Hello fellow members, this is my first post and yes, I am sad..so I need your advice and support. Let me first give a brief background of what happened. Me and my BF officially in relationship for about 1.5 months and he broke up with me last Sunday. Today is Friday.
Reason of breakup: He told me he needs his time, his space, he can never be anyone's BF since he does not make time, does not compromise. He has his own passions and want to work on them coz he feels everything is on hold and never got accomplished. But that failure is not coz of my presence, it was his past and he wanted to fix it now and happened to be he met me and fell in love with me. He loved me and so passionate and loving with me at the very early stage then his priority in life shifted so I am like his back burner...he devote less time to me already and he felt guilty.
My mistake: He claims I am too needy and "wifely" [coz I over take care of him] - please note that I am changing and realized my mistake now.
After breakup I started to read alot of articles about how to win him back and tips of what is forbidden to do and what I should do. I realized, I, just like other women, made the same mistake after breakups - i called him, I sounded needy to have him back, I cried in front of him..I was so helpless coz I could not control my emotion n cannot accept that I lost him. BUT, I only did all these the moment he said breakup and the next day...then I STOPPED coz I started reading articles and tips. I cried alone but never told him, I wrote journals on things I wanna tell him but never showed him.
Situation now: Before the breakup we have talked abt going away for the weekend [2 days from now] and when he brokeup with me Sunday, I was devastated and told him please still go with me, he agreed and said "JUST AS FRIEND" and he will sleep on the hotel room floor[meaning we are really...just frens].. he told me he does not want to treat me like F**K buddy coz he respects me.
Question/Help needed: I know it's already a mistake to go away together after a breakup, immediately but I need to go coz I paid for the hotel already. SO can anyone please be so kind to guide me thru....what should I do and HOW should I act during the trip?
I STILL want to strategize to win him back and willing to go slowly like those articles said...I need to be patient...but I need tips about this weekend...
Act like I am going with a good guy fren? Act cold to him? Act loving to him?
My heart aches everyday, missing him everyday. So I cannot afford to screw up this trip...can anyone please be so kind to advise? Sad
December 08, 2010, 07:13:56 PM
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