I am such a fool

[Miracles Magnet]

Just learnt from fb that the ex I am trying to attract back is waiting for someone to come back to his life.  I know he cannot be talking about me because he dumped me and made no effort to reconcile with me.  I know before we started going out he was having a crush on someone too but it didn't work out.  Now it made sense why our relationship was so short lived.  Why did he has the heart to break up with me on my birthday.  Why did he avoided me after we broke up.  it is because of guilt.  Because he strted a relationship with me while his heart was still with someone.

For so many months I have been blaming myself for our breakup and trying to attract him back.  I am such a fool.  How do you attract someone whose heart was never with you?  I saw signs everywhere buy now I know those signs are not real. 

[sh-boom]

facebook is horrible, especially for relationships. youre concluding all that from one status. it might be true, but then again it might not be. never jump to conclusions or presume anything, especially when it comes to facebook. id suggest not going on his profile at all during this period, you'll only read into things that might not even be there! ive done it in the past too.

[insert name] loves hot dogs becomes omg hes having a hot dog, i wonder if hes on a date with someone eating a hot dog, he never ate hot dogs with me, maybe that means he loves her more, maybe hot dog is code for something else, maybe they have codes between each other that no-one else knows about and so on! when really it just means, he likes hot dogs!

[lovebird]

That's a true story! Stay away from facebook, it's an evil place if you try to keep your spirits up concerning someone you love No really, it's great for many things, but you only get a teeny tiny glimpse of the whole picture. Like I'm not even friends with my mcdreamy, but I kept reading things into his change of profile pics, and his gf's too, had me depressed for months. Then I got in touch with him, and he told me he had broken up with her, and I thought to myself never ever pay attention to fb. Most people don't put their hearts and entire life on display there, and if they seem to do so, it's the glam version. Certainly not true.

[Miracles Magnet]

I am thinking of deleting him from Facebook actually.what's the point of leaving him there.  He doesn't even treat me as a friend. What do you guys think?

[Queen Of Light]

I would say delete him, or at the very least unsubscribe from his updates. You can always re-add him once things get back on track. My guy and I deleted and added each other so many times on FB, it became a joke. People put WAY too much emphasis on FB. I was guilty of that as well. Some people use FB as a platform to brag or exaggerate things and it DEFINITELY makes things appear different as to what they really are. Don't waste your energy reading into things. Sh-boom's analogy was PERFECT! 

[beautifulmesss12sc]

yeah stop looking at his page .. it will NOT help you ... like sh-boom said u read something and start imagining all sorts of scenarios .. trust ,me i do it too .. but i hvae not looked at his page in months .. he is not a friend of mine .. so i cant see but so much anyway .. but still if he adds a new friend i automatically assume  hes dating her...LOL and most are work friends .. so STAY AWAY you are torturing yourself

[JustForToday]

my advice is to delete and block him as well, you need this to move on and he can see this as well.
but dont use your precious time to just think of him. it is possible that he is not meant for you, maybe he is meant. aske the universe for the best outcome/ men and it will provide it to you, believe!!! SO MANY NICE MEN OUT THERE FOR YOU 

here is somthing for you:



MOVE ON; BE HAPPY WITHOUT HIM 

[sh-boom]

love thatg graphic crazysoul

[Miracles Magnet]

Just when I made up my mind that I will delete him from my Facebook, I received a text from him! I was venting my frustration fb about him and he text me and ask if I am ok.  I was referring to him in my fb, but when he asked, I lied that it was my work.

Now I don't know if I should still delete him. He might find it strange that I delete him away now when he made an effort to be friend. But honestly, having him on fb only reminds me that he us no longer part of my life and that hurts.

Any advice what I should do?

[lise]

It's up to you what you do but just to play devils advocate. You lied to him about your fb being about work when it was actually about him - does that not illustrate exactly what people were saying about things not always being how they appear on fb.

Youve after been trying to attract him and then he messages you. Now you're wondering whether to delete him. Doesn't that seem counter productive? I know fb is hard. Think about what you really want. If you delete him are you happy to think that was the right thing to do and you're moving on. There's other ways to cope with fb other than deleting - don't look at his page - stop his updates coming on your feed. Don't login to fb so much. There's other ways to deal with fb without deleting him and that are easier to change.

If youve decided that you've had enough then that's a different matter. A clean slate can be very useful. I woudlnt do aything in a fit of temper/ depression/ hopelessness.

[Miracles Magnet]

Thanks everyone for your kind replies..

I am inspired by crazy soul's reply in my other post, and I have decided that instead of deleting him (which is too drastic), or unsubscribe him (I know myself too well to know that this won't stop me from checking his page).  I have decided to give myself a 30 days challenge.

I will deactivate my account for 30days.  During this 30 days, none of us will have any updates from each other on fb.  I will focus on myself for this 30 days, be happy, go on dates etc.  I will not attempt to manifest anything.  And after 30 days, I will see how I feel and maybe extend to 60 days.

All of you are right, it is time to move on.  And even if he is meant to be with me, we need to move on from the old relationship.  And the only way for us to move on is to stop being in each other faces all the time,.and who knows, I might meet someone else too!

Wish me luck!

[vanessa202]

Hi Miracles Magnet sry u had to go through all that. I would still personally remove him as in order for you to allow your your wanted desire to come through you need to be happy to attract more happy, but having contact with this guy is gonna cause u upset. One thing i have learnt on LOA is you attract back what u feel, so seeing this guys profile is natrually gonna make u feel rejected and hurt. You dont need anymore hurt coming back again and again.
Its the hardest thing when we feel heart broken but all we can do is heal from it and move on. having no contact makes this easier.
It gives you time to find out who you are and what you want and during that time you raise your vibrations to a more happy place so you can have that love with someone who will never hurt you and always love you no matter what.
Iv been through this myself and i know how hard it is to make that break but when i look back now im so grateful i cut the bad out of my life as it could have held me back and i wouldnt be in this position to get the good i have now.
You deserve everything you have always dreamed of and when you match your vibration through belief and feeling good you have to get that back as that is the law.
we are all here for you to help you grow blessings xxx

[57angel]

Miracles Magnet, I know how hard it is to feel that way, am sorry that you feel that way. If I were you, I will delete him on FB still, despite that he sent you a message recently. Instead on giving him so much energy to let him affect you in any way, to spend time being hurt instead of spreading love and inspirations to yourself and to everyone around you, he has taken so much of your time and energy to feel bad. Try as much as you can to change your feelings, your beliefs. Ask yourself what are in him that made you say you are in love with him? You are a wonderful person Miracles Magnet, you always deserve to be loved, cherished and adored. Learn to let go of him, and let go of yourself the negative feelings - for if he is meant to be yours, he will be yours no matter the time and the circumstances is. The way I look at it, he needs to learn his lessons in love, just as you need to learn your lessons as well. Forgive him, forgive yourself It is now time for you to know what makes you happy and what you deserve All the best in LOA

[jtut21]

I am so sorry that you are feeling discouraged at this time but it is normal after a breakup. Realize that once a man has a breakup it creates a void in his life. Subconsciously he has to fill that void so he begins looking for the most available person to get back into a routine that he had before. Often it is too easy to read into a situation that is not nearly as much as you might think. What if his comment really was about you? He may not have the courage to talk to you about his true feelings because he was the person that ended the relationship. There is a lot of great information on this forum and some other locations to help you understand the signs of how he truly feels about you. Now is also an excellent time to get clear in your own mind to determine if a relationship with him is what you want. Sit down and come up with everything you want in a partner to help with the clarity and to help change your mood start finding things to be grateful for. The gratitude will help you change your point of attraction and begin moving in the direction that you feel best for yourself.

Best Wishes,

Josh
Get Your Ex Back www.romance-beacon.com

[esmeralda]

That's a true story! Stay away from facebook, it's an evil place if you try to keep your spirits up concerning someone you love No really, it's great for many things, but you only get a teeny tiny glimpse of the whole picture. Like I'm not even friends with my mcdreamy, but I kept reading things into his change of profile pics, and his gf's too, had me depressed for months. Then I got in touch with him, and he told me he had broken up with her, and I thought to myself never ever pay attention to fb. Most people don't put their hearts and entire life on display there, and if they seem to do so, it's the glam version. Certainly not true.

omg. yea. both me and my ex were pretty hooked on the social media even when we were dating. I was on same social media platform with him in like 4 diff places, (facebook, twitter, Foursquare, Instagram..), and he happens to date a girl now who posts all up about her dating life. Looking at them just KILLED me. I felt dead and I felt probably the worst in many many years, and it didn't help me to move on or be happy on my own! I deleted him on all the social media spaces, and i swore I'm not looking at his new girl's online updates. DON'T look at facebook..