How to stay positive when negative things happen with the one you want

[Love<3]

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[seb913]

it seems like we both have the same issue: negative thinking. it really sucks, because deep down, I know that's what's bringing all the negative things happening. all the advice I can really give is to not only visualize being with him and feeling the emotions and happiness you'd feel because you were with him, but to also believe that YOU are beyond just attractive and that anyone, including your ex, would be just flat out lucky to be with you. we need to "fall in love" with ourselves first before we can expect our ex to fall in love with us again or getting them back.

sometimes that sounds vain, but I believe that it's an "easy" way to get the positive feelings there.

and as for the "easy things", there really aren't that many. but there ARE ways to do it, we just have to work hard for it.
and if you think you're just about to give up, just remember how happy you'll be when you finally do get them back.
it'll be worth it, I promise =]

[tereza]

Today I had some negative thoughts and I kept trying to push them away, but when you push them away...they get louder!  I then realized that maybe I should pay attention to the thoughts and try to understand them. I wrote about it for a little bit on my computer and after some time I realized that I was looking at the situation in the wrong way and found a better way to view things.  So one thing you could do is try to figure out what is making you think the negative thoughts and once you identify it, try to find positive thoughts to replace it. 

Another thing I did today that made me really happy, was get a wedding magazine and cut out the images of things I would like in my wedding and put it in a little book.   

[7up]

You won't ever get rid of negative thoughts. To put it bluntly... now don't get disheartened by that! It's human nature to have both black and white frames of mind, otherwise if someone was positive all the time 24/7, you'd think something was wrong with them! And there probably would be!

Like everything else, there needs to be balance. A 50/50. So while negative thoughts will cross your mind (quite a lot), it's your job to train yourself to lessen these thoughts. It does take work, but once you've got it it's like magic. You'll have a negative thought that will bring you down, BUT you would have habituated your positive lifestyle/thinking so much that you'll know exactly how to bring yourself back up to that positive frequency.

Visualization is very powerful yes. Another way is to think of what makes you happy? A hobby, being near the sea, going for works, taking a class, being around certain people. Little things to store away in the back of your mind so that when you get another negative thought, you can pull one of those things out and think about it/or go and do it!

[Chaz]

Today I had some negative thoughts and I kept trying to push them away, but when you push them away...they get louder!  I then realized that maybe I should pay attention to the thoughts and try to understand them. I wrote about it for a little bit on my computer and after some time I realized that I was looking at the situation in the wrong way and found a better way to view things.  So one thing you could do is try to figure out what is making you think the negative thoughts and once you identify it, try to find positive thoughts to replace it.

That's right. To eliminate negative thoughts, we must entertain positive thoughts. What we focus on, expands. Doing and thinking about the things that makes us happy will destroy negative thoughts by replacing it with positive thoughts because it's the way we are feeling.

[mkitten]

Hey guys
I had my birthday just two days ago. However my ex didn't call or live a message, but I noticed he was on youtube at midnight (we use to call each other at midnight, just when the day turned our bday) and he saved three songs actually with almost the same lyrics. It says: "Look at me, my heart still so young and wild, and even if I'm on the wrong path, you should know deep inside that I'll find a way back to you... I live a half life without you" ect ect. Don't you think it is a good sign?

Kitten

[David V.]

@Kitten:

I recently had a similar story, with my [not-so-former]partner faving a poem which, paraphrased, goes around "No matter how much I want to deny it, I JUST WANT TO TELL YOU THAT I LOVE YOU, AND HOLD YOU TO NEVER LET GO".

[starfish71360]

i have a hard time with negative...feelings!! My boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago....we were very much in love!! and each had issues in our personal lives...kids, grandkids...etc...and we started a business together......bad break up...another woman ......I am really very hurt....well better than I was .....I have tried using LOA...and I really have some good days....but then the negative emotions...pictures of them together...pop up again....and I struggle with these feelings and pictures....any suggests?? I need to forgive!!