Hi all

[djatomicdog]

Hi everyone,

First post and I am really pleased I found this forum

Brief bit about my situation, I split up with my girlfriend over a year ago and then we started getting closer and went on holiday together, before we went I was made aware of her saying that the holiday was make or break and the pressure killed me. I couldn't say the right thing and was on edge all of the time. Long story short we went our separate ways after the holiday and a lot of negativity built up in my ex towards me.

We have a daughter together, (or tryuthfully I am not her real dad but am all she has ever known) and I don't ever want her to see me as anything but Dad, she is wonderful and I will always be there for her in this role.. always. Sadly I haven't seen her since a week before Christmas as somebody told my ex I was going into her house with her being present, something I didn't or have not done... this has increased my ex's negative view towards me and has made life tricky.

Before this turn of events I had been mediatating and learning all I could about the law of attraction, I am still doing this  – I meditate each morning and evening, I write affirmations and I believe fully that we are soulmates and are meant to be – I cannot explain how I know this it is just a feeling. I just wondered if anyone had any advice? I have little to non negative thoughts about her these days, and although I have not detached as I still speak to our daughter I really want the negativity on her side to disperse so we can start again. I have seen some really interesting signs that make me keep going, I have looked up to the telegraph wires on the ofice where I work and 2 of them are arranged as a perfect heart shape and the other day I asked for a sign that angels are watching me and about 5 minutes later a friend of mine 'liked' the film City of Angels on Facebook and I noticed it in my news feed....

On a lighter note I thought of a way the law of attraction has worked for me, I went to the dentist today and go twice a year for check ups, I am not scared at the dentist and I know that my teeth are fine and that I will never need any work on them and each time I sail in and sail out again – the dentist even told me today that my teeth should always be fine  – I think this is down to my belief... bit of a weird example but makes me smile!

Thanks for reading

Tim

[irishgirl69]

Tim,

Welcome.  First, I will suggest reading the Resources thread in the Relationship section - it has a lot of very useful information fo ryou, including success stories that are very inspirational.

Secondly, I would suggest reading some books on LOA - there are many suggestions on the forum - I personally suggest Ask and It Is Given.

Third, meditation and affirmations are great - keep those up.  In your situation, I might suggest visualizing you and your ex in a happy relationship - not memories, but visualize it as if it were today.  Happy, loving, healthy.  Keep that as your focus and ignore the reality of where you are today (this can be very difficult, I know).  What has been proven is if you focus on how you want the person to act towards you in your visualizations, quite often, you will see that manifest in reality.

Hope that helps.  I think you're off to a great start.

[schenderson22]

Welcome to our community Tim.

Sounds like you are on the right track.  My only suggestion is to forgive her in your heart.  Any anger or frustration she has will start to dissipate.  Literally say to yourself "I forgive her, I forgive her" over and over.  You will be amazed what you will find.

Lots of love!

[truelove]

I have not detached as I still speak to our daughter

Hi Tim, welcome!
I just wanted to point out something that struck me from your post and maybe people who have been here longer can advise.. you say you haven't detached because you still speak to your daughter.. I would recommend you read more about detachment, it doesn't mean no contact, it just means being happy where you are and not concerned about outcomes to the situation. I would be sad to think that you believed you couldn't contact your daughter because you thought that's what detachment is. Forgive me if I've read this wrong. All the best.

[irishgirl69]

Good catch, Trace.  You're absolutely correct.  You could even have contact with the person you desire and be detached.

[djatomicdog]

Thanks so much guys this is really helpful and greatly appreciated.

Sadly the only reason I haven't seen my daughter is my ex's decision after the neighbours have mistakenly told her I have been in the house... I don't even have a key and have yet to develop a way of fitting through the letterbox!

Like i said I have no anger towards my ex at all (I'm quite a placid chilled out guy and don't hold grudges or anger), if someone had said something similar to me I am sure I would of reacted in a similar fashion – so I do understand her actions. I have emailed her and told her I can prove to her I haven't done this, I made sure the email was friendly and thanked her for the opportunity to email to put my side across.

The only slight annoyance I have is at those responsible for the gossip which influenced her decision and even then I don't think it was done mistakenly – if anything it is just a mistake by them.

Really appreciate all of your comments, so pleased I found this forum.

Hope I will be able to help others in turn.

Wishing you all good fortune.

Tim

[57angel]

Welcome to the forum DJAtomicdog! You are indeed in the right place, everyone here has their inspiring stories to share

You are really in the right track, keep that up! When you are in that feeling better place, she will feel it and everything will be for your favor