Author Topic: I attracted a sort of Ex (Read 1712 times)

Mergirl · « **on:** October 23, 2010, 02:23:49 PM »

Okay guys so I hope this is a sign.

Well this guy who was a good friend asked me out about a year ago while I was living abroad. I wasn't attracted to him and turned him down and he was really hurt by this due to some miss understanding. Anyhow after I said no he stopped talking to me and I was bit upset with this because we were really good friends and we had lots of friends in common and it became hard for me to hear about him through friends even though they didn't know he had asked me out. Well after he got over the rejection we made up but it was more like we were friendly then friends. So I kind of just drifted away form him and found no point in us knowing each other since I was moving home and we were heading in two different directions in life likely to never meet again. Well today the guy added me on facebook. Which I thought was weird because I know that many times Fb suggested I be friends with him since I had deleted him last year and surely they had suggested me to him. And he finally decided to add me.

Second sign is another guy who I had liked had rejected me and we fell out too was recently on msn which I had not seen him for a long while.

Well my point is to say both these guys played in my life a relationship issue that I used eft and affirmation etc to forgive them and myself for the way things became between us and I always yo-yoed as to whether or not I was over it. Now both guys have made contact so I can't help but wonder if this will happen with Peter returning to my life. Especially because FB has suggested Peter as a friend and about two weeks after he broke up with me he did send a message but I have not heard anything more from him but still I feel if J*** & E**** came back then so can Peter.

LeyLine · « **Reply #1 on:** October 23, 2010, 07:37:06 PM »

and im taking your whole post as a sign

because that phrase '' J*** & E**** came back '' which u used could apply to me!! my name starts with an E, and both my ex's and my friend's name starts with a J

.....J*** & E**** came back , ahhhhh thats a wonderful thing to see

i thank you, and i thank the universe

Peace

Mergirl · « **Reply #2 on:** October 24, 2010, 02:55:33 AM »

AWESOME 31!!!!

I too shall see it as a SIGN from My MAN, Peter, Yay for the 2 of us....Or should I say 4 of us

loveofabundance · « **Reply #3 on:** October 24, 2010, 09:59:01 AM »

I think is definitely a sign that things are in motion for you!

57angel · « **Reply #4 on:** October 24, 2010, 10:56:17 AM »

Yes! and LOA is really working in our lives if we just believe

Mergirl · « **Reply #5 on:** October 24, 2010, 12:06:13 PM »

I got another sign. As I was returning to my car after going to the mall there was a couple that were parked next to be about to go into the mall and there were some characteristics about this couple that reflected me and Peter.

bravelioness · « **Reply #6 on:** October 24, 2010, 02:55:23 PM »

Hi mergirl.Why isn't anyone playing the game of make believe anymore?Anyway,the song Ever ever after by Carrie Underwood gives me the motivation.You know what?It feels good to imagine like when I was a little girl.And the song gives me the motivation that still everyone of us would still like a happy ending.Listen to the song.I think it reflects what we would like to do,feel,& what to be done.have a great day!

Mergirl · « **Reply #7 on:** October 26, 2010, 07:10:32 AM »

Hi BLioness, I think many people keep posting new posts that the success story thread isn't on page one so people don't see it to play the game. Also I think people enjoy or find it easier to dissect and question their unwanted reality than to act as if the very thing they want is with them.

I heard a Carrie Underwood song a while ago on Oprah but I can't remember the song. I think it was about being left behind at the alter or about broken promises in a relationship. I don't recommend that song, however.

HelpingitHappen · « **Reply #8 on:** November 26, 2010, 10:11:02 AM »

Quote from Mergirl:

"I think people enjoy or find it easier to dissect and question their unwanted reality than to act as if the very thing they want is with them."

Mergirl,

You are so smart and intuitive. Any man worth his salt would be a lucky one to attract you into his life.
I dig.

Peace and Love
BW

Mergirl · « **Reply #9 on:** November 26, 2010, 02:53:17 PM »

HiH, THANK YOU for such a lovely comment. I was having a low vibration day and I would say by the power of inspired action came onto the forum before going to bed and read your post and it lifted me up very much and thanks to you will have a great day as my vibrations are high.

Also you're an incredible person on the the other post: To EVERYONE who wants someone (ex) back- shall we try this?, visioning others success with their beloved's. I am certain you will receive incredible good karma for wanting to see happiness for others.

bravelioness · « **Reply #10 on:** November 26, 2010, 08:25:45 PM »

@mergirl-Sure.It's easy for me to visualize you being back with your beloveds.I wonder why it's so hard to envision myself with Andrew.One thing's for sure.I've read information here & there & some of them come from famous pieces like the Secret Daily Teachings that stop telling the universe who the person is,the free will thing,& that if his subconscious doesn't think that you're the best for him,LOA/attracting him back won't work & the list goes on.I'm scared b/c my efforts might be just in vain & it could be just a waste of time(having read those pieces).Is the guy still Peter?You might want to put a pic of you together so that I know what the "movie" will look like.

Mergirl · « **Reply #11 on:** November 27, 2010, 03:55:43 AM »

B it's okay I will visualise you and Andrew together then. Its always easier to believe something is possible for someone else than for ones-self. IDKY.

Also I understand what you mean about it being in vain thinking of being with your bf. This is why I just concentrate on my ideal life which is to be married to a great guy living in Canada with our perfect family and on the occasion I slip in Peters face and pretend it is him like I used to always just have it be him when we were together. I keep hoping the other girl is just a lesson for him to learn and realise I am the one. You know like when men stray in marriages and go off with a younger women only to realise that they really love their wife. That's how I imagine us getting back together. B/c I can't erase the fact he is with her so I incorporate the true reality of them or him choosing her to the reality I want.

HelpingitHappen · « **Reply #12 on:** November 27, 2010, 04:12:06 AM »

BraveLioness,

I am in the thinking that by letting go and detaching yourself from your desired outcome, that either way, (he comes back around, or he does not), is the way to become whole with yourself, regaining your power and when either situation does arise, you don't have an emotional interest and choices can be made intelligibly.
As for visualizing, I too find it hard to come up with clear pictures in my mind of Karen and I together. I can see others clearly and easily, but for myself and Karen, its fuzzy and unclear. My mind gets full of all other things and very noisy. I am working on that by trying to clear out my mind so I am thinking of nothing before I attempt my visualization of Karen and I.
It works most of the time, and I think I am making headway on letting go, but as of yet there are no signs, no contact, nothing that would tell me if Karen thinks of me at all. I am the man Karen loves, and I am confident that she will come to this realization.
At this point, I know that when that time does come, it will come when I no longer need or better put, think about her coming round.
I try to make it a practice to think thoughts of us that make me feel good. I try to do it in such a way that I can emit the feel good emotions without emitting feelings of lack.
It is quite difficult, and I think this may be the reason it doesn't happen as quickly as we would like.
I am not scared that my efforts will be in vain, because I am letting it go and either way, I am stronger, wiser and an all around better person for the experience. I am thankful for her time in my life and hold no judgements about her for her decisions to be away from me.
In my situation, I can see no other reason for her to be gone, other than that I did not respond the way she wanted me to, to her thoughts on taking our relationship to the next level when she wanted to.
Other than that, there is nothing but love between us. Because of this, she had lost her attraction for me, most likely because she thought she was spinning her wheels and getting nowhere with me.
I am not, and have not been for a long time in that mindset anymore, but I think the attraction for me was lost long before she split.
She now, I think finds it easier to be stubborn and move on without me if she doesn't see me or talk to me. This alone tells me she loves me.
When she does see me, however the Universe brings that about, she will have attraction again, no doubt, but I think that scares her.
So alone I go into the abyss, living well, and learning from mistakes I made in this relationship, and have vowed that when I fall in love with someone again, be it her, or someone else, I will go with my heart and not my head, and create a wonderful and forever type marriage that sees no pain from my lack of confidence in it.
Peace and love,
BW