I asked for a sign, and I think I got it.. Thoughts?

[OriginalMe]

Yesterday I asked for a sign and I believe I received two of them.  our break up was a bad one and now we are not speaking.  I emailed him and offered an apology for my actions, and not blaming him for his.  I have been practicing the LOA for almost two weeks and feel so much happier.  I am not desperate, but do have this strong desire for him back in my life. 

So yesterday after I asked I went to a mutual friends FB page (we are no longer friends on FB), and our pictures were side by side in this mutual friends "friends" box on her page.  We have NEVER shown up together in a "friend" box before. 
The second was such a vivid dream of us being together last night that I sprung out of bed at 3:45 AM full of energy and ready to start my day. 

I truly believe these were the signs I was looking for, but wanted to post here to hear from veterans of LOA...  Appreciate all of the comments!

[pachacuti]

You answered your own question when you said "I believe they were signs".  It's all about belief.  Your challenge now is to understand what the signs are telling you.  You should write signs down in a journal describing the date, time, feelings, symbolism, details, etc about the sign.  Then you can go back and review as you get further along and accumulate more signs.

Mark

[lise]

Hi. I'm new. I don't want to hi jack someone's question but mine wa pretty much the same thing. Long story but I've had difficulty with the whole visualisation / detachment part. I find it incredibly difficult to detach from the outcome. I finding it really easy to "feel it" when it's a negative emotion but harder when it's a good one. I've been trying to focus on the idea that I am responsible for my own happiness not him (really complicated) to not try and second guess him, not get down and not expect him to respond in the way I would. I found this site - read a lot of the threads and felt inspired to try and detach - not to contact him - it's always me that gives in. Thinking - if you always do what you've always done - you'll always get what you've always got. I really feel in my heart that it's meant to be but in moments of negativity think that's just wishful thinking despite loads of evidence that LOA has worked positvely for me - mostly when it's been no effort to detach from the outcome. Anyway, after reading on here. I asked out loud for a sign - really meaning as a sign that I am right not to give up on thinking it will work out in the end. Went for a smoke. Looked on fb and a friend of mine who I've not seen for 20 years and never spoken aboout Loa or my situation has written " we are all responsible for our own happiness!"

I believe that is an immediate response to my asking for a sign - BUT BUT BUT - I don't know how to interpret it? Does it mean - Yes, this is your sign don't give up on him OR yes, you're right - take the status - you're responsible for your happiness and try to get over him. Any ideas?

[sapphire]

if you believe that your hapiness is by getting him back then don't give up.it's like your friends moto..you make your own hapiness.so search inside you,truly and find out what is it that makes you really really happy.is it you with the specific guy,or is just a happy relationship with someone else that you would like to come into your life??but remember don't make the mistake to feel unhappy till you get what you want..it's about feeling happy with who you are and what you do..and attracting people in your life to share it with them.not waiting for them to give it to you..so think about these,and go on!!may everything go right with you!

[dollyplops]

Hi Guys

Sorry to jump on this band wagon.  I have been trying to attract my husband back.  Its complicated and a long story but in brief he basically told me after 17 years that he no longer loved me and moved in with his mother who incidentally left him 29 years ago and had nothing to do with him only to exchange xmas cards, is now back on the scene as her husband has died.  After much messing about, as in saying he does not love me, then he does not know how he feels and can we go dating, to telling me he loves me but not like it was when we first met to the last one being I love you like a sister.  It was our wedding anniversary yesterday which is why I am probably feeling a bit low.  However, how do you use LOA when you have filed for a DIVORCE, I don't want any of this but he does.  Also I struggle with the detachment bit, it seems like a contradiction.  I have been using LOA since I discovered it around May time which is when he said no, I love you like a sister.  I have not had any signs that the LOA are working and it is my true desire to have my husband back.  I also don't believe that this is truly what he wants, I think mummy has been doing a mind @*=+ on him as there has been no lead up to an unhappy relationship.  Sorry to jump on this thread but I've been hoping and looking for a sign but there is nothing, what am I doing wrong.

[Jerome Faraday]

Dear Dollyplops,
 
It sounds to me like this guy has some serious issues to work through and this is clouding his view of your relationship with him. Here is what I would do if I were you. I'd ask what you really want out of this relationship and life, i.e. get to the core of your desires. Maybe you want unconditional love, romance, a loyal companion, etc.

I would focus on attracting those core issues, rather than attracting him. That way you know you're going to be receiving what you want, regardless of his behavior. Who knows? Maybe he'll come around, especially if his maternal issues are worked out. But what matters is that you know you're going to be happy and achieve what you deserve whether it's from him or another source.

This is just my opinion, but I think it would allow for greater detachment.

Blessings,
JF