HELP. He's still not here

[SWEETTEA]

I know I'm not supposed to be focusing on lack, but I'm having a lot of trouble summoning my ex back. Earlier this year he sent me a friend request on Facebook, which seemed to be a major summoning success for me. My friend convinced me that nothing good comes of befriending a guy on Facebook as it kills the mystery; therefore I didn't respond. On with my life I went continuing on my quest to manifest him into my life again. I drew pictures of us together; I visualized like crazy. Nothing. In March I went to an event he was also at. I got drunk and eventually he approached me; we hit it off well according to my friend who was also there. But my conversation with him is the only thing I don't remember from that night... I only remember saying hi and hugging. Then I remember him approaching me again later in the night. The weird thing is that I remember everything else that happened. For some reason the universe doesn't want me to know what happened with him? Since then I've tried to tell myself that I did everything right... but to this day I still haven't heard from him. He really hurt me in the past, but I loved him, and I believe things can be wonderful again. Take in mind that he didn't mean to hurt me; the situation was very complicated. A psychic told me in December he's my soul mate. I'm not sure if she was telling the truth, but I feel like I ran into that experience for a reason. I was scared at first, but I've grown to accept it and realized that's what I really want, hence my summoning of him.
Anyway I'm having trouble letting go, and I'm driving myself insane in the process. At this point I'm about to give up on it all, but it hurts me to do so. I constantly have dreams about him; he's in my thoughts a lot. And many of which are not good. I don't know what to do, but I don't think this is good for me. HELP

[irishgirl69]

I can tell you that it is clear that you have many, many doubts about this.  The fact that you rely so heavily on what other people's opinions are (your friend, the psychic) and that you are so confused yourself about what to do.  You need to clear those doubts you have first (there are many methods - EFT, PSTEC, Sedona) before you can begin to think about attracting him or anyone else to your lfie.

[emilylb]

I too am in the process of attracting my ex back and one thing that helped me a lot was letting go of other peoples opinions. Don't listen to what your friends say especially if it is negative. I haven't shared anything with my friends about attracting him back because I know they will have negative things to say. Also don't trust psychics. I went to one  before my ex ended things with me and she actually told me he was cheating on me etc. And I feel as though she put doubts into my mind and that's part of the reason are relationship ended.

Affirmations really help me, also meditation and RS. But like irishgirl said you need to stop doubting before you'll be able to attract him. Trust me I have gotten pretty close, and then doubts come in and then it goes back to how it was before.

[beautifulmesss12sc]

I can understand about having naysayers about your relationship everyone seems to know whats best for oyu .. dont wory about wht others say and u dnt have to tell them what your intentions are .. but i had to tell my friends that i dont want to hear any negative and id rather jst not talk about him with them..

i am sure in my heart me and my guy will eventually be together...but u have to live in the moment .. i knw its hard .. u have to rid oyurself of any doubt .. my doubt comes in with myself i doubt he wants me etc.. some days or hed be here .. we have had contact off and on over the 7 months we have been apart ... what i do knw for sure .. isthat i cannot give in to him any more without a commitment .. he is wanting to be free but wants to HOOK UP .. so to speak .. i have told him no except once(weak moment) but i knw i have to keep saying no to get to where i want to be with him .. he is having his cake and eating it too (in my case) i have to show him i can be without nhim and i will go on without him unless he commits to this relationship

ok im rambling

my point work on you .. stop worrying about him and what others say .. its all up to you .. clear your mind ... meditate.. send love when it feels good... and most of all love yourself!

[Kas]

Also don't trust psychics. I went to one before my ex ended things with me and she actually told me he was cheating on me etc. And I feel as though she put doubts into my mind and that's part of the reason are relationship ended.

Oh my god! That's so terrible that a psychic put doubts in your mind.  I truly believe that it is possible that someone's words could influence you in such a way that it could create doubts.  I used to believe in psychics but now I think if they can predict all these things for me, why can't they do the same for themselves or why aren't they millionaires themselves?  I believe in me and only me! And I've come to that realization after going to psychics and trusting other people.  Believe in yourself!

[SWEETTEA]

Thank you for your responses. They are all wonderful. I'm really going to focus on releasing my doubts now and override them with positive thoughts. I'm aiming to put myself of the frequency of already having him in my life, and now when I experience any negative memory with him I reverse it. It seems to be going well so far, but I'll keep you posted. Also irishgirl69 thank you for the suggestions with PSTEC, Sedona, and EFT! I've been reading up on the different techniques, and they sound incredible! I'm trying to really love myself to the fullest. I tell myself how my positive traits everyday; I tell myself I love myself in the mirror. I meditate almost everyday. I say hundreds of things I love everyday. And life seems to be slowly unfolding. But sometimes I get upset. Sometimes I look in the mirror, and I don't feel the love... What else can I do to REALLY love myself to the fullest?

[kitten7]

Sometimes, you're just going to feel like crap. It's OK. I try and take a nap when I feel that way.. it helps.
Also, I got sick of the feeling - and I was able to finally, let go of my hold over the whole thing. I literally
stopped doing all of the processes and started living & things unfolded (well- not with my ex.. but in other
areas of life).

EFT (esp tapping into miracles) is awesome.. I love it.
I've just done some energy circles and we'll see how that goes..
I also meditate.. and try to write out my gratitude list daily..
these all make me happy w/o feeling overwhelmed..

Good luck