how do i attract my girl back?

[qkqking]

Hi, I need some helps here. I have read the Secret and know a little bit about Law of Attraction, but I have no idea how to apply it to my situation. I read an article somewhere and it says that if I focus on "getting the ex back", it is gonna make her further and further away. And it also says that I should let go, and focus on what type of the girls I want , and attract them. But I just wanna be with her and love her so much, even thought we had problems and did fight over many things...

So I need some helps to apply Law of Attraction here, like how to do the 3 step thing(ask, believe, receive) and other techniques?

However I do try to apply it somehow, here is what I do:
First I say this to myself:"Thanks god that my girl loves me so much, thanks god that I have her, thanks god for letting us be together and be happy."
Then I visualize the scene of her coming back to me and says that she still loves me and wanna be with me again.(Should I use first perspective or third perspective when visualizing?)
And then I think about the good time I had with her like all the sweet memories, and look at those sweet photos. By the way, I have a board that is full of our pictures, does that count as a vision board?

Am I applying it correctly and doing right here?

I appreciate all the advices and helps from you

[sunshinee]

     Hello qkqking,
the main mistake that you make is that you don't DETACH. You are getting obsessed with the idea of her coming back and that creates some kind of desperation.You have to let go and move on with your life,you can keep on visualizing but ONLY if it brings you positive feelings.If you miss her and feel sad while visualizing then stop for a while until you fully let go..Move on with your life,do things that make you happy and be sure that the results are coming,just don't get obsessed-that's the point.
Here http://brightmiracles.com/blog/how-to-attract-a-specific-personyes-you-can-attract-a-specific-person/
it is explained very good
Stay positive (:

[Andrew Wilkie]

I'd start off with working out what you want. Write it down. It is about the end result.

Do you want her to come back to you? or Do you want to be in a sexual, romantic relationship again with her? They are not the same.  It may be semantics and language, but they are very different.

Create and start using a Vision Board - http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/vision-board/vision-board-mini-series-what-is-a-vision-board/
Write out your ideal day script.
Learn and apply EFT What is EFT - How to Do EFT  This will really help with 'letting go'.

Write out 100 reasons why each goal is important to you
Write out 100 ways you can make each goal happen

Finally start doing the 100 ways you can make each goal happen. To the extent you're prepared to do the work yourself, is to the extent you will not have to.

Act on any and all hunches, gut reactions.

Visualisation - It doesn't really matter if it is 3rd or 1st person. If you know and can tell it is you. That is OK. As for pictures. Do you feel positive emotions or are you noticing what you don't have? If it ain't positive, time for a change.

[qkqking]

It really hurted for me to visualize/think of my girl, because I felt so mad and blaming her for why she be so heartless or something. And it hurted because I thought I would have no chance to be with her...
But now, I have those sweet and positive feelings when I visualize/think of the good time I had with her, because I know she is coming back, and we will have more good memories.

So should I be visualizing whenever I have time? And when I am not visualizing, I just forget about her and this, and just enjoy my life?

And I know it is a really dumb question, do I have to do anything else besides BELIEVE this? I mean like since she and I dont really phone or text right now, I don't know if should text her or call her to get her back? Or I the only thing I need to do is to belive and fully let go, because the univese knows how and when is the best?

I really appreciate all the helps

[Andrew Wilkie]

You need to start clearing away all the doubts you have. Should I do this,this this etc.  Act on all your insights, ideas etc.

[qkqking]

You need to start clearing away all the doubts you have. Should I do this,this this etc.  Act on all your insights, ideas etc.

I did act on my idea one time... that was a week after we broke up. We went to a show together, we bought the ticket before we broke up, so we decieded to wactch the show together anyway.
So I was thinking about if that date went well, I would ask her to give us another chance. Fortunately, that day went pretty well, we were talking and had fun. so at the end of that day, I asked her if she wanted to give us a chance to be together again. But she said NO because she felt happy and had fun these days with her friends, she just don't feel like she wants/needs to be with me...

I know I have to clear all the doubts and have faith... I had failed once acting on my idea, and now my insights are telling me to let her know how much I love her, how badly I want to be with her... But I am so affraid that she will say no again.

Now really I can feel positive mostly throught everyday, and I do feel great visualizing I am with her happily. But there are still negative thoughts come up into my mind somtimes and I once I notice it, I just try to think about the good happy things, then I kind of feel positive again.