How to turn specific love into wholeness love and break free from attachment

[peter_93]

The expert says, avoid apply the Law of Attraction to specific person, or at least do not be too specific.
But we all got the specific person we love in mind and therefore what to do!

This is tricky -- do not be too specific, but there is only one person you love and it's automatically being specific.

Basically, if you love someone and if you focus on wanting him/her most of the time it is like squeezing the energy in to narrow line to a single person. This does not make you become more power or anything, instead, you actually feel that you are heavier and awful.

Wanting is represent lack of it, this is one thing for sure, we all know.
And when you started to focus into detail of actions for many many things, it is making you to start manipulation habits. Things get worse when you have manipulation habits, i.e. if you text and he/she does not answer or if he/she does not respond in the way you wanted, then you start doubt, fear and worry. Then you start thinking analytically and planning what to do to make him/her act this and that as you wanted them to do.

What you should be doing when you love someone is to open up and welcome the love and gratitude. Because the most important things in life is "being happy" By taking the feeling of love you have from this specific person and tune it into wholeness, make thanks to the person because he/she let you feel love of the life, this way will transform specific love into wholeness love -- so now your love is not specific anymore, it is whole, you are radiating love.

Conclusion:

In term of love, the prove of successful love manifestation is therefore a result of happiness within.
So when you love someone and you are happy and free from attachment even you do not get into relationship with the person just yet, I would still count that you have "manifested love"

Successful love manifestation is measure by love and gratitude feeling and positive emotion within you.
Not by whether you get the person or not. When you understand this principle, you will know the path you should focus on. Of course, focus the inside of you first.

[irishgirl69]

This is beautiful and I completely agree.  While there is definitely one person I want to attract, I am so grateful just to know that he is in the world and in my life.  The way that he has made me feel about him, myself and life in general, is a gift.  I have more love to give now that I have met him.

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Irish girl,

That was beautiful! so beautiful, it opened up the love in me

Peter,
thank you, that was cool, but yes, it can be hard to do but it's a nice way of detaching...

[UpLOAding]

Nice post, but some points raise a few questions.
 
Peter 93, is respecting any form of etiquette or "rules" also a type of manipulation in your view?
 
For example, you may have not yet realized that the person you love hates it when you call her/him at a specific time of the day (e.g. while the person is working), but never tells you in order to respect you. Suddenly she/he stops answering the phone and you start wondering...
 
Would it be manipulative to find out in some way (e.g. by asking her) that she got angry with you because you called her at the wrong time, and from then start calling her only at the time when she prefers?
 
Would it be manipulative to understand what little things make her happy (and do them!) and what makes her unhappy (and avoid that!)?
 
I write this simply because I feel that if you spoke about human psychology in some other posts, then you shouldn't ignore that sometimes it may be entirely your fault if a person dumps you...
 
In such cases, is the state of being happy enough ?

[peter_93]

Thank you guys…

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Etiquette and respecting rules is not manipulation
It’s okay to adjust understanding between the two to help each get along better, whether to support the happiness and to avoid interference, this is not manipulation also.

On the other hand, let say if the two of you agreed that only to make telephone call after office hour, then one day you call and she does not pick up the phone and you not happy and lead to anger, conflict and argument about this, this is falling into manipulation field. Same way, if she calls you and some day you could not pick up the phone and she angry at you, she is also try to manipulate you.

It’s happened to me before; I am personally picked up the phone within 3 rings, it is my life standard. But some time I could not do because I was in the bath room or busy on another call, then I would not be able to answer. Then this woman who expecting to hear me within 3 rings she got angry at me and started questioning me for not answer her call as I usually do, even I explained, she still not happy and lead to arguments. This is example of manipulation as well.

This is also to answer one of your above sentences, if the person dumps us, there can be three major reasons:
They meant to cheat you from the beginning – there is nothing you can do about this but you can apply LOA to attract more sincere love in the future.
They find that you are not their type – but this should not take long after you first met, your relationship would not go too deeply yet so it won’t hurt too badly, but it’s just feel frustrated.
They find that you have been making too much manipulation over them – this you need to use LOA to change your own inner abundance.

[UpLOAding]

On the other hand, let say if the two of you agreed that only to make telephone call after office hour, then one day you call and she does not pick up the phone and you not happy and lead to anger, conflict and argument about this, this is falling into manipulation field. Same way, if she calls you and some day you could not pick up the phone and she angry at you, she is also try to manipulate you.

Are you saying that if you didn't live up to an agreement you entered into or a promise you made, and she gets angry about it, it is manipulative? Don't you think she has the right to at least know why you weren't able to keep your promise?!

Two more questions related to your explanation about dumping...

They meant to cheat you from the beginning – there is nothing you can do about this but you can apply LOA to attract more sincere love in the future.

And why would you have attracted someone who meant to cheat you from the beginning?

They find that you are not their type – but this should not take long after you first met, your relationship would not go too deeply yet so it won’t hurt too badly, but it’s just feel frustrated.

And why would you have attracted someone whose "type" you're not?

[peter_93]

Hello

For the first question, I have stated determination between what is call friendly asking and what is manipulation asking. Take a look at the whole of my review.
The rest of the question, you attract thing whether you want it or not, that the reason people attract bad partners.

[peter_93]

I remember that few of my guy friends, they have perception that most women are bad and insincere, and so their life always met that type of women.

For me..... my perception is most women are good and self respect, so my life is quite surround and meet this type of woman.

Actually we will meet the type of people as per our thought and perception. So to change the situation, you start with changing perception. But the change in life does not reflect over night. It is going to take some time to manifest and reflection occur in the physical world.

[UpLOAding]

I agree in full with the last post peter 93, and that is what I have learned as well in the past two years.
 
The only thing I am trying to point out is that you cannot mix the results of changing your perception with "basic psychology".
I'm not sure whether you understand me:
If you are truly able to change perception, then there won't ever be women who want to cheat on you, find that you're not their "type" and such things...
What I'm trying to say is that ALSO THOSE EVENTS come into existence only because you believe in them.
 
I hope you understood my point.

[peter_93]

Yes, you're statement is correct UpLoading..