Author Topic: He came back, but I let him go (Read 9140 times)

purebliss · « **on:** December 08, 2010, 12:31:31 AM »

Hi Guys!! I have been attracting my ex back into my life for the past 4 months. Well we still aren't officially together, but we were doing all of the things couples do--well most of the things. He broke up with me over the summer because I hurt him (we just argued a lot, and he couldn't take it), but during that time I became a better person and found my spiritual self! Well I was too late, but nonetheless I stuck it out. Recently I decided that I couldn't any longer, so I ended things for good. I came to a place of peace and I truly feel good about my decision. He says he loves me and doesn't want to let me go but that right now he didn't want a relationship, and understood if I needed to move on. Now I feel free, completely at peace with him and myself. I know that he'll call, a lot and will even ask to visit, but the truth is I cannot move on if we are still pretending to be a couple. I needed to detach myself, and well whatever happens happens! Our exes are wonderful people, and this is why we want them back, but they are JUST people like us, and we don't have to cater to them to get the back :-) Say sorry, and if they can't get over what happened move on! That's when they always return :-) Just wanted to share!

p.s. I do still love him but I am doing this for moi! I will still send him loving thoughts, and write in my journal however I won't call him or hang out with him. I've done enough chasing it's time for HIM to show me how important I am :-)

Thanks!!

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #1 on:** December 08, 2010, 12:58:58 AM »

Basically what you have done is ASKED, you BELIEVE and by letting go, you are now ready to RECEIVE.

That is a very mature thing to do. You have recognized that YOU are the most important person to YOU. YOU have to do whatever is best for YOU. If YOU can make YOU happy by just being with YOU, YOU will have EVERYTHING YOU desire. Nicely done!

purebliss · « **Reply #2 on:** December 08, 2010, 01:23:29 AM »

Thanks Schenderson22!! This really made me smile :-)

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #3 on:** December 08, 2010, 01:35:27 AM »

My pleasure!

57angel · « **Reply #4 on:** December 08, 2010, 02:21:30 PM »

Wow, excellently done Purebliss! You are full of self love, that is your most precious gift to yourself. As you are very much ready to receive, more and more amazing things will just flow into your life, be ready then to give the biggest of your smiles

jaanu · « **Reply #5 on:** December 08, 2010, 06:01:07 PM »

Hi Purebliss, Can you elaborate on how you attracted your ex-back ? Love and light to you

Bebe · « **Reply #6 on:** December 08, 2010, 06:31:39 PM »

Yes I'm very interested to see what happens
Keep us posted Purebliss
& it's great to know you're feeling so good

purebliss · « **Reply #7 on:** December 08, 2010, 07:20:07 PM »

Thanks guys!! Well here was my cycle: After the breakup I went into desperate mode begging, crying, etc. Then I remembered all I had learned about my spiritual self, self love, etc. and I stopped begging, but I was still there for him when he called. Then he started to want to see me more so we did that for a while and I felt myself becoming more and more attached so I just ended it. I realized that if he wanted me back (in a relationship) he would let me know regardless if I were around a lot or not. I was so afraid to let go, so afraid to lose him that I felt like I had to keep the spark somehow. The truth is absence does make the heart grow fonder especially if the person who was dumped is making advances to improve themselves. I just read that people are attracted to our high selves and it's so true! It doesn't matter if I let go he'll come right back :-)

But I let go this time to truly work on myself and forget about him. *update* He called last night telling me he just can't let go and wants to find a way to work through this. I am not overly exciting, I am grateful and I know that I manifested this, but I have a small guard up to protect myself. If he really wants this he'll have to show me. I'm not sure when I'll be ready. Crazy isn't it!

jaanu · « **Reply #8 on:** December 08, 2010, 07:43:21 PM »

Interesting Purebliss

Much love and abundance to you

Detached&Allowing · « **Reply #9 on:** December 09, 2010, 01:55:11 AM »

That IS how it works. The more we try to hold on, the quicker they slip away. As soon as you let go and start to focus on your "higher self", they come back. It's amazing!

Berylac · « **Reply #10 on:** December 09, 2010, 05:20:21 AM »

Hi,

You will always find one better qualities than him. It's just a matter if you want it or not. And you have aided by the Law of Sacrifice. Sacrifice things that are lower to get some better.

I am sure you will find a better one =)

Regards,
Berylac

purebliss · « **Reply #11 on:** December 10, 2010, 08:53:05 AM »

Thanks everyone :-) I really do feel that when we let go (truly let go), they come back. For the past few days he has been calling me A LOT, he seems kinda afraid to lose me. We are talking about the break up and flirting a lot. I know that I still love and care for him, but I am not eager or excited. I am grateful however I am not letting this distract me from my goal of letting go and feeling complete with my self. That I don't need anyone to feel complete. I have had an energy shift the focus is now on me.

Vicki Christina · « **Reply #12 on:** December 10, 2010, 09:55:49 AM »

Good work, Purebliss; keep the focus on you!

loveofabundance · « **Reply #13 on:** December 13, 2010, 01:52:51 AM »

@Purebliss, First of all, your positive energy is appreciated! I'm really happy for you to be feeling so happy and confidant. It seems as if he is already starting to make a positive turn around. Just follow your instincts and everything will work out!

For me, the hardest part of letting go this time around, has been remembering my past experiences. Each time I let go, I got over the guy completely, to the point that I didn't want him when he came back. I'd done just fine without him. Remebering this has helped me in the past to let go. This time, I've been so attached to the guy because I love him and I didn't want to close the door forever.

One thing that has helped me with this decision is that the only other time that I spent a lot of time communicating with a guy's Higher Self in order to create a relationship in the physical world I ended up ending the relationship because I felt very unappreciated. I wasn't dating the guy when I started the meditations. He knew me but he was interested in other girls and he saw me as an option. I put forth so much mental energy to get him that it became necessary for my health to let go completely. Once I got over him, he came around and we were in a committed relationship for six years. Unfortunately, he still didn't appreciate me and I was miserable. Once I ended the relationship, he did attempt to show me appreciation for the first time since I'd known him but I had moved on happily.

Anyway, the current guy simply does not appreciate me at all. So, I'm letting him go. Truly, letting go like before which means moving on completely. I will not put forth any more energy toward this manifestation. I accept a life without him as being in my best interest. This is an unknown experience for me because I do love him. With the others, I just liked them, so it was easier to let go. But, I'm sure I'll be fine.

This is not meant as discouragement for those seeking a reunion with their ex. It happens all the time and I do believe in the ability to manifest any and all desires. Some things require more energy because we simply have more resistance regarding that subject.

Sweet Spirit · « **Reply #14 on:** December 14, 2010, 09:51:51 AM »

Oh My Goodness!

The same thing is happening to me!
Ken broke things off again last week and this time I am not sad but happy! I never thought that I would be this happy this close to Christmas (not having him with me,) but I have found joy in doing things with my grandson and son. I know Ken will be back, I mean he has already contacted me since then.He said he wanted to come see me but I told him there was no need to do that. But you know what? I am going to make myself better not for him but for me! I am going to do those things he was pushing me to do but I am doing them for ME (and my family!)

Hopefully this time he will realize that I am not eager to have him back and he will do things to make our relationship a better one (He said the separation was only temporary.) Why should I take him back after I have gotten my life where it needs to be? He abandoned me in my tough times when I supported him in his difficult times. Its like the little red hen. No one wanted to help her make the bread but they all wanted to eat the bread after she went to the trouble of making it by herself. I won't work hard by myself and let him join in when the hard part is done.

I have no doubt that he will want to resume our "friends with benefits" when I am through my hard times. If he truly loves me he will commit to me and he will stop trying to punish me like a child for not doing things the way he thinks they should be done by breaking up with me.

I let him go. Now I am sure he will either change or I will be happy without him. Hell, I am ALREADY happy without him. Now it is time to start receiving great things! Oh how I love letting go!!!!