How should I behave/act?

[Wj-How]

Currently, My ex(for LOA purpose I dont actually call her my ex anymore *state of receiving). I believe Im using LOA step by step in getting her back. She's now closer to me as day flies. We are seeing each other everyday and we're in the same class. I would like to know how should i act or behave whenever Im with her?

Behave like Im her boyfriend taking care of her?

Act cool ? Indifference?

What affirmations can I make whenever she's beside me? What can I do to bring the relationship to the next phase? I dont want the outcome to be just friends though Im making affirmations that she's my current girlfriend and that we'll be together now and forever.

Send some guidance please. Thanks

With love,

WJ.

[Wj-How]

Guidance anyone?

[Galia]

read this:  http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/law-of-attraction-for-relationship/bible-of-getting-your-ex-back-dns-post/

you may find something that helps...

[Wj-How]

Thanks Galia, I've printed and read it. But I found that some parts are quite vague in content. Could you please give some guidance? We're behaving like a couple we used to be, most of my friends thought that we're couple. When they asked me I just simply nod my head (state of receiving) to be in the same frequency of hers. I've let go of the past sad memories that hurt me and I stopped recalling it for fear it interfere my visualisation, now I just imagine we're having a new start of our relationship and now I am courting her again, helping her (sending her loves) but to limit our contacts (stay detach) I stopped using handphone for almost 2 months, because of this, she asked me whether I've changed my number but I told her that my handphone was spoilt. But it doesnt matter cause we're seeing each other everyday. I wanted a relationship beyond friendship which is to be lovers. What affirmations can I make for my outcome? Can I wish that she break up with her current boyfriend? Guidance please. Thanks

[Galia]

Hi Wj-How,

I think in your case it's better to apply the general search for a soulmate as it works better : http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/law-of-attraction-in-action/relationship/how-to-attract-a-perfect-relationship-using-law-of-attraction/


Wishing that she breakes up with her current boyfriend is not a good idea for nobody. Make it general ,we talked already about that in other posts and the explanations are pretty detailed, have a look , it will reply to many of your questions... It's at first place an inner work for you and a change you need to operate in yourself and your limiting beliefs - changing the way of seeing many things and situations, being happy without this person, become detached on the outcome etc...

Peace

[Wj-How]

Thanks Galia. I actually understand what you said. I've applied the LOA and it eventually got us closer. But from the words that came out from her mouth, she kept stressing me as her best friend or close friend. But what we did together was the things that couple usually do, sensual touching, soft talks, etc. How do I get it through beyond friendship? and throughout this, almost everyone from the same programme as mine, thought that we are couple and they gossiped and treated us as a couple because we also doing things together in class everyday.

Peace Happy valentines day btw.

[Galia]

Wj-How,

trying to get a specific person as a girlfriend/boyfriend is not a good idea....in order to be happy and not desapointed I really recommend you a general search for a soulmate.

If this girl is the right for you, she will come to you by herself...

LoA is not a black magic and you can't manipulate people do things you want them to do............

[wedding]

yes galia we know LOA is not a black magic. And we are not trying it.
when you love but really love one person, when you fell in love with a person you cannot think somebody else, you can not think general person comes me.
You know.
And it's not a good idea say think general to a lover.
Because this name is love.

[Wj-How]

Yes.. wedding. I totally agree with you. We actually having one week break of Chinese New Year. Which we cant get to see each other, I've been leading my own life trying to suit my needs without her, but I found out that I am missed her, everytime I feel so, I will just say, she misses me right now and everytime I am not beside her as she couldnt live without me This may sound stupid.. but LOL.

Cant wait to see her this coming MONDAY!

[Calidris]

I agree as well, I understand that by telling us that we should do a general search for soulmate that you are looking out for our best interests and trying to help us let go of the desperation and detach from the outcome.  I am grateful for the positive advice that you give Galia.  But I do know as you said before that everyone's situation is different but looking at your own personal story of success Galia, you are able to attract back your specific person without doing the general search. 

When I do my affirmations I do also mention that yes there is a specific person that I want and love but if there is someone else better out there for me, I am also open to that possiblilty because the universe/God will bring what is best. 

[7up]

What Galia meant as in a 'general search' was not really 'just do a general scan for anyone'. She meant that you must feel the feelings of being in the relationship, how happy you are, what you do, where you go etc. without attaching an outcome to it. If you are attaching to it, it's a subtle hint of desperation.

Some it may help to visualize the person they love, others it will be better to visualize just the feelings. But it is more important to feel the feelings of it. Calidris, your affirmations are awesome! keep it up!

[Wj-How]

I've tried to make myself to feel needy when I am with her everyday. But recently it's her birthday and I actually bought her something she always wanted that I actually worked secretly part time to buy it for her. It ended to be she telling me don`t treat me like someone special. She told me she`s feeling guilty of it.  I know to be correctly apply Law Of Attraction, I have to visualize we`re extremely happy together, she enjoys spending every single second with me, seeing our future together while not being clingy and desperate. I've acted in a way such that I am indifferent sometimes to keep myself detached and this is my second month for not going on her blog and facebook to check her out on her daily life. But what else can I do since she said so?

[The reason I gave her the gift is I wanted to act as if I am already her official boyfriend in reality.] - One of the step in LOA isnt it?

[twirlgirl]

Wj-How

I think you are doing the right things, in courting her and acting as her boyfriend. I am happy for you that you have gotten her this far, at least, and she is in your life.

If she is still hesitant about claiming your relationship verbally, if I were you, what I would do, is continue doing what you are doing, keep treating her the same, courting her, but also date others.

By dating others, you will make yourself more attractive to this hesitant girl. That may be the push she needs. DO NOT brag about dating others, or use it to make her upset or jealous. Just do it in your spare time.   

AND, be HONEST with the girls that you do date. Make sure they know you aren't looking for anything serious, you just want to go out, meet people, and have fun.

Also, take this time to work out, travel, and find other interests and hobbies. Find some volunteer work to do, visit art shows, maybe take up a new hobby like painting or song writing. Go to concerts, go camping, and really get in touch with yourself, and with friends and family, and other people besides her.


THose things will not only make you more attractive to her, but will help you detach.  And that will make your dreams come true,  because it is all about the letting go and detaching.

[Wj-How]

Yes, thank you twirlgirl. But what I got from her is she felt guilty of me treating her this good as in taking good care of her. Its kinda interfering her life. She`s having a long distance relationship with her current boyfriend but I am actually meeting her everyday, spending hours together. Yesterday, I did apologize to her for what I've done made her felt guilty and I said, if so, I wouldn't bother her anymore and she felt sorry for me.

And yes, I will accept your great opinion for dating other girls. In addition, previously, on a phone call, she personally told me that there's two girls in class showed quite a level of affectionate towards me as she tried to being subtle, looking for hints on what and how I look upon those two. Of course, I reacted in a vague way by pointing my opinions in both pros and cons while complementing her.

I am going to pay extra attention on my studies, academic is always my priority, by taking care of it, I can also help her in revisions [I made her notes for revision purpose].

All these while, I've been doing mostly things for her but without letting my stuffs to be abandoned. But I actually gave her a wrong perception of I've been interfering her life and not leading my own life. I felt so sad for her to say this out. Also she told me, these things are supposed to be done by her boyfriend but not me. In our previous relationship, she always said to me that she doesn't deserve such a nice guy like me, I regretted for not reassuring her again and again.

Now, what I am going to do is, I am going to send her a message, apologizing again for making her feeling guilty and confused while saying to her that I wouldn't force her and bother with her anymore [Reverse Psychology] but waiting until the moment that she`ll then feel    the love in me again. I will also stress that, as long as I am with her, for every moment, I wouldn't let anyone do anything to harm or hurt her. This is the commitment I used to made to  her.

Keeping my distance, focusing on my studies, dating others, while protecting her by a side is the best option aren't they? Or are there better alternatives or approach? I was hoping for what I did could possibly touched her heart. I will also making visualization and affirmations that she's feeling my love, she's madly in love with me, she's my official girlfriend and I am her official boyfriend, she enjoys spending every second with me and she really appreciates it a lot!.. loads more. 

Cheers and peace
How.
 
 Keeping the faith. There's rainbow after every storm.

[DittoEffect]

I really agree with Galina's advice of having a general search as well as that if she is right for you she will come back.

Sometimes if things didn't work out before you need to go through personal transformations before things can work again. This kind of thing takes time. Also you have to make sure not to push the situation to become what you want it to be.