Healing My Heart

[truelove]

So I've started this thread from replies on another thread.

I really could use help on this issue. I have been single for a very long time and I am trying to figure out what is blocking me from love.. or even if I don't find out what the blocks are, just to be rid of the darn things!! 

It feels like all I've ever wanted in my life is to be loved and it has felt like the hardest thing to find...

Please help!

yes i guess thats right again truelove, we have to work on that.
did you try once to make the step further?
i mean it is obvious that you like and enjoy each other?

Yes, I really do have to work on this and I would love help 

I did try and take it a step further once, and I know you know my story, we had that first wonderful day together. The second time we met he asked me over to his place, he kept his distance. We were watching a movie, I moved over to him and put my head on his shoulder, and he didn't move a muscle, he just kind of froze.. after a few minutes I took my head away and I have never tried anything again since...

[JustForToday]

tracey, not sure about your blockages yet..... we need to think about that in depth.

but for this guy, he likes you very much, that is what i get from his acts. he seems to be shy though or maybe even feeling your blockages.... and unsure what to do.
unfortunately we dont know in person tracey- might change somewhen , so i could tell you more about it.

do you have a slight feeling what keeps you blocked somehow? guess not hm?
we will find out 

i can tell you that my best friend years ago.... she always wanted to have a relationship, has been pretty and funny and intelligent, but it never came to a relationship, i always wondered why and i didnt know but she didnt either.
she found someone then, married but turned out to be not her soulmate. again, being single 3 years, could not get that (me).... and now? BUMMMMM......

you can read the story in my single thread..... now she just moved together with her soulmate, she has just seen him on a bike on a bridge twice.... lol, just seen in a big big city and then met him in person somewhere!!!! HOW GREAT IS THAT???

now she is together with him and endless happy. she always said to me.----- our soulmates are coming!!!

so, no matter what is right now tracey- you too will meet your soulmate or he might even is your soulmate already. you can let things flow between you and him. he seems to take things slowly somehow, but i am sure your feelings are not one sided!!

wish i could tell you more for now, but we will find out....
ask the angels for help or the universe- to show you where you need to work on to remove them?

love you

[truelove]

Thank you Melanie!!! Your post made me laugh with this guy  !!! haha.

I don't conciously know what is blocking me. I know I used to have self worth issues, but I have done a lot of work on myself and now I feel very worthy, very ready.. but here is the same pattern I have been playing for years. 

I think he does like me, um I think... but I don't know really anymore. I knew the day we met he definitely liked me, like REALLY liked me... but I don't know what changed.

Funny thing is I had written myself a note back in the middle of last year that said, "I will meet my soul mate in November" well guess when we met?? Ahhh but I don't know now.  Anyway I am not saying my guy has to be The One, I just want to move forward into the next phase of my life now please Universe!!! 

I remember your story about your friend meeting the guy on the bridge, such a great story as goes to show, when you are ready, the Universe lines everything up for you and it will happen against all odds!!

I think it's fear stopping me, I really don't like to feel vulnerable and I've spent so many years being strong and independant I just don't know any other way to be...

hmmm, I know we will work this out and our loves are coming to us now!!! 

love you too  x

[truelove]

Ok so I took crazysoul's advice a messaged him this morning and asked if he wanted to play music today.. he called me straight back and said yes... so I'm heading over there soon.

Going to open my heart and not be afraid.

All is well
I am love
I give and receive love easily
There is nothing standing between me and true love   

[def]

Wow true love just reading your post I got extremely excited for you, which is really weird since I am in a low vibrational mood. So if that is a sign it is a really great one! Have fun

[AS & I ARE HAPPY MARRIAGE NOW :)]

WOW... This is great news truelove... Table just turned like that!!

Don't be afraid of being vulnerable.. Don't expect something out of it.. Let things flow.. Enjoy the present moment.. I hope you have the time of your life 

LOVE & GOD BLESS,
NS

[truelove]

Thank you so much for your encouragement guys, I wish I could report something exceiting, but I'm not sure if any tables turned...
It was the same as usual. We hung out, we played music, we talked, we laughed, we had a good time, I went home... done.

We kind of scoot around each other but it is like there is an invisible wall there that stops us from physically touching each other *sigh*

It was lovely but I think I have to come to terms with the fact that he just likes me as a friend. I am a bit sad about it, but I don't want to try and force myself upon anyone...

[Vicki Christina]

When I was working on myself to learn how to attract My Honey back, besides reading about LOA and related articles, I read about relationships.  Sandra Ann Taylor, Rorie Raye, Christian Carter, the old "Men are from Mars..."  book all shared similar wisdom about being feeling, open and venerable.  It is difficult to be that open when we have been in the strong independent roll for so long.  The balance from independent to open feelings is always a bit of work for me.  Independence is attractive, but can be too much of I do not need you.   People want to be needed.   Then again being needy is a drag in relationships.   So it is a work in progress for me to learn to keep this balance. 

[truelove]

Thank you Vicky, yes, I have read dozens of books and web sites about relationships too.

Trouble is I don't know how to be vulnerable. Does it mean saying what is in your heart?? because to me that would take being braver than i have ever been in my life.

[Vicki Christina]

The authors (Carter, Raye, and John Grey) discuss how to say and write feeling statements.    Often they discuss actually using the words "feel and feeling".   Carter and Raye have ebooks - also they have a lot more to buy, but I have only bought the ebooks.   They helped me.   Sometimes it is as simple as "It feels good to hear from you."   :-)

[JustForToday]

Thank you so much for your encouragement guys, I wish I could report something exceiting, but I'm not sure if any tables turned...
It was the same as usual. We hung out, we played music, we talked, we laughed, we had a good time, I went home... done.

We kind of scoot around each other but it is like there is an invisible wall there that stops us from physically touching each other *sigh*

It was lovely but I think I have to come to terms with the fact that he just likes me as a friend. I am a bit sad about it, but I don't want to try and force myself upon anyone...

tracey, when youre honest--- it was exciting!!! 

he called you straight away, you hung up with laughing and all the stuff.
yeah live in the now..... cause then you cant think of the past hurtings, fears..... and you cant worry about the future!!

all is well..... i love this statement
he doesnt like you as friend, we spoke about that 

[AS & I ARE HAPPY MARRIAGE NOW :)]

Truelove..

I think you should enjoy the moment.. What's the hurry??  Be Grateful for what you have NOW, remember...  then you will have more things to be GRATEFUL for!!

What if he is trying to build a strong bond before any touching.. Wouldn't that be AWESOME???

Maybe watching some romantic movies will teach you how to be vulnerable.. Do you dress up in t-shirt/jeans when you meet him since u guys are playing music??  How about wearing a cute dress next time??

Just throwing in ideas

Live in the NOW and continue to day-dream!!

LOVE & GOD BLESS,
NS

[simplyjess]

This is what someone very special to me once said: "Future success is built upon the steps you take in the present."

(wonder if I should cite him here haha )

Cherish each moment with him right now, enjoy the process and before you know it, you desire becomes reality.

[truelove]

Thank you everyone!!!!
And yes, you are all right, I am going to enjoy the moment, enjoy his company and basically just enjoy him and see what happens.

A and I are True Love, Thank you- you're right, there is no hurry, I will relax about this and just live in the now. I do have to say when I go to see him I do try to look as CUTE AS POSSIBLE!!.. with out looking like I made any effort haha!

Thanks lovely people, this is all really helping    xxx