Here's How To Get Your Love Back Using the LOA!

[over it]

I am currently trying to attract my ex back, he is currently distracting himself with a new relationship rather than dealing with the breakup. I attracted him contacting me first again, but found out he's still dating his rebound. He says, she "get's it" that we are still "friends", because she is friends with her ex. I feel it's disrespectful to their relationship and to me to stay in contact with him. I feel he shouldn't get to hang on to me while moving on with her. How does the LOA work in my favor in this situation? I am still visualizing and doing daily affirmations that he will return with insite that he wants to try again, and that he didn't get through the breakup correctly by dealing with his emotions, rather he's masking them by a new person, or the "one" meant for me will come into my life.

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

My guy attempted to do this with me, but I wouldn't have it because if I sat around while he was with someone else, him knowing I wanted to be with me and he continuing to "be friends" with me, I would lose value over time.  So I took my self respect and told him to get his shit together.  I knew it was the right thing to do over time but he isn't your guy and so you have to do what's right for you. 

I just know it isn't right for me to be a door mat sitting around waiting for him to come to his senses (and him knowing I am doing that).  I would rather just say 'no' and get on with my life so when that relationship ends he will wonder about me and where I am and what I am doing. 

I think if you can treat yourself with respect and in high self esteem it gives the other person a reason to continue to see you the same way instead of some pathetic loser.....you can't go wrong being the one who got away instead of the one they wanted TO go away!!  LOL!! 

[over it]

Mariposa...I 110% agree! Thanks for input! I will NOT be anyone's doormat either. I do respect myself more than to be put in the "friend zone" so that he gets the best of both worlds and so that he doesn't feel guilty. I'm detaching from the situation and look towards the future to see who will come my way. If he gets his feelings together and wants to try again and I'm available, great, if someone else more deserving of me comes along, even better!

[ESP]

I understand why a person should honor the no contact rule during a break up, or walk away from the guy they are "just friends" with when they want to be with him and yet he is turning around and starting up something with some other gal.  Of course here's where this gets tricky for some people (myself included).  Before my ex cut contact with me all together I had endured years of psychological abuse at school, chronic finacail issues, and an entire life of powerlessness, particularly in the area of love.  Bascily LOA or not I thought for certain if I walked away from that friendship I was never going to see him again (I'd heard of the LOA but I didn't have any idea how to make it work for me), eventaully he did cut contact.

Here's the thing, it doesn't matter what I had done, walk away, stay in his life until he was minipulated into telling me to go away, I wasn't going to be attracting anything postive into my life in the forseeable future anyway, never mind the blockages that are either genetic or from past lives dealing with love, but what I learned from all of that about the LOA is: It doesn't matter if you are in contact or not, if you can't get your energetic signiture to align with having a happy relationship with them it's not going to happen, and if you can get yourself into alignment with the relationship you want it will infact happen no matter what you do.  The real question here isn't contact vs no contact, the question is really is under what circumstances you are best equiped to detach, realign with having the relationship you want with them, and then stay in alignment while the universe delivers them to you.

[JustCallMeMrsJohnson]

I am currently trying to attract my ex back, he is currently distracting himself with a new relationship rather than dealing with the breakup. I attracted him contacting me first again, but found out he's still dating his rebound. He says, she "get's it" that we are still "friends", because she is friends with her ex. I feel it's disrespectful to their relationship and to me to stay in contact with him. I feel he shouldn't get to hang on to me while moving on with her. How does the LOA work in my favor in this situation? I am still visualizing and doing daily affirmations that he will return with insite that he wants to try again, and that he didn't get through the breakup correctly by dealing with his emotions, rather he's masking them by a new person, or the "one" meant for me will come into my life.

I've been where you are, love. Regardless of what is in your future, you need to not only realize but behave like someone who is deserving of the life you desire. Holding on to or associating with someone who doesn't realize what a gem you are doesn't equate to that.

While you are manifesting the life and love you deserve, he will either shape up and return or lose you to the "one". It's a win/win for you!

[onlyhappiness]

 Absolutely brilliant JustCallMeMrsJohnson You hit it spot on .... i find most people , myself included have forgotten thast our ex's or dream lovers are the lucky ones. For myself i know i am one of a kind , and no conceit intended, but anyone would be damn lucky to have me if he's not smart enough to see that..well his loss cause he could of had me And honestly, really i don't care to date stupid men

 So please everyone remember that you are amazing and if they can't see it really their loss , not yours Stay detached and happy!!

[over it]

Thank you JustCallMeMrsJohnson...I appreciate your kind words and reminding me that I AM a gem and losing me is the biggest mistake he could've made. I'm excited for the future and to see who the lucky one will be! Thank you again! You've made my day!

[alliswell]

Hi all

My bf broke up with me for some other girl....it was too bitter...i did not accept the reality and continued crying ,pleading and all that made him more distant. He stopped taking my calls ,its been months he has spoken to me, when i call him ,he does not respond. My tragedy is , i have to see him daily with the new woman in his life as he is my next door neighbour.
He gave a very heart breaking treatment to me...i am still not been able to come out of the pain he gave me as it keeps resurfacing when i see them together happy after crushing my heart and trust.
Despite me trying my best ,there comes times when all the pain bounce back .....
Please suggest what should i be doing to get rid of this pain and have him back in my life....
i just want him back

[Snowyy]

Hiii,

I can understand your situation. I won't give any advice as i am also practising  but there are many  posts that can help you. you can find  many successful stories here & nice members who can give you better advice that what to do. Don't worry.

[Free bird]

Thats a very tough situation to overcome, that is isa difficult situation to be in.........bt i would still recommend u to avoid him as much as possible.....trying positive affirmations like i m happy n secure n positive....or manifest urself having a gala day...there isan exercise in the boo magic........imagine a fun filled day,, just the way u want it to be.......n say thank u as if it has already happened.......n as soon as ur day progresses just keep saying thank ......u can imagine a day like u go to office, have a great day in office, n thn u go out with friends n go back home n sleep........hope that helps