here's a challenge

[sugarbeat]

Ok where to start, hello everyone, I'm new well not really at. I broke up with my guy 2 years ago. It was a sad time I had an addiction and in his world the girl he knew was disappearing and he had to sail away.

I had to go away and sort myself out in other areas too. I adored him but not enough to give up drink. It was the nature of the beast. During our separation I pushed him away, he pushed me away. We both hurt each other. I did this not because I didn't love him but because I didn't think I was good enough.

Having gotten to understand the LOA over the last year, I did everything I shouldn't have done to attract what I wanted. I thought he would meet someone else, he did, and I wished him well and almost encouraged it telling him I wanted him to be happy. I imagined all the worst that could happen and it did.

After alot of reflection, I truly still love him with at heart and a half; I am nicely along in my recovery. I have got to a stage with him where we are friends, but I am also so conscious of his girl and stay well clear because she is very uncomfortable with me, I don't blame her. Although I want him I didn't put up much of a fight at the end and I tried detachment but I most definitely sent so many mixed signals.

I was a bit of a nice girl and let her right in there with him and they now live together.

Oh I could go on forever and I hope to eventually but I need to know do you LOA people think it is too late, should I give up or have you seen anything like this work out. It was true to say we adored and loved each other once, and the magic is still there for me

Where do I go from here, my fight is back but feel there are too many obstacles, help me and encourage me in the right direction

[sugarbeat]

Hey all again,the only rely I got was a personal message from some random user who only joined today linkin me to a thread about waking up and moving on, got a bit of a negative feeling off it, there was no message just a link,it was very anti LOA. Did anyone else have this experience on the forum

[angel_star]

Hey sugarbeat! No, I don't think its too late. According to me, its NEVER too late I really don't know if you'll attract him or attract someone better but you can definitely get love and that perfect and fulfilling relationship. You said you pushed him away thinking you are not good enough. What do you think of yourself now? Do you feel and believe that you deserve to have a perfect relationship? Also, have you forgiven yourself and him for whatever hurt you caused each other or does it still sting you?

[sugarbeat]

Hello angel_star,thanks a mill for the reply

Ok I have forgiven myself but that sways abit from time to time, i was so far off skew from who I really was and in such a habit of beating up on myself, it does take time to break that habit but breakig it I am

I have forgiven him too but I really had to feel equal to him before I got in contact with him again, it was my insecurities that caused me to let him slip away and most of the anger I had for him was a projection of how I felt about myself at the time.

Detachment is my personal project at the moment, but I would love if someone could give me a quick guide of  things to do at the moment to help me from your experiences to get to and stay in that positive attitude on my journey,

PS Love this quote, i just needed a little longer than others to figure out want I wanted
"When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it."
(Paulo Coelho

[sugarbeat]

ahh I just noticed I got my first PM from force, who I see now is a troll, that makes sense

[Mariposa, (KnJ)]

I thought Ankur deleted him, but if not please report him so he will be banished!  Thanks!!

[iloverainbows]

Hey sugarbeat

I want to thank you heaps for your post. Really, really, really. I'll tell you why.

Someone special to me is pushing me away too, and the themes are very similar to what you've said here. I asked for a sign today that if I leave him that is the right thing to do. I count your post as it...it is clear that someone with drink and anger can sort themselves out and come back to the one they love and to love and spirituality.

That said, I truly know you can attract this guy back. My gut instict was to say to you 'just tell him how you feel'. I don't know if that's right for you, but there it is.

And well done on conquering the alcohol, that takes guts!

Hugs and I look forward to sharing the happy journey through your posts here.

Love, Rainbows.

[OmAumOm]

There are heaps of similarities in our situation except now I've decided to not attract my ex back, I want to move on. Since you're unsure if you should give up or not, you need to ask yourself questions such as if you think you could find someone better, or if you want to go back just because he's comfortable to be with. If after asking yourself those questions you still want to get back with him, you need to set your intention and then forget about - detach from it. It takes a lot of work but a lot of people on here are going through the process and progress together, and you'll learn a lot from these boards and other peoples experiences.

I haven't really got much advice for you at the moment because you seem like you're sorta in limbo about the situation, but what I can say is remember that you happiness is most important. Do things that make you happy, love yourself. Ask yourself questions about your ex... it is possible to get back with him, but it does take work. Good luck and much love

[angel_star]

Dear Sugarbeat, have you checked the topic 'Detachment and Relationships' in the Law of Attraction for Relationships section? If you are trying to detach, the discussions in this thread may help you

[sugarbeat]

Hello all again

Well what can I say, I love this forum, and I grab so much from it about this situation and lovely little nuggets to use in all areas of my life. I just want to say thank you so much to all who replied and all who post here each day. I feel so much more positive about it day by day, I'm chipping away at my old ways of thinking each day I can see so much of what I attracted through the ways I was thinking, and it just seems so obvious. I read a story today in the success stories asking something  along the lines of how much do you want your desires, enough to put your all into curbing these negative vibes, and by god I do. I love him but I think I have to go on a wee journey about loving myself more and more and let the universe take care of the rest
 
I read the replies, had a good read through detachment, can anyone recommend any audio tapes I could download re this

As for me and him, well we share mutual friends so there was a Christmas party on Saturday night, occasions I avoided for a while so as not to see him and her, but I went, not for him just for myself to enjoy my mates and I did. He approached me a few times I was nice and easy, nothing serious, he got a wee bit merry later and I kind of avoided him. Don’t really need that. The next morning I felt great, no mad longing or missing him and headed out shopping for the day with another mutual friend.
Then yesterday I got a txt off him saying hello and that he hoped he wasn’t too silly with drink at the weekend and if we could meet on Friday for a Christmas cuppa I replied saying I had a good laugh and that I wasn’t round on Friday (I’m really not) and wished him a great Christmas, I got no reply after that. Now this is where I usually go wrong I worry and conjure up all sorts of thins in my head, I’m not detached yet, so even writing this helps me release the silliness

So that’s it for now, it’s really just a progress report, over and out till next time and I’ll be sending good vibes to you all

[lise]

Berylac posted some subliminal mp3 for people to use. I have used the letting go one - in conjunction with other techniques  to be good

http://www.powerlawofattraction.com/forum/i-am-offering-16/berylac's-offerings!-(subliminal-messagesexclusive-materials)-(updating)/msg37575/#msg37575

the first few times I listened to it, I felt a bit, not sure how to describe it - resistant to the sound? But I think I perhaps had resistance to letting go! I stuck with it and I do think in conjunction with other things, it is helpful.

I also liked Morty Lefkoe's techniques for eliminating negative beliefs. I downloaded a free pdf but I can't find the link for it - however if you google Lefkoe and Joe Vitale - it should come up with a series of 5 you tube clips where he essentially talks through and demonstrates the technique on Vitale. The pdf is basically a written version of the process - again - I liked it.

[angel_star]

Hey Sugarbeat! I am really happy about your progress. You are doing really well, and you are absolutely right that you have to love yourself more and more and let the Universe take care of the rest I feel by gently saying that you won't be around to meet him on friday, you did the right thing. You did not sound desperate or needy, and you showed the Universe that you are your priority and won't let others change the track of your life. So I feel you came across as an assertive but polite person. Its a good sign really So enjoy life as you have been doing and chuck all the worries. Waiting to hear more about your progress! Love to you