Author Topic: He called (Read 2149 times)

eckzotiq · « **on:** November 07, 2010, 08:47:03 PM »

So yesterday I ended up having a breakdown and sent my ex a text message saying that I missed him and such... I was so sure that he wouldn't reply back because the last time I sent him a text he didn't. But today... I was just on my computer being lonely and emo when suddenly my phone rang... and on the cover his number popped up. I couldn't believe it. I didn't pick it up for a while because I thought I was hallucinating. But it really was him. Calling.

We talked about light stuff. Like how he was doing in school, his family... his girlfriend...
I asked him if he was doing good with her and he said yes. Then he asked if I had a new boyfriend.
Of course I said no. He told me that he still has all the gifts I'd given him and didn't throw anything away... and he practically told me that he goes on my homepage often.
I made sure I didn't tell him that I still loved him and such because I didn't want to drive him away again... I also spoke in a calm tone but I'm sure he heard my voice choking up in the last few minutes.

I should be celebrating right? But I'm instead even more heartbroken.
I was so sure he wouldn't reply but he called. The person that said that he would never talk to me again called me... But I'm in a bigger hole than I was in before.
I ended up crying again...

Was he able to call because he really got over me? or is there something else?

Vicki Christina · « **Reply #1 on:** November 07, 2010, 09:46:01 PM »

He probably called because your text touched his spirit. He still has a place for you in his heart. Keep sending loving thoughts, but concentrate on keeping you vibration up and the power within you energized. Hug!

lise · « **Reply #2 on:** November 07, 2010, 10:37:55 PM »

It's hard because you want contact and then you want. the call gave you a taste of what you want and it's difficult. Howver - it is good that he contacted you and it's good that you held it together on the on the phone. Just try to see it as a positive move in the right direction, a taste of things to come. try to be grateful and be happy. More will follow.

eckzotiq · « **Reply #3 on:** November 08, 2010, 05:48:01 AM »

Thank you guys for your replies!
But I don't know why I'm feeling more depressed after he called...
I wanna ask him why he did it but would that just push him away even more?

Iron Ur · « **Reply #4 on:** November 08, 2010, 07:19:34 AM »

only you can give yourself the real answer.

I know that sounds odd but it's true. deep down you know the real answer, but your often afraid of it because

A. you don't want to set yourself up for disapointment
B. your afraid of what you might find out.

I'll by honest with you, I think that what happened here was acually a form of releasing, and by that I mean. you most likely were so detatched from his response, that you simply texted him that message, and accepted wether he would or wouldn't respond.

also, you just attracted him in the reality, good job!

I know your feelign depressed, but don't fight it, feel it. don't get caught up in to, let it out and let it go.

accept the moment as it is, for whatever reason, your getting what you deisre. when you feel you've gotten cleaned out, be greatful and happy that he was thinking of you.

loveofabundance · « **Reply #5 on:** November 08, 2010, 08:05:40 AM »

The fact that he reached out to communicate with you is huge! These things take baby steps because emotions are involved. Be grateful that he called rather than focusing on things not going exactly as you woud've liked. This is a first step!

stevelewis · « **Reply #6 on:** November 08, 2010, 02:56:03 PM »

The fact you asked about his GF was a great step actually. I don't really wanna know about Z and her BF, so being able to ask was very very good. Of course you're happy, but he called, and that's amazing. I know exactly where you are, currently being there, and not sure what next step to take, but asking that was huge!

Well done for keeping strong on the phone, if you are feeling crap don't let on to him (not just yet anyways, make sure your stronger and stronger!)

Well done, and keep the positivity!

Steve x

eckzotiq · « **Reply #7 on:** November 08, 2010, 11:18:08 PM »

UPDATE

So today I talked to him again.. and it really seems like my hard work paid off.
I asked him if he missed me and he said that he did.
Also he said that he's going to break up with his gf soon because he thought that his relationship with her would let him get over me but... it isn't.
He said that he couldn't get over me.

We didn't say anything about getting back together or anything like that and I told him that I wasn't going to contact anymore again. But I did say that if he ever wants to talk to me that he shouldn't hesitate in doing so. And he said okay. A while ago he wouldve been like "I'm never going to call you" but he actually agreed!

I'm so dumbfounded right now...
All I need to do now is wait. =))
People seriously just let go! That is exactly what I did!
I was going out partying meeting new people and enjoying life and completely had him out of my life!! I was so detached from the outcome that I wasn't even sure if I wanted him back.
Letting go is the biggest step in getting you love back! Just believe!!

Mergirl · « **Reply #8 on:** November 08, 2010, 11:36:24 PM »

OMU E, That is such good news. That he is breaking up with her!!! That's what I want to hear in my situation. For now I would just be happy that he is not with anyone. I find that will make it much easier to use LOA to bring him back to you. I mean that when the other person is seeing someone it just feels much harder to believe that they will return but if they are single idk why but seems much easier to believe you have a chance.

Just be happy now and don't become impatient and desperate. And now should be much easier for you to concentrate on yourself and be the best possible person for him to want to return to you. Aw I am so happy and jealous for you. I want this to happen to me. I am sure there is a lot of people here who would want to be where you are at with your bf.

Good Luck.

Inge · « **Reply #9 on:** November 08, 2010, 11:36:36 PM »

Woooooooow eckzotiq!!!

I am completely blown away here.... this is really really great. Congrats to this huge step!
I read this post from the start, and felt your pain, because I soooo recognize it.
And reading your post now, really gives me new hope and strength!
Thank you, and please keep us updated!

loveofabundance · « **Reply #10 on:** November 09, 2010, 03:06:26 AM »

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is great news!

Well done!!!!!

Iron Ur · « **Reply #11 on:** November 09, 2010, 03:15:46 AM »

ironically, in every get your ex back book I've read. they mention abount being in the "moving on phase"

this is acually a form a strong detachtment, in which you no longer are focus on the outcome or the result.

my teacher told me "be willing to not have them"

lise · « **Reply #12 on:** November 09, 2010, 03:32:23 AM »

That's fantastic. so happy for you. You must be absolutely buzzing. It's all moving in the right direction. so good to hear good news.

MinDiddy · « **Reply #13 on:** November 09, 2010, 09:15:45 AM »

Congratulations! That is wonderful news! Patience and faith are extremely important and reading what you have said here helps me so much.. I was at a low point today and I'm feeling better reading your story!

Thank you!

Mergirl · « **Reply #14 on:** November 09, 2010, 09:36:39 AM »

All day I was thinking how lucky E is for "getting her man back". Well I mean that she is contact with him and I kept thinking it could be me next. I could be here one day writing about Peter contacting me and it made me feel excited and raised my vibes. Reading others success or progress gives much hope to me.