding & pictures of us happy together.(I'll be learning more about adobe photoshop to do this) Do you think it would be good for me to continue with the project.

Another update.Every weekend,I go to Filinvest (that's the subdivision where Andrew lives).I don't go in to his house but I just pass by.I'm thinking of buying or renting a house in that place since I feel at home in the subdivision because I made many friends there and I'm happy whenever I'm in the place.However,I sometimes think that I may be sending the wrong vibes to the universe because I always go to the place and never encounter Andrew that I'm just outside the house and being contented that way(Just like Ariel. Even by just sitting by the seashore to see Prince Eric makes her contented).What do you guys think?

[Sweet Spirit]

Brave Lioness,
I am sorry if I am the one who is causing doubt and negativity in your mind. I just see your situation and that others have been telling you to let go, and by even thinking about renting a house in his neighborhood or making an imaginary wedding photo album I feel is going to cause you more pain and disappointment. You really need to distance yourself from Andrew to even stand a chance of being with him. I am not or have never implied that it is impossible to get him back, but in order to get him back you have to do certain things. Moving into his neighborhood right now would be a big mistake. Making your wedding album with Andrew is taking the visualization thing a bit far and may make your longing for him increase.

If you would take the positive advice of others on this forum, to let go of the attachment, and stop obsessing, focus on yourself, and heal yourself, then there is a great possibility that the universe will give you Andrew. Until you let go, you are going to feel those doubts and negativity and the universe will give you more of the same. I suggest you go to http://www.psitek.net/index2.html and read some of their free e-books on thought and positive energy. I have noticed that you are also envious of others who have gotten positive results. Envy is a very negative emotion. You need to learn to be happy with what you already have and say, "I am going to be happy for those people and I am going to be happy like those people are happy." If you will notice, these people had already let go of their attachment for their loved one, they were able to stay positive and attract their loved one back.

If you think it would make you happy to move into his neighborhood and make the wedding album, by all means do it!! The key here is to Let go, make yourself happy and be positive so you get positive things back.

Good luck!

[Ginny]

Please try to understand bravelioness, no one on this forum wants to see you unhappy or unfulfilled. No one is trying to prevent you getting Andrew either - to the contrary, everyone wants to see success, to see evidence that the process works!

The only reason you are getting the advice that you seem not to like that much is that you don't seem able right now to apply the principles of LOA effectively - you are causing yourself distress rather than happiness. And you seem to be trying to apply LOA backwards - you think having Andrew will make you happy, but in actuality being happy in yourself is what will attract your soulmate to you. As long as you persist in thinking that you cannot be happy unless you have Andrew, then LOA is unlikely to work for you.

People are only trying to help you, not hinder you - and everyone wants to see you happy

[Sweet Spirit]

you seem to be trying to apply LOA backwards - you think having Andrew will make you happy, but in actuality being happy in yourself is what will attract your soulmate to you. As long as you persist in thinking that you cannot be happy unless you have Andrew, then LOA is unlikely to work for you.

I couldn't have said it better myself.
Thank you Ginny!

[Sweet Spirit]

Brave Lioness,
There is a great article written by Galina, at http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-boyfriend-back/
If you haven't read this yet, I suggest you do so.
If you have already read it, please review it and follow it closely. It is clear and powerful advice that pretty much sums up everything everybody on this forum has been trying to tell you.

We are all going through the same plight as yourself (or we wouldn't be here,) and I know I speak for everyone who has kept up with your story, by saying that our hearts go out to you. We have all grown to love you and we want to see you happy with your life, no matter what the outcome! We are looking forward to hearing about the positive and happy feelings that you are going to experience very soon. You are a strong and Brave Lioness so you are what your name implies: You are powerful and courageous, and you WILL overcome this!!

To your peace and happiness,

Melanie (Sweet Spirit)

[Vicki Christina]

Bravelioness,   I am posting a link to an article I read today about letting go.  http://www.louisyagera.com/2010/07/15/the-idea-of-letting-go/.  This article talks about staying in the NOW or present moment.  It is difficult to let go and enjoy the moment at hand when in crisis, but we have all been in this position and found our way through the crisis stage.  For a long term relationship it takes longer than a short term one often. But the fact is you have to quit trying to be in contact with him and try to quit running into him and his family. You push him away naturally this way and you create a situation where he may be embarrassed about the behavior with his family.   He might see you as being a predator if you move to his neighborhood and continue to drive by his house.  Are these friends in his neighborhood your real friends?  If so go out with these friends and other friends too - for movies, dinners, art shows, concerts or what ever the interests are.  I had to do these things with friends even though in the beginning I was very depressed.  I just made plans and made the best of it.  Guess what?  After a while friends suggested a long trip, it was to a place on my vision board.   I had been to this place before with my soul mate and wanted us to go again.   I went on the trip - had a blast even though I was worried I'd just think about him - NOT!  He found out I went and called to ask about it in one of our first contacts.  Start living in the NOW; you never know how life may hand you some fun and joy!  Plan some visits with friends, or visit and do a favor for someone else in need.   Start being a giver to the universe and it may change your feelings to positive/love instead of negative/fear and anxiety.  Little steps!!!   
Hugs, Vicki Christina

[57angel]

Thank you VC for sharing this site, it really helps me a lot. I am also sharing this to my friend who has been with several failed relationships due to deceiving fear and doubts in her heart brought by her past relationships, of which issues were not also dealt with as in my case. Wow, it is indeed wonderful to share and encourage each other here. I really love this forum, I didnt allow my day to pass without passing by here, reading everyone's post and be inspired.

Best of LOA to everyone, thank you for all the inspiring stories shared, most of all, for the friends I gained here - you all inspired me to become more than a true friend to myself as I learn to forgive and accept myself as I am despite all the mess that I did in my life:)

[bravelioness]

I'm reading a book about EFT.Hope it will help me so that I may manifest what I want soon.Moving to his neighborhood is out of the question now since I have to save a lot of money before I get myself a house of my own.To the other people out there,do you think I should discontinue making the wedding album?

As of now,I try to find time to enjoy and chill whenever it's possible.Hopefully,when I get happy enough,things especially those I really wanted would come naturally.

Thank you for all your support.You're an inspiration to me.I'll keep you updated.

[Ginny]

Also, to add to what Christina said - find things that you can believe in. So, for example, I couldn't quite convince myself that I was happy (I have a long history of depression unfortunately) - but what I did manage was to say, "I am grateful for every moment of happiness I experience". I could believe in that statement, so it didn't activate any of my resistances saying it. And I have been experiencing more and more happiness, ever since I started repeating that particular affirmation. If you can back it up by remembering actual moments when you feel happy (maybe a child smiled at you on the street, or you saw a beautiful sunset, or you achieved a goal at work or in your hobbies, etc), and adding that you are grateful for every moment you feel happy, I think that would make it even more powerful. I know it has worked for me - I hope it will work for you too

[Vicki Christina]

 @ChrizttinaAchivesEasily,  Yes,  I agree about the friends first situation.   Also, I agree that breaking the big desire into smaller steps and requests to manifest is a bit easier to achieve, and it keep us on the positive path.  I wanted to stay connected with my soul mate's children and family as we had felt already that we were a family.  We were together for almost five years.   The girls started picking up the pace with calls, email, and requests to visit.  I wanted my soulmate and me to forgive each other for pain we were involved in which was causing distress for each other, and I wanted us in contact.   Well the forgiveness and contacts have come to pass now.   I want it to stay like this for a while so we feel like we belong in each other's lives and are communicating with complete honesty before we decide to  make more plans.  I still have some emotional distress at times, but I really feel that the creation of these smaller goals has helped my mental state.   I have friends who think I should not be in contact with him or his family, but I know this is best for me even if we do not become a couple again.   To have a major love and/or friend in your life not ever speak to you again is so hurtful. 

@angelgrace57,  I am glad you like the web site.  It is different and put together in an interesting way with Louis sharing his journey into LOA wisdom.

[bravelioness]

Updates again.I've started my project.It was nice practicing my creativity.I miss doing school projects.This wedding project was very like my project back in my senior year in the university only without a deadline.lol!

I was also thinking about us being friends first before we become a couple and building a good rapport with his family.Well,I think there's nothing to be insecure about other girls as he only has a few girl friends in facebook.One thing that's bothering me though he goes online and out of the house more often even on Saturdays and Sundays.I sometimes get paranoid saying in my head at times "what if he's seeing another girl" (well,I shouldn't be thinking of that). I barely log in to my YM account because I get scared if I see him online which is so unpredictable.I'm still reading the EFT book.
@Ginny-You mentioned that I was applying the loa backwards.So this is how I should do it.Be happy first then Andrew comes.Is that right?

Well,yes.Christmas is near (but it's still more than 3 mos from now so there should be a lot of time).I was thinking of giving small gifts to him and his family but I'm afraid that I might get rejected again.It would make me feel happy to give them gifts but I'm just afraid of rejection like anyone else.

Thank you for supporting me and cheering for me.You'll always be in my heart.

[Ginny]

@Ginny-You mentioned that I was applying the loa backwards.So this is how I should do it.Be happy first then Andrew comes.Is that right?

First find happiness within yourself, and then all good things come. Whenever you make something else the source of your happiness (as in, believing that you can't be happy without it) you end up pushing it away from you.

[Mr positive]

Well I started to do this one thing I made up called key to her heart where I immagine I am the only one that has the key to her heart and every one can try to get her heart but only I can do it because I got the key hiddenwithin myself! It helps to soften any blow that comes my way! It helps also to boost my confidence! You can give it a try if you like! But yea be happy and things flow brave! Keep being brave my friend! Youra lioness and lionesses dont quit!