How to keep away Negativity?

[crimson]

If you are a cyberbully, trolll, and don't have anything constructive to say: KEEP OUT!
(Meaning go find another thread to post in or take your debates to because I'm not interested in anything you have to say.)

Everywhere I go in life and online, idiots like to come around talking trash. I'm an Indigo, and I talk about alot of personal things. And so it tends to be the exact type of thing bully/cyberbully types like to prey on. So how to attract actual intelligent people capable of intelligent discussion? Who are open minded, and constructive. I created a thread that was hikacked by trolls, then locked. Hopefully they will not post here. And hopefully actual helpful people who are real and have experience with law of attraction know how to raise vibration and frequencies so abusive types run the other way instead of appear out of the wood works.

The real word for them is invalidators. Their job is to feel better about themselves by invalidating others in any way they can. So what about like minded people who are all about attracting good things, and validating one another in encouraging ways? I think despite the dark forces, there are alot of good positive people here on the forum. This particular aspect in my life of attracting abusive people is by far nothing new. It is a daily thing. The insidious types will abuse you, and then try to convince you that you're misinterpreting them because you're dumb. So it's you're fault for misinterpreting nice behavior as abusive. However, it's just another way to invalidate you because the fact is, that is the only way they know how to communicate with others. Manipulative communication/invalidation is inherent in their programming. And they will not stop until you fall under their control.

I guess one of the most difficult things that prevent people from bettering themselves, and working towards raising vibration for a better life is when invalidators and such want to drain you. Thank you to all positive people. People who get what I'm saying. People who can see through them so you don't get affected by them. And for those who want to troll, go talk to yourself because nobody here intends to listen to your bs.

Basically, all I ask for is to be able to express myself, and the things I would like to accomplish in my life. And share with positive people who also want to better themselves. In an environment of respect and open mindedness.

[Ginny]

I think it's the same as with anything you try to positively attract - put your energy into what you DO want rather than what you don't. It should help.

Good luck to you

[marioska]

Great words from Ginny. At the beggining it would seem difficult because you cannot stop thinking about them all the time, but you should focus on anything else, or you'll continue to give them a lot of power. Love!

[DannyDank]

A true Indigo would not let such things bother them. They would move on and move past it. Don't let things get to you, because when you do you hand the power over to them. Just be true to you, does it really matter what a bunch of people over the internet say?

[tereza]

Hi Crimson, I edited the title of your thread as it was a bit provocative and would probably attract the very people you want to avoid. As for your other thread, I'm sorry it went the way that it did as it was interesting and I was looking forward to hear about your experiences with fasting and the Law of Attraction. Unfortunately, it was locked because it had gone off-topic and was devolving into pointless arguing. This forum is about discussing the Law of Attraction, not whether or not someone is an Indigo or an Empath or Special or whatever. In the future, if someone gives you a hard time again, just report them or send a PM to a mod.

As for avoiding that sort of negativity, I agree with Ginny. Focus on what you do want.  Also just don't indulge the crazy you run into. Every once in awhile, when I'm in a susceptible state, I cross the paths of someone I would deem nutso. If I let them get a reaction out of me, I'm basically giving them what they want...someone to fight with. If I just ignore them and continue doing my thing, they leave me alone.

[crimson]

Thanks everybody for your encouraging words! I really appreciate it.

Thanks. Napoleon Hill talks about keeping away from "negative influences" which are basically people who are interested in bringing down your vibration, positive aspects about yourself, and various positive aspects you want to create in your life. And that is basically everybody I know in real life which makes it difficult to even want to have a relationship with my closest friends and family.

I agree there is no reason to put energy into negative influences. I've been working on putting energy into what I want. Not just be able to attract more abundance in my career and finance. But to also be able to share the various aspects of myself and my life with people who are interested in doing positive things for themselves and the world. Simply because real positive influences isn't something that I've really had in my life. Sometimes I get upset about the unfairness of it because I'm usually very encouraging towards the people in my life, and I don't get the same respect from anybody.

I know that to attract better things, you have to align with better things. It's a daily effort for me, and sometimes I'm unsure if I'm going about it the right way or if things will ever change. Mostly because of how difficult it has been to come across genuine human beings who are sincere about bettering their lives and connecting with others who are positive influences.

A true Indigo would not let such things bother them. They would move on and move past it. Don't let things get to you, because when you do you hand the power over to them. Just be true to you, does it really matter what a bunch of people over the internet say?

Yes it's not as easy as you think. A true Indigo is actually more susceptible to getting affected by negative influences than non-indigos. That is why it's so common for us to develop disorders such as addiction, depression, etc. But I know it doesn't have to be that way, and I appreciate all the great feedback. I'm confident that as long as I'm able to get into a better vibration and overcome some of the negative aspects of my life, I will no longer be bothered by any of the things that have affected me so much in the past.

[crimson]

Hi Crimson, I edited the title of your thread as it was a bit provocative and would probably attract the very people you want to avoid. As for your other thread, I'm sorry it went the way that it did as it was interesting and I was looking forward to hear about your experiences with fasting and the Law of Attraction. Unfortunately, it was locked because it had gone off-topic and was devolving into pointless arguing. This forum is about discussing the Law of Attraction, not whether or not someone is an Indigo or an Empath or Special or whatever. In the future, if someone gives you a hard time again, just report them or send a PM to a mod.

As for avoiding that sort of negativity, I agree with Ginny. Focus on what you do want.  Also just don't indulge the crazy you run into. Every once in awhile, when I'm in a susceptible state, I cross the paths of someone I would deem nutso. If I let them get a reaction out of me, I'm basically giving them what they want...someone to fight with. If I just ignore them and continue doing my thing, they leave me alone.

Thank you. You're very right.

[iloverainbows]

Hey crimson, this is a good thread

Do you remember that part in the secret where it shows a girl and a guy arguing? And the voice-over says that even if you don't like someone, to focus on the things about them that you DO like - and they will become that to you?

I think that's very true, and it took me a while to get it. It can be tempting to group people into 'good people' and 'bad people', or 'nice people' and 'haters'. But the truth is even the 'good' people have some things we don't like about them, and even the 'bad' people have things we do like. Even if it is something really tiny like, you like their hairstyle, or they are funny or something like that. Whichever group of aspects we focus on, grows. we can make 'bad' people into good and 'good' people into bad, just by what we pay attention to about them.

The part about 'if you focus on what you like about them, they become that to you' is really true. I experienced it with one of my parents who used to be very emotionally manipulative of me when I was younger. However they were only able to continue that behaviour because I focused on it and talked about it all the time. When I started to love and admire the good traits of this person, really deeply, they have since shifted massively in who they are to me and how they treat me. They are now a massively loving and supporting influence in my life and I deeply value them. Conscious, loving application of LOA can do that with anyone and any relationship, if you choose it.

It can be difficult for a while, because it requires you to notice things you don't like, and then very quickly ignore them again. The fun part is you get to pick the qualities you do like of people, and put all your energy and effort into those. Those qualities will grow and magnify after a time, and you will feel better and better being around those people and those qualities. Plus you will be in a good vibration to align with more people whom you feel really good being with.

You're already doing this, by the very fact that you're here. You couldn't have attracted law of attraction knowledge and community into your life unless you'd already raised your vibration some and been ready for the knowledge to come to you. So you know you can do it. The tricky part is to flat out ignore that which doesn't please you about people. Don't think about it...don't talk about it. Talk about and think about what you love instead. Talk about that until your throat hurts from talking and your mouth hurts from smiling It's such a good practice to get into, only noticing and immediately magnifying things which you do like.

This is a really good place for you to try this if you'd like to - so as kind of a game or experiment, would you like to try it here? The experiment is this: You tell us, in a post of only positive and no negative, things you love about other people and why they feel good to you. But it has to be only positive, no negative at all. It's up to you if you'd like to try that

[Ankur Sancheti]

Thanks Crimson for the Thread.

But i believe mere making a post to keep troll off is not enough. They will still troll around. They do not need any message.

All they need is a Ban.