Author Topic: I am really failing to understand this (Read 711 times)

DannyDank · « **on:** February 02, 2012, 08:06:52 AM »

Don't get me wrong, I don't doubt for a second LoA is a real thing...but it seems that it works in a completely backwards ass way. You all are familiar with my situation I'd assume, but here's the thing. When I think super positive about the situation and feel really good about it, not much happens (when it does it's fairly good though). Recently though, I have kind of hit that breaking point, and excuse me for putting it this was, but I literally tell myself "Fuck this person."

Like there are time I legitimately couldn't care any less about her, times when it doesn't even matter to me if I ever heard from her again. Weird enough, that's usually when she hits me up. I don't understand? Is this some awful version of detachment, or just pure coincidence?

DannyDank · « **Reply #1 on:** February 02, 2012, 08:15:51 AM »

Like for instance: Right after this post -___-

Grateful Sunshine :) · « **Reply #2 on:** February 02, 2012, 11:19:28 AM »

Danny Dank..
May be what you are not doing is letting go !
SOmetimes we need to let go our desperation of wanting things..because we have a limited clue of the bigger picture and thats where the faith comes to play.
I read somewhere and I really like telling me this over and over these days .............
Things are not going my way.I am letting go of my idea of how things should be.My sense of me and mine has to expand. Take a leap of faith in the universe that it already knows what you want and its already working to get you that sec by sec..day by day and meanwhile get engaged in your present life completely as its the only thing we have.
I also have a link which you may wish to read ...http://innerself.com/content/articles/personal-growth/behavior-modification/performance/3968-law-of-least-effort-by-deepak-chopra.html
The whole book is awesome but this particular law made most sense :)If you can get your hands on 7 spiritual laws of success by Deepak Chopra or SynchroDestiny (Harnessing the infinite power of coincidences to create miracles) by Deepak Chopra it will be great!

DannyDank · « **Reply #3 on:** February 02, 2012, 11:33:38 AM »

See, that's the thing though. It's not that I am getting upset or frustrated. It's just that I get in somewhat apathetic moods at points. A total state of indifference. It seems like every time I get in that mood though, she'll end up communicating. Then I get in a more positive state, but that seems to block things all over again. It's like a cycle. I don't know why, it's pretty unusual.

Stefzilla · « **Reply #4 on:** February 02, 2012, 11:46:54 AM »

Its funny you say that because i posed that like a week ago, every time i stop caring its the same time she calls or wants to see me. Its almost like a joke at this point. Worst part is i would get excited and then the next day i would get my hopes shot down, then i would go back to a few days of feeling like crap, then not caring again. Low and behold she comes again.

I am kinda getting tired of it, to be honest i am getting to the point i didnt think i could a month ago, which is not caring anymore. Its like ive been on this emotional ride too long and now im really ready to let things unfold as they must, without me getting excited at every little sign that things are getting better. I also want to add lots of other good things have been going on since i started LOA. I find people are coming to me more , like old friends and even ex's i didnt even really want to hear from. I have "tested" LOA in the last few weeks, with simple things, and they always come. I just dont get why this is so much more difficult for me to get into my life.

Stefzilla · « **Reply #5 on:** February 02, 2012, 12:00:50 PM »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0QGbjxdrkAI

crazysoul · « **Reply #6 on:** February 02, 2012, 01:59:35 PM »

i understand all of you, happened to me as well- not now--- but when i really think f***
then suddenly this person is showing up.

i dont know- maybe its the real letting go?? when we really dont care about the outcome anymore? and the things happens most when you expect them least.

thats why i was faszinated by this site here, i think it was tereza or schenderson who posted it-

slacker manifesting

Do nothing.
Ignore it.
Listen for ideas.
Take action on the ideas.

http://goodvibeblog.com/slacker-manifesting-abigail-steidley/

well i guess, we all have still to learn how to let really really go on something

animor · « **Reply #7 on:** February 02, 2012, 03:07:11 PM »

I have done a lot of reading on LOA the last years, although lately I read a lot about sending your intention and then let it go, my older books were always suggesting to keep the positive thoughts, feel positive about what you want so you create a vibration. The more you do this, the closer your desire is.
I have noticed that when I feel like this, something happens, eg I have lots of signs, so that I will go on having all the good thoughts about my desire and feel great. In the past, I never had an 'immediate' sign, or indication that things are working out the way I want them. In case for example I wanted a relationship with someone, there was nothing coming from the other person during the person, no calls, no meetings. Just silence, like he didn't exist, I even stopped meeting them accidentally as I used to do. I never knew what was happening. But one day, what I wanted was there. Like the way I asked for it. I didn't have to fight for it, to try to change it, make deals or anything. It was ready!
Since we are talking about relationships, there was no sign from a guy, it was like he disappeared. But I was so sure and I knew that it was the time, I asked for a specific timeline, so when I felt it ready, I did the first move and everything was great after this. He told me all the things that I wanted to hear and the outcome was the one I had asked for. There were no breadcrumbs, nothing to have second thoughts for.

However, it's difficult to remain at this state of mind when completely nothing seems to be happening. I am in a situation like this now, there's nothing indicating that I will get what I want, besides the signs I get when I believe and make me believe more.

I think it is worse to swift your moods and thinking, by being in the state of 'F*ck it' and then when something happens you have all your hopes up again. Try to have the 'F*ck it' mood after what happens, you don't care, you are fine either way, continue with what you were doing. If you feel positive most of the time, don't start to worry when you see that something begins to happen and then stops.
I believe feeling good about your desire is more difficult than just forget about it.

onlyhappiness · « **Reply #8 on:** February 02, 2012, 03:34:51 PM »

Hi ,
I have been doing a lot of thinking on this particular thread .
In my case (and i won't get into the long boring details). I attracted my love back once 3 years ago ( yes the same one).
I tried everything for about a year , asked , let go etc..nothing worked . So like everyone else i believed it was over and said no more i am getting on with my life , about a month after that he contacted me. I think in my case though I hadn't really detatched for that first year and the universe knows if we are pretending ( even to ourselves) and thats why it was not til i honestly gave up because then i really had detatched.
This is my personal experience anyway.

truelove · « **Reply #9 on:** February 02, 2012, 04:22:40 PM »

I think it works in much the same way with relationships in general. How many times have you heard stories of people who have said they've given up on relationships and aren't interested in finding one when, boom, one lands in their lap. I know a woman who said to her friend, "I'm done with relationships, I'm just not interested" The very next day she met her man and are currently expecting their first child.
I've spent nine years trying (and failing) not to care about whether I am in a relationship or not. Sadly I've not been able to get to the actual state of not caring, I've just pretended not to care, but the Universe is not fooled.

beautifulmesss12sc · « **Reply #10 on:** March 09, 2012, 01:09:09 AM »

I hve been thru this aswell wasnt so much like i said f it i just wasnt obcessing .. like i had to express myself to him ...and i hadnt been in the place i met him while he was there in about 6 weeks then i get a txt frm him... i get all hyped up abt the test and of course wanting to hear more frm him and he goes quiet again

i think i have to be indifferent about it the nxt txt he sends unless its a direct question or its about us getting back together i wont reply
doesnt seem to bother him so im not gonna let it bother me (easier said than done i suspect for me ) but i will get there soon enuf

Profitius · « **Reply #11 on:** March 09, 2012, 05:35:12 AM »

OP, without knowing your story, it just sounds like the person wants you around just incase that person gets bored. Women keeping men on a leash or men keeping women on a leash would be a way of describing it. They're not attracted to you but like to keep you around for various reasons including ego boosts etc.

simplyjess · « **Reply #12 on:** March 09, 2012, 08:53:48 AM »

In my case we're still in NC, but I understand what it's like to feel like you really don't care anymore and boom something comes up as if it's telling you not to give up. I think it IS a form of letting go, and when you do that, it's when things happen.

Although I haven't heard from him, I received signs from the Universe (usually in the form of music).

First time when I wanted to give up, I was screaming inside, "I don't care anymore, I've had ENOUGH!" Then that's when the song "Just the way you are" (I visualized myself singing this to him few days before) came up in the least expected circumstance.

Then there was the dream when his mom was talking to me...it made me realize that I need to remove all my biases against him.

After my yoga teacher training, I promised myself to reclaim my energy from him, and focus solely on MYSELF to stay grounded. Yesterday I was in a good mood and while I was getting ready, I was listening to a random playlist online with love songs (I didn't know what songs were on there). My thoughts were, "Keep the energy within...ME first...I'll send him love when I AM ready...don't really care about him atm". Literally minutes after, one of his favourite songs (Hero) came on...I only knew it was Hero because of the chorus lol
And then I went back to my own stuff, with the music still playing in he background. Before leaving the house, I went over to my laptop to turn off the computer. And guess what song came on? "Just the way you are"...right from 0:00 at the moment I checked the computer.

So yeah, whether you've let go in the "charged" way (or the opposite)...it's still letting go, and it's not that one way is more "awful" than the other; it's just different.

Love4only1 · « **Reply #13 on:** March 09, 2012, 11:26:55 AM »

Wow, how bizarre is this?? I was just about to post something on this VERY subject tonight (as if I'm the only one who feels this way

) When this was at the top of the post list. Talk about LOA bringing this to me. I love this guy with all my heart, always have, and I know I always will. But it's so exhausting going through the tug and pull of will he call today, why didnt he, he commits one day then disappears the next, blah blah..I think positive, I think in the present ect.
I just cant imagine myself sitting around for the next 2 years hoping for a bone to be thrown at me. I go on with my life then BAM, there he goes calling me, telling me how much he missed me. I fall for it all over again....

I was going to post hoping for advice, but what advice really could be given? Continue working on myself? continue with the good vibrations? I just want to be done with it, one way or the other.
Tonight, I was at the store when it just popped in my head "it doesnt matter if you ever hear from him again, get moving on your life. He doesnt want to be a part of yours! accept it."

Made me sad, but I think someone/something was trying to tell me something.

Queen Of Light · « **Reply #14 on:** March 09, 2012, 05:16:01 PM »

Add me to the list of people who experienced something similar with the same guy I'm trying to attract back now.

We had no contact about 2 years ago after he got back with his ex-girlfriend. I was miserable about it, but somehow in retrospect I had detached (even though I didn't know about LOA). Only reason is because I thought I had no choice in the matter because I figured they would be together forever. I would get the occasional phone call once a month but I always never answered. I just figured "What's the point?". After almost 3 months I got a message from him to call him. I didn't even think twice about it and called him back, and in that time I found out he broke up with his girlfriend and moved back home. And we ended up become best friends after that. It was definitely divine timing at that point when I look back.

But now with nearly 6 months of no contact, I find myself not even close to being detached like I was before. Especially with all the RS, visualizing I've been doing. I'm at a point now where I might just completely let go of all expectations like I did before. Not in the hopes of getting him back, but I just feel like that's my only option at this point.