Author Topic: He has blocked me on facebook - I feel sick (Read 6505 times)

siamesegirl · « **on:** March 07, 2012, 04:14:54 AM »

My facebook account is not in my own name but in that of an ancestor of mine (not as weird as it seems, I do family history and as I am a teacher I wanted to remain unable to be found) and I have found my ex Ryan's fb account - I haven't contacted him on it but I have "liked" a few pictures he has been tagged in etc. He has clearly had his curiosity raised as to who it is, as I have "liked" a lot of stuff of mutual interest, looked at my account and though he cannot see anything on it (even my profile pic is not of me) clicked on some things I have posted on and read things and worked out it is me and blocked me. I did email him 2 wks ago and never got a reply. I don't understand why and feel really in despair now - I feel he thinks I am stalking and I am not!! Feel like there is no hope now ever and I don't know what to do. We never even fell out or had an argument, we were both (well I was) just too scared to take it very far.

siamesegirl · « **Reply #1 on:** March 07, 2012, 04:15:48 AM »

btw the email was just hello, hope you are ok, fill me in on what you have been up to - just chat.

MeowMix · « **Reply #2 on:** March 07, 2012, 04:41:45 AM »

Hmm people can be so unpredictable sometimes! BTW I think it's really cool your name is one of your acenstor's! That's awesome. Maybe since he doesn't know what's going on with your FB he may think you made a fake one to stalk him? Don't worry about it too much though. Just keep working with LOA and moving forward

tina_attract · « **Reply #3 on:** March 07, 2012, 04:50:55 AM »

Forget it happened, as hard as that sounds. Focus on yourself and keeping your spirits up and he will be back in your life soon.

Don't try to contact him though, because it'll just push him away.

siamesegirl · « **Reply #4 on:** March 07, 2012, 04:51:22 AM »

God I hope he doesn't think that! I didn't, I use it to talk to my real friends (my friends list is blocked and even if he clicked on any of them he wouldn't know them) I am in England (Yorkshire) and he is going to Japan this year

LadyUniverse · « **Reply #5 on:** March 10, 2012, 09:18:41 AM »

maybe he did NOT figure it was you and just blocked you to keep his privacy from a 'stranger'. don't fret, dear.

chrissy8907 · « **Reply #6 on:** March 10, 2012, 09:37:49 AM »

I understand how you feel 100% my ex ( not we are pretty much back together I made a post about it) anyways lol did the EXACT SAME THING I was so hurt so confused I deleted my fb completely. It took me I won't lie about 3 months to NOT CARE about what he did it was the hardest thing but once i started to focus on ME everything changed!!! That's where to LOA came into picture

You have to focus on you and how and why you feel so hurt. Keep a feeling journal send his love energy and remember no matter what happens it's his choice it's his karma just like you focusing on yourself and loving yourself first will be your karma and it will be so very beautiful!!! So much positive energy and love you way.

siamesegirl · « **Reply #7 on:** March 11, 2012, 05:30:42 AM »

Thanks Chrissy! I feel more confused now as he unblocked me later in the week (?? Why??) I have been on his page again tonight (just being nosey! Not clicking on anything or "liking" anything). Now he has blocked me again! My friend looked at his profile and about 15 minutes ago he posted something about playing at vampires and having a bubble bath and biting his new girlfriend. It really upset me!!! I do of course want to be back with him but I also want it to be when it is RIGHT. I'm going to make 100% sure I don't even look at his profile for weeks and weeks just to let it all calm down (I think? Right thing to do anyone??) As he is an IT technician though, and I wonder if he has some way of knowing who is looking at his page? I do miss him and want him back but want the RIGHT relationship with him too.

Very confused, feel rubbish, but am trying. Worrying thing is he goes to Japan in September to work and I am in England - Yorkshire!

chrissy8907 · « **Reply #8 on:** March 11, 2012, 11:45:59 AM »

I truly believe you should not go on his page!! I'm a very emotional person naturally and can assume things and basically hurt myself assuming so I come here and feel relaxed and at ease. I think fb has become such a toxic thing for many. He has to be blocking and unblocking for a reason . He's probably uncertain about his own feelings. Once you let it go let go of what he's doing or who he is with he will feel the energy. He will know and loa will come in place

When you feel upset just come write here it always feels good to write it out. Send him positive energy but focus on yourself. How to make your day happier

Im always on here and you are always welcome to write me

siamesegirl · « **Reply #9 on:** March 11, 2012, 05:22:58 PM »

Thank you Chrissy xx It is a lovely sunny day today and I am going to get on with it! xx

lilly · « **Reply #10 on:** March 11, 2012, 07:43:48 PM »

He probably has no idea who it is..no offense but why would you like pictures he is tagged on and such under an account which may be totally stranger to him, it is not sending the right vibe ..I think it would be better to ask him as a friend and not hide behind a nickname he does not know as I would personally find it creepy if someone did that to me..Again no offense but if you want to keep or rebuild a healthy relationship to him you should be open and not hide and most of all state your intentions clearly.

Quote from: siamesegirl on March 07, 2012, 04:14:54 AM

My facebook account is not in my own name but in that of an ancestor of mine (not as weird as it seems, I do family history and as I am a teacher I wanted to remain unable to be found) and I have found my ex Ryan's fb account - I haven't contacted him on it but I have "liked" a few pictures he has been tagged in etc. He has clearly had his curiosity raised as to who it is, as I have "liked" a lot of stuff of mutual interest, looked at my account and though he cannot see anything on it (even my profile pic is not of me) clicked on some things I have posted on and read things and worked out it is me and blocked me. I did email him 2 wks ago and never got a reply. I don't understand why and feel really in despair now - I feel he thinks I am stalking and I am not!! Feel like there is no hope now ever and I don't know what to do. We never even fell out or had an argument, we were both (well I was) just too scared to take it very far.

annmarie · « **Reply #11 on:** March 11, 2012, 08:11:01 PM »

Hunni when you start LOVING YOURSELF and know what your worth. you will not care one bit about what he is doing or even talking to him. IT will be him that will feel the void and come back to you

Sweeterie · « **Reply #12 on:** March 11, 2012, 08:15:57 PM »

Looking into profiles seems like exactly this state of mind we called attachment...You are poisoning youself searching for explanation and thinking what he's doing, with whom and so on...
Take a deep breathe, say "ok, I love you, but I have to live my life" and stop, just stop looking his profile...And everything will go on its place...
My guy deleted me..and for some hours I was dying...then I said angry to myself that it doesn't matter, my life is not less worthy without somebody who doesn't want me anymore, actually he made the place free for someone much better than him...I said actually "I don't give a fuck!"...and forgot it...on the very next day he called me, sound scared, he made a mistake, didn't got that it's my profile, we don't use the network to communicate and he is not watching me over there...so, he just made a mistake and was afraid I'm angry and won't accept him again...
But the point is - it happened when I screamed out loud I don't give a fuck and I really feel it this way...
I'm reading...and reading...the topics here...it has good for detachment...in my opinion, this is the case - you have to let go, if you want him come back...
Love yourself, learn to love yourself and you'll start feeling happy...and he(or someone better) will appear around

siamesegirl · « **Reply #13 on:** March 12, 2012, 01:28:03 AM »

Quote from: lilly on March 11, 2012, 07:43:48 PM

He probably has no idea who it is..no offense but why would you like pictures he is tagged on and such under an account which may be totally stranger to him, it is not sending the right vibe ..I think it would be better to ask him as a friend and not hide behind a nickname he does not know as I would personally find it creepy if someone did that to me..Again no offense but if you want to keep or rebuild a healthy relationship to him you should be open and not hide and most of all state your intentions clearly.

Quote from: siamesegirl on March 07, 2012, 04:14:54 AM
My facebook account is not in my own name but in that of an ancestor of mine (not as weird as it seems, I do family history and as I am a teacher I wanted to remain unable to be found) and I have found my ex Ryan's fb account - I haven't contacted him on it but I have "liked" a few pictures he has been tagged in etc. He has clearly had his curiosity raised as to who it is, as I have "liked" a lot of stuff of mutual interest, looked at my account and though he cannot see anything on it (even my profile pic is not of me) clicked on some things I have posted on and read things and worked out it is me and blocked me. I did email him 2 wks ago and never got a reply. I don't understand why and feel really in despair now - I feel he thinks I am stalking and I am not!! Feel like there is no hope now ever and I don't know what to do. We never even fell out or had an argument, we were both (well I was) just too scared to take it very far.

Thanks Lilly but the facebook profile was not set up with any intention to do with him actually; it is not a fake profile or a nickname, it is my great great grandmother's and the profile picture is a link to me but not of me (not that he would know that now but my friends do) - I have chosen to do it that way because I am a teacher and I am avoiding being found by students, Ryan was not in any of my thoughts when I did this, it just came to me afterwards to look at his profile (which I have not done today by the way, pleased with myself!) I see what you are thinking though, thanks xx

lilly · « **Reply #14 on:** March 12, 2012, 01:41:55 AM »

I understood that it is not a "fake" profile ( I understand and agree on the privacy thing you mentioned) but that he doesn't know who it is which is the point I was getting at, and the fact that a stranger would comment on this picture might appear creepy to him and if he knows it is you it might come off as stalking/desperate even if I understand it is not your intention but it is the vibe it is sending.
I know it is easy to to be checking his profile out of curiosity and/or because you miss him but my advice would be that you either don't do that like some members suggested, for your own sake or if you are strong enough you ask him as a friend and try to build a healthy relationship from there.

I think in these kinds of situation, every time you do something you should stop for a few minutes and ask yourself, how would I feel/react if HE was doing/tell me this..it is always good to try and see things from different perspectives.

Try to distance yourself for a while and not worry too much, usually things resolve themselves, goodluck

Quote from: siamesegirl on March 12, 2012, 01:28:03 AM

Quote from: lilly on March 11, 2012, 07:43:48 PM
He probably has no idea who it is..no offense but why would you like pictures he is tagged on and such under an account which may be totally stranger to him, it is not sending the right vibe ..I think it would be better to ask him as a friend and not hide behind a nickname he does not know as I would personally find it creepy if someone did that to me..Again no offense but if you want to keep or rebuild a healthy relationship to him you should be open and not hide and most of all state your intentions clearly.

Quote from: siamesegirl on March 07, 2012, 04:14:54 AM
My facebook account is not in my own name but in that of an ancestor of mine (not as weird as it seems, I do family history and as I am a teacher I wanted to remain unable to be found) and I have found my ex Ryan's fb account - I haven't contacted him on it but I have "liked" a few pictures he has been tagged in etc. He has clearly had his curiosity raised as to who it is, as I have "liked" a lot of stuff of mutual interest, looked at my account and though he cannot see anything on it (even my profile pic is not of me) clicked on some things I have posted on and read things and worked out it is me and blocked me. I did email him 2 wks ago and never got a reply. I don't understand why and feel really in despair now - I feel he thinks I am stalking and I am not!! Feel like there is no hope now ever and I don't know what to do. We never even fell out or had an argument, we were both (well I was) just too scared to take it very far.

Thanks Lilly but the facebook profile was not set up with any intention to do with him actually; it is not a fake profile or a nickname, it is my great great grandmother's and the profile picture is a link to me but not of me - I have chosen to do it that way because I am a teacher and I am avoiding being found by students, Ryan was not in any of my thoughts when I did this, it just came to me afterwards to look at his profile (which I have not done today by the way, pleased with myself!) I see what you are thinking though, thanks xx